Post # 1
So, the big day (or should I say days, because I’m having 5 events) is four months out. And even though I think I’m ahead of the game re: wedding planning, I’m starting to feel the stress creeping up. The good news — here’s what we already have finalized: venue, caterer, dj, photographer, videographer (almost), my makeup/hair artist, officiant.
I would LOVE to be a zen bride on my wedding day/around the wedding time. You know, a smiling, uber-relaxed, glowing kind of bride.
Any advice on how to become her? 🙂
I think I’m feeling the pressure of juggling a full-time demanding job (and recent work changes), wedding planning and a chronic health condition.
Post # 3
A good friend (or a professional) that knows your vision and is going to execute it for you on the day of (a DOC)
Your decor etc labeled in boxes that are pre packed and a key to tell whoever is setting up what they can find in which box
The Packet – which I stole from a blogger bee, and many have used it. You can find the packet here:
Email the packet to all involved so that they know where to be and when
Pack two bags if you are going out of town. One for day of items, one for the rest of your clothes/outfits for events.
You need another good friend who will be with you on the day of to answer your phone and any texts. You will be FAR FAR less stressed the day of if you have NO idea what people are texting or calling about. My MOH handled everything for me and I just sat around sipping mims.
To remind yourself that it’s just one day and whatever happens will happen, and the most important thing is having fun and marrying the person you are going to spend your life with!
Post # 4
@36goldfish: Let go of expectations.
Post # 5
I am beginning to feel the stress creep in as well! I’ve made a very specific timeline for myself (different that the ones you find in magazines & such). My timeline has us totally finished with wedding decisions, crafts, purchases, etc. 6 weeks before the wedding. That gives me at least a month to relax AND take care of last minute things that pop up. So far, keeping to my list and staying on top of things has helped tremendously in keeping me calm.
Sounds like you are doing a great job checking things off your list! Just keep moving and it’ll help you focus on productive decisions and not stress.
Post # 6
Great suggestions — thanks, bees!
Post # 7
Something will go wrong. Something will not go according to plan. You have to admit that now. That’s something they tell musicians to let go of for concerts (particularly classical musicians who are expected to give a flawless performance), and something you have to admit for your wedding day. Once you accept that, and something doesn’t go according to plan (like my florist putting the $100 worth of extra rose petals on the wrong aisle in the park), you’ll feel much more relaxed, and you won’t freak out when something doesn’t go right (as long as you believe it). That helped me get through the day. And, joking with my brother.
Post # 8
@36goldfish: My tip – plan plan plan ahead of time. Make a clear schedule for everyone. Get all your expectations in writing with your vendors. Then the night before you must let go and accept everything as it comes.
A lot of things went wrong on my wedding day but what could I do? I tried to just smile and roll with the punches. This was my wedding motto –
Of course some things did bother me but for the most part I put them out of my mind until the next day. Then DH and I just laughed about it all
Post # 9
@36goldfish: I am that bride… I think. My wedding is in 44 days away and I am totally cool! I know that I have planned a good wedding and evrything will be perfect… you know why? Cause at the end of the day I am marrying the love of my life 🙂
I took all the stress out by communicating with people. So what if I am annoying? I need to know exactly what the vendors thoughts are and if they match mine.
Ask lots of questions, write down questions on a piece of paper or e small note book whenever they pop up.
I also made a wedding binder too where I am keeping track of everything.
Post # 10
You guys are awesome — thanks so much for taking the time to respond to my post with your suggestions.
Post # 11
@MsJ2theZ: The Packet is such a good idea! GENIOUS really. My wedding is tiny but 99.9% are out of town and I want them to have info at their disposal. This would be even more helpful for other ladies I’m sure, thank you! :]
Post # 12
I have started getting monthly massages and just bought a Living Social deal for yoga. I think those combined with help keep me on this side of the bridezilla line.
Post # 14
Your wedding day will be what it is and any expectations you put on yourself are not beneficial. You are on a great track and it will be great!
You could also start saying to yourself, “I can’t wait until I’m a zen bride”. You will me amazed when you realize you ARE her.
Post # 15
@sapphire–stars: I edited it to my liking of course as I’m sure many bees have but it was really helpful because people weren’t calling me constantly asking where to be and when!