(Closed) Tips for brides to be on your wedding day. Already married bees add your 2cents!

posted 4 years ago in Recaps
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

– hold your bouquet LOW, not at waist level (looks better in pictures)

– don’t buy into the pressure that the wedding day has to be “the best/happiest/most important, etc., day of your life.” After all, no marriage should peak on Day One. Aim for a wonderful, happy day, but look forward to even better, happier days in the future as you and your partner build your marriage together.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

10 days to go…commenting to follow! 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@kris325:  +1000000 for #12!  I’m not married yet, but when my mom got remarried a few years ago she had a friend all set to do her catering and they flaked 10 days before the wedding.  It was a desperate last minute scramble to find a caterer and more stress than you can imagine!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

 

I was just married recently and am so extremely lucky that the day went as well as it did, despite a few massive potential hiccups that were largely glossed over. 

 

Choose Your Wedding Party Wisely.  I insisted on only having those three girls who were closest to me, and always have been, rather than matching my DH request for 4-5. I’m so glad. The girls were few problems and soooo helpful on my wedding day. They were simply amazing and became fiends, now regularly Facebooking each other and looking to hang out despite never having met before (living states away). 

Practice, Practice, Practice Bustling that Dress. By the time the ceremony is done, the formal family portraits taken anyone with a train wants it up, and the freedom to walk with ease. Plus – who doesn’t want to go hang out and dance with their guests. Have someone who has practiced bustling your gown more than one. 

Eat DURING the wedding. Yes, you heard me. Everyone else tells the bride to eat before hand. That’s great, eat at 2 p.m., then starve through ceremony-reception until late that night? Hell, no. Haven’t you heard of hangry.  
My DH and I visited tables and danced our way through the 1st course and salad course. However, for our entrees we sat down and ate. We had a sweetheart table, so it was probably easier, but we sat down and ate our dinner with everyone else and it was one of he best times. We have a few minutes “alone” while being in public eye and to talk about the day so far. We  sat back with a glass of wine in hand to take in the scene  and what had happened. It helped me remember so much and live in the moment. 

this brings me to..

DO Your Table Rounds early. My DH and I didn’t do a receiving line and elected to go around to the tables. We started after the second song, as most people weren’t dancing yet – still getting into the swing of things. By the 1st course we did half the tables, by second course, the other half of the tables spending time chatting with each person – particularly those we didn’t see at cockail hour or earlier in the day. We got it out of the way within the first 45 minutes of the reception. 

Designate someone else to hand out tips. I was the bride who thought I could do everything. We lost our best man last minute (Thanks military!) so I had all the envelopes for vendor tips. Suffice to say, they were handed out very last minute and kind of in a rush. Give your tips to a bridal party member to hand out so you avoid my embarrassment. 

Have Comfy Shoes.  This seems like a no-brainer but no matter how comfortable your heels are or your plans to keep them on all night long, bring comfy shoes. I did, and used them as soon as possible despite my earlier refusals. Saved my feet and kept me dancing. 

 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Expect something to go wrong- something inevitably will. But then get over it. You are one only person who will know. It makes it easier to adapt and go with te flow you’re not stuck on what isn’t perfect.

My weddig was perfect. Did things go wrong? Absolutely. Did they matter? No way.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@kris325:  I agree with all your advice. Don’t blame yourself for the way your photos turned out. I’ve seen your photos on your other post and YOU are beautiful. Even though I definitely think your photographer dropped the ball and a better photographer could have taken better photos, you still looked gorgeous in all your photos.

The things I think are most important:

-Make a checklist of everything you need to bring with you to the ceremony so you don’t forget something in the last minute confusion. 

-Try your best to get some decent sleep the night before so you can truly enjoy the day

-YES, invest in a good photographer! The photos matter a lot more than most of the other little details. 

-Nobody will notice your shoes unless you make a point of showing them off, so wear comfortable ones!

-I would recommend doing a First Look before the ceremony. I didn’t expect to become as emotional as I did when I saw my husband after I was all dressed up, and I’m glad that I had a few mnutes to compose myself before the ceremony (even though I still cried a bit even then and the priest was very kind in discreetly handing me some tissues 🙂 ). We really cherish the video we had of our first look. By the time I walked down the aisle, I was too nervous to be focusing on my groom’s face.

 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Commenting to follow but also want to add from experience of being part of a wedding.

Make sure you have rides all figured out and that everyone is on the same page. People will be running back and forth and most likely need their cars (depending on how DIY you are) to run things to the venue, pick up last minute supplies. Obviously most brides are probably taken back and forth due to the whole dress issue so make sure someone is designated and devoted to doing this for you.

