Post # 1
What are you all planning to do??????
Our officiant works for himself (not with a church) and charges $500….do we still tip?
DJ…it’s his own company. Do you still tip?
Who else would be tip?
Post # 3
someone asked this question yesterday and a poster pointed them to this page on the knot that gives a pretty good overview:
Post # 4
I am having my ceremony and reception att a country club and they already charge a 20% service fee…………after reading that article- am I still supposed to tip everyone? Grrrr………….weddings are expensive!!!
Post # 5
@Lolasmomma: I’d review your catering contract – ours stipulates that no tipping is needed, that’s what the service fee covers.
As for other tips, I’m only planning to get a little extra gift for my DOC if she does a really good job. She’s just starting out with her own company so I got a great deal for her services. Probably a gift card to a local restaurant or something, plus a great recommendation.
Post # 6
‘tip’ is a very interesting. Flat out…. I don’t get it.
I was born and raised in part of the earth where ‘tip’ doesn’t exist. Although I am very Americanized, I still don’t get the culture of ‘tipping’.
The person in ‘sale’ sets a price that believes to be worth his/her work/service. The customer pays for the ‘service/product’ and still need to tip on top of the price…. for what? I just gave the person business.
One of the morning TV show host stated that, the tip is mandatory because they only earn minimum wage (ex was a maids at the hotels). Ummmmm… No one told them to get into that business and how come we don’t tip people who clean up the public restrooms( ex. airports and museum parks). In addition, for the record a survey showed, leaving a tip doesn’t make the maid to clean harder or cleaner. They will use THE RAG that they just cleaned the floor to wipe off your glass cups, sometimes even worse… toilet to sink.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I do tip for what they are worth. However, no one tips for me. I work in healthcare in hospital setting and trust me YOU NAME IT, I’VE DONE IT. I have been done things more than filling empty cups, bring out food, cut hairs, cleaning rooms, opening doors, etc.
I guess I just want to hear explanations and origin of tipping vs. just because.
To answer SLS79: If there is a service charge added, there should be none.
Post # 7
I also don’t understand tipping. Sure I do it, but why are we “forced” to tip people for doing their job? I’m paying my DJ $1200…why should I pay him more for doing his job? I’m already paying him a small fortune.
Just a rant…
Post # 8
Exactly, I second that rant!!! – Here’s how ours works. Because some are the “owner” of the business, I’ve heard that it’s not necessary to tip. But I don’t want to be the cheap-o that doesn’t if it’s really “expected”….
DJ – ~$950 (owner of company – most DJ’s in this area charge $600 or so)
Photog – ~$4000 (owner)
Florist – Owner
Officiant – $500 (not affiliated with a church. has a business w/ a partner doing weddings, etc.)
Quartet – $600 for ceremony only
I’m clueless on who / what to tip. Reading the Knot link above, it really would be a small fortune if you get everyone on their list!
Post # 9
Hrrm…reviving this thread. I don’t understand why you would have to pay 15%-20% tip to owners of their own business. They set their own prices and should be charging what they believe is a fair price for their service. And additional 15% on top of a couple hundred dollars seems ridiculous. Maybe I’m cheap, but I gave DJ/MUA/Photog an extra $20 bucks for tip. That’s it.
Post # 10
I think the link above lays out the tipping guidlines quite well. We tipped all of our vendors, with some getting more than others due to the amount of work they put in beforehand and how much we enjoyed working with them.
Typically one doesn’t tip based on % of total cost for most wedding vendors, i.e. – DJ, Photographer, Videographer, etc. If that were the case, Darling Husband and I would have been out a lot more $$! We gave between $50 and $150 for most vendors (our DOC was the exception – she went way above and beyond, so we gave her $250), and then around $25 for each server. Hope this helps.