(Closed) Tipping @ the Church – HELP

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Omgosh that crazy money! I heard that its the best man’s job to tip the church

Post # 5
145 posts
Blushing bee

First of all, I think that its a crazy amount to pay for a church. But unfortunately, you knew the price when you booked it, so I do think that you still need to tip. Would you have tipped if the church had cost 100?? So I think that the rule of tipping still applies whatever the amount you agree to. However, it is your choice as to how much to tip. Hope that helps.


p.s. I heard that it is the best man’s job to pass along the tip to the church, but I believe it is still the bride/groom’s job to tip.

Post # 7
145 posts
Blushing bee

is there anyway to back out? You can always say that your price agreement is for the church at another location, since they changed the location on you, the price should also change, and for them to change yet again, that’s not right. There must be another one that is more reasonable both in price and in how they treat you.

Post # 9
2889 posts
Sugar bee

I actually did not know tipping was necessary for the church. My church has yet to give me a fee. The priest asked that we establish ourselves as parishioners and donate to the collection but has not mentioned fees and I didn’T know how to broach the topic.

Personally, in your situation, I would not tip the church. I would consider tipping the organist if he/does a good job as a tank you but that’s about it.

Post # 10
1696 posts
Bumble bee

You don’t tip institutions anyway: tips are for individuals to recognize personal service. And, properly speaking, you don’t tip professionals or the proprietors of businses either — since they are responsible for setting their own fees you can expect that they are charging a fair rate and you wouldn’t want to imply either that they are incompetent at that aspect of their business, or that they are a mere employee.

You could — but only if you actually do receive valuable *personal* service — tip the minister, the coordinator, or the organist as *individuals*. But I’d do that after I found out what kind of service they provide.

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