- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
So… My wedding has come and gone and I’ve learned a lot from it. Wish I would have listened to the bees in the planning process but none the less what’s done is done and we had a wonderful wedding. So, I thought I’d share my advice on wedding planning and the big day for all bride to bees 🙂 from my own experience. And for those bees who have already had their wedding, if you would like to share as well that would be great 🙂
1. The photographer IS worth it! I know I know, budget weddings and photographers are so expensive. But if you splurge on nothing else, go with a good photographer. My number one advice. Even if you have to get married in front of a trash can, a good photographer can make that look beautiful. Of course don’t go and get married in front of a trash can if you can help it but photographer is important. I didn’t think so, thought anyone could take the pics so I left my mom to find a photographer. I hate all the photos of me (which could be in relation to the weight gain) we have not one pic of my husband myself and our daughter together on the wedding day,, the one picture I wanted was of my husband when I came out and that didn’t happen. Just a huge mess with the photos that makes me want to cry. You can always renew your vows but there will never be another first wedding first time he sees you in the white dress etc, getting a photographer to capture the moments and all its beauty is very important if you want to look back and remember it the way you saw it the day of.
2. Don’t sweat the small stuff… I know I know easier said than done but really, there will be problems, there will be confusion and there will be some hiccups. Keep your eye on the prize, you’re getting married!
3. Pick a reliable wedding party. Even if you have to only have 1 or 2 bridesmaids, it’s better to have 1 or 2 great BMs than a group of women who don’t really care and will eventually stir up trouble.
4. Remember to pee before putting on the dress. Seriously. The need to pee hit me like a truck seconds before it was my time to walk down the aisle and I never had the chance to use the bathroom until after the wedding and reception. Make time to pee before you put your dress on. Makes life easier during the wedding.
5. Eat before the wedding, not only do you have little time during the reception to eat, chances are you will be all over the place and so busy you wont have much of an appetite until later on after the festivities, be sure to eat something to hold you over.
6. Be considerate of your guests and try to cut the ceremony down to 30 minutes MAX, keep the first dance song short etc. Remember the guests and be courteous of them.
7. Keep your eye on your future husband when you walk down the aisle. Nothing else. It makes it a lot easier to walk in front of all of those people and you truly can see his love when he sees you walk out, it’s written all over his face. He’s the reason you are there.
8. If you are having kids, do NOT have a kids table unless there is someone to look over the table. Sure if they are pre teens or something but ages 2-like 10 it’s very difficult to keep them seated and the parents will be so busy they wont be watching the kids much and the kids will be everywhere. Keep kids with their parents or stick a teen or adult at the kids table to keep it under control.
9. Have everything ready the night before the wedding at least, your makeup shoes and accessories all with your dress so you’re not running around the morning of your wedding looking for everything and sending people back to your house countless times to get things you forgot.
10. Checklists. Make your own checklist of things you don’t want to forget and go over it before you leave your house, everything will be crazy and it’s easy to forget a lot the day of.
11. Don’t forget deoderant! You will no doubt sweat in a large dress dancing, nervous and all. I had to go with extra strength lol.
12. For budget brides, I know it sounds like a good idea to have a friend cater or something along those lines but be sure they are reliable! Be sure you can trust them 100% because if they are doing it for super cheap or free they will be more tempted to flake out. Be wary of this and be sure you can really trust them!
13. Dont sweat the small stuff. I know I already said this but this is the most important thing, seriously. No matter how many hiccups it will be a beautiful day and you are getting married. Remember that!
I’m sure I’m forgetting a lot so if any already married bees have anything to add please do!