Tipping Vendors on Wedding Day?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1500 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@kat912:  If your coordinator went above and beyond, you should tip her. I didn’t follow any tipping etiquette, I tipped anyone who thought did an amazing job so even though my photog and florist owned their own businesses, I tipped them. I gave cash in envelopes to my DOC to hand out at the end of the day. For the vendors we couldn’t catch, I sent Amazon gift cards or other gift cards afterwards.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@kat912:  I will tip the hair dressers and make-up artist…that I know. I am not planning to tip my photog or florist, because we are paying them to do what they promised (and paying them quite well, in my opinion).  And, we are feeding our photographer, which to me, is an added bonus.  I asked the DJ company if they would want to eat that evening, and they said that honestly because they will be playing music thru dinner, they would prefer just cash tips RATHER than the plated meal. We are tipping each $50 (at most) for their services that evening.

So, to answer your question…not really tipping at all 🙂

Post # 6
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Helper bee

I have to admit, I like to think that generally I am a good tipper, but it did not even OCCUR to me that I would tip anyone other than my hair stylist and make up artist for my wedding! I guess I assumed when you’re paying premium rates on contract it negates the necessity for a tip?

I am kind of choking on the idea of tipping my photographer above and beyond his rate? Same with DJ.  I can maybe stomach the limo driver….

Is this a geographical thing? I’m getting married in the Canadian rockies?

Post # 7
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232 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We had our day-of coordinator hand out the tips, which we put in sealed/labeled envelopes for her.  We also had a coordinator for our venue, and we tipped her as well, plus we gave her the tips to distribute to the banquet captain, waiters, and bartenders.  I don’t think tipping the venue coordinator is required, but ours did a great job for us so we were happy to acknowledge that.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@kat912:  Someone suggested to me to choose someone responsible outside of the bridal party to hand out the tips. For example, my step-mom’s son (so my step-brother but we are not really close at all. Our parents got together when we were in our 20s and we live nowhere close to each other. We prob see one another 1 time a year) or my sister’s boyfriend may be the one’s we choose. That way, if bridal party is getting super drunk or are busy with pictures and such – there is someone else responsible to hand out the tips and catch vendors. I’ve also seen it done where the best man takes responsibility. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Caddyshack:  I did it because I used to be in the wedding industry and to be honest, most of these vendors don’t make a lot of money! I tipped only because I was very happy with what they did and I thought they deserved it. I wouldn’t feel the pressure to tip if you can’t afford it. Most vendors really appreciate a great online review because it stays online forever and can get them more clients!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’m only tipping our venue coordinator (because we are contractually obligated to), our photog (because he is a friend AND a professional), and that’s it. The tips for the venue are included in our costs (and the servers all apparently get paid very well with full benefits)
I will send a gift to our officiant, but honestly everyone owns their own business and should set their prices appropriately to make a profit.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think I will only give tips to my MUA as few of my MUA told me the wedding photography company take a deep cut on their hourly wage.  They may charge me $100+ but really, the MUA probably only making $20-$50 the max per job

 

 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I have never been a good tipper and I am unsure if anyone will get a tip that day. I legally cannot leave a tip for the venue staff as they are city employees (or any kind of gift) who are the only people who I feel need to be tipped in addition to what they are getting, on that note the officant can’t take anything either! 

I will have FI keep some envelopes and cash in his jacket pocket if I find that the caterer (or her staff) goes above and beyond to help out, they already have about a $100 gratuity worked into their bill so I won’t feel bad to not give anything for regular service. 

The photographer won’t receive a tip until I have the pictures in my hand, if they are good then she’ll get her tip – if I find them average at best she gets only what I paid her.

Looking at what they charge I would assume they add a little extra on as their “tip” anyways!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

This is a great thread to reference. I’ll likely tip my hair stylist, photog and DJ, but that’s about it. My sis (also my MOH) is doing my make-up, so I’ll be getting her a little something extra to go with her bridal party gift.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I plan on tipping my H&M, and that’s about it. I am feeding all my vendors and that’s about $50/plate for the vendor meal. My florist is not being fed, but she owns her business and i’m paying about $3k in flowes.

After reading this I might get a few $50 bills and keep them on had to tip the wiat staff and the bartender.

 

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