Tell the groomsmen they have to pick up their suits. It was, literally, 3 hours before the ceremony and in the middle of their first look photos when the groom told the bride that one of the groomsman didn’t have their suit, at a store nearly 2 hours away. He had just assumed all he had to do was show up and the groom would have picked it up!! Luckily someone in the groom’s family was passing through that town on the way to the wedding and picked it up.

Do everything ahead of time and don’t feel bad about delegating tasks. I’m a perfectionist so this would be the hardest for me. I feel like if I don’t do it myself then it won’t get done just perfect and to my liking but I saw how stressed out the bride (who is exactly like me in this respect) was and realized that it’s not worth the stress.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My best advice for the day of is to RELAX!! I thankfully had a lot of time to relax on the day of and I think it helped calm my nerves. Don’t get me wrong there were still plenty of things to do and I was running around quite a bit, but every now and again i took a few minutes to just sit down, relax and take everything in!!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

This is great advice!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

Don’t sweat the small stuff became my motto at the end of my preparation.  I figured if there was something I was stressing about I just had to wonder if the guests would miss it if it wasn’t there.  We ended up not having programmes or a table plan, and the 50 menus that I printed are still lying in the bag that I took them to my parents house in! Our day was amazing and even I didn’t miss the stuff I had been starting to stress about.

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

1. Make sure to comfirm all vendors the week before the wedding. Including their arrival time, where they need to be etc.

2. Have comfortable shoes for dancing…but remember to change to the cute shoes before the buquet/garter toss time.

3. Make sure your DJ has worked in your venue so he is familiar with the sound his speakers will make in the venue.

4. Have the Caterer make a small apetizer platter for you and the bridal party.

5. Have the Caterer pack a piece of cake for both of you to share at the hotel after the reception – you will want cake, believe me.

6. Have a day of coordinator if you can afford it.

7. If you are going to have a picture show, have the DJ put the music to it.  If you have two sound systems the feedback might mess with the presentation.

8. Ask your new husband to go to each table with you during your round tables.  You do not want to do this separately because you will lose track of who got to say hi to who.  Plus pleople will keep asking: where is your husband/bride and you’ll be like: I don’t know…over there at those tables.

9. Get a patient, nice and organized made of honor.

10. Ask people to be at their places 30 min -45 min before they are supposed to be there- to prevent those late arrivals of key people.

oh boy, I guess I should stop now… 😉

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We did a sweetheart table, and I’m SO glad we did! It’s so awkward when your wedding party has dates and can’t sit with them, and it is so much easier to talk with each other at the table when its only the two of you. I strongly advise all of our engaged friends to go that route!!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

OMG I agree with all of PP comments!!!  We didn’t have everything together the day before because I was the ONLY ONE getting everything together and I was already a nervous wreck not to mention I was starting my cycle and didn’t even know it!!!

I had a wedding planner.. WASTE OF MONEY. She did not deliver what I wanted. I wanted a coral, peach and blush spring wedding and I had a white wedding. I wanted different flavored cupcakes with a cheesecake at the top for DH and I to cut into because we don’t eat cake and they ONLY cake we both eat is cheesecake and guess what? Cupcakes AND cake at the top was vanilla.. I ABSOLUTELY HATE vanilla. The grooms cake looked good but once again… vanilla 🙁 we didn’t eat any cake.

 

I was a budget bride and finding a photographer under 1-2K was nearly impossible. That was my hardest vendor to find. My wedding planner (why stop the screw ups she’s made?) hired a photographer last minute and she DID NOT get any pics of me and my mother, or my parents and me together or of me and my DH and our parents together… I mean these are BASIC pics I DID ASK for!! Oh and the worst.. no pics of us and OUR KIDS!!!!!!!! WAIT, you haven’t heard the half. After the wedding she asked me to pic FOUR POSES from my wedding day… WTF??

ALTERATIONS couldn’t be more important than now. BUDGET for this!!! Even if the dress is an inch off and you think you can gain weight and fit it on your wedding day, get alterations anyway!!!

Also the entertainment. You want a good DJ if you are having one. My DJ was completely off cue the WHOLE time. He played “We are family” for the recessional when I requested “Sweetest Love” by Robin Thicke. I continously had to speak with him about what songs to play and when to play it when I emailed him a list days before my wedding AND I had a wedding planner who was SUPPOSED to have been taking care of this, not me!!!

 

We ended the night with someone stealing all my money out of my purse, my veil missing and DH and I had to take my 3 BMs to my mother’s house which is over an hour drive because all our guests and everyone else ended up leaving TWO HOURS EARLY!!!

 

At the end of the day I was MRS. Y and I kept it together thru all the BS that angered me because in all the 5 years hubby and I have been together, I have NEVER seen him happier than he was that night.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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