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Ok so I got my period but still having trouble coming to terms that its "actually my period." So I guess its back to the drawing boards for me. I guess I am writing to get any bees advice on what worked for them. I know this sounds stupid but should you throw your legs over your head after sex? Not pee after sex? What are the things I'm "supposed" to know but dont. Thanks for your help!
Maybe you should schedule a pre-conception visit with your doc? She could probably give you lots of helpful tips not only about getting pregnant but about getting yourself in the healthiest state possible (vitamins and whatnot).
Did you try to take your panties off?
Lol. Sorry did not wnat to be rude, just first advise which comes to the head.
agree with @CorgiTales
I know that starting prenatal vitamins as soon as possible.. when you even start thinking about ttc is one thing.
And she should be able to give you more information...
I would think that upping your activity would be good too just from experience... being pregnant is not when you want to START walking daily or anything else that requires energy... better to start now so you're used to it
Getting healthy is a good start to getting pregnant and staying happy while pregnant ;)
Oh and congrats on starting to TTC =)
@imperiumdecor.. lol... not gonna lie OP when I first read the title I thought... do it?..
LOL
OH and OP.. and not getting up of course helps & you coming to orgasm before or with him REALLY helps... orgasm = uteruen contractions that actually help "pick up" the sperm so to speak =)
Get with you Dr so she can start your prenatal and relax and enjoy
@imperiumdecor Thanks for the advice! Yea we do it allll the time... we always have though I just was on the pill. And of coarse I have my "go to" positions when I want to make sure I O :)
But I have always kind of had problems with UTI's. This was in my condom stage of life and not so much right now. So I am pretty quick to go to the bathroom after out of paranoia. I might try to chill out on peeing right after.
@nonoame: I think everyone has very different doctors and medical plans. My doctor said absolutely nothing besides taking prenatals...
Here's what I can think of off the top of my head (all based on internet research):
Do it missionary style (unless you have a tilted uterus - then doggy-style is better)
Do it every 1-2 days during your high time of the month
Men shouldn't use hot tubs (or eat bananas that aren't organic)
Ok I don't have much. Check out the fertility foods thread too. That's something I was really interested in. But at the same time, I've tried everything and still no luck here...
My doc told me to wait to use the bathroom for, like, 45 minutes afterwords! I also had problems with UTIs in the past (with the extra bonus of getting yeast infections from the antibiotics). I mentioned this to her and she said I should use the bathroom right before and then push fluids while I'm letting the swimmers do their work, so I can use the bathroom frequently the rest of the day.
I'm willing to try it once (we won't start TTC for a few more months), but if I get a UTI/yeast infection I won't do it again. Having a UTI makes me want to die and being out of bedroom commission for 2+ weeks to clear everything up doesn't seem like the best way to get pregnant. Good luck!!
@Mrs Green Grass WOW there's a fertility food thread? THAT'S crazy... I'm going to see it now... I'm way interested in that.
I wanted to get pregnant so bad and after months of trying I would do this for like 5 minutes after every time we would have sex..
and that month I got pregnant.. hahaha.. we also had LOTS of sex though.
I definitely laid in bed, or the couch or wherever we happened to have just done it, for a good ten min or so after having sex. And yes I'm guilty of holding my legs up in the air like that picture! lol But we did get pregnant very quickly and who knows if that had anything to do with it! It could have!
I would also try using one of those ovulation predicter kits and have sex like crazy when it says your ovulating. Good luck!! 
I don't know what you have tried so far, or how long you have been trying, but reading the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility really helped us. I went off the pill (had been on it for 15+ years) and was pregnant with in 4 months of starting to chart. Every body is different, but I think that book is a really good start! Good luck!
@nonoame: The most important thing is timing. I second the reccommendation to read TCOYF. My infertility nurse says that lifting your legs doesn't really help, but I do it anyways!
You need to track your cycle and figure out when you are ovulating. There are only a couple days a month a woman can actually get pregnant, so if you're having sex 27 days out of a month, but not on any of those days, it won't do you any good.
@Mrs Green Grass: what's the banana thing? Never heard of this...
I just finished watching this and had to share. It's a British documentary on sperm and their battle towards conception. It's really interesting, and pretty amusing too!
The Great Sperm Race: http://youtu.be/gAnMymnJiLM
P.S. The vid had some tips!
I agree with @heathaah: . Timing is the key. I got pregnant 1yr after we started trying. I did all the pillows, positions that are supposedly for getting pregnant, etc. Nothing happened.
When did I get pregnant? When we had sex that one month we decided to prevent where I was on top when he came, went to the bathroom right after and then showered. All things that are supposed to hinder it.
I can say one thing, watch for EWCM. That's the key!
@Vitsippa: I LOVE that video! I watched it and was like, dang the sperm go through a lot, it's a wonder anyone ever gets pregnant.LOL
@lotam240: I think it's only in the bananas are NOT organic (due to the hormones and pesticides I believe).
That video is quite amusing!! I love the little sperm that was knitting while waiting!
Thanks guys!! All these are really helpful. I will def read up a little more and also get "busy" more :)
A lot of it has to do with knowing when you ovulate. Thanks to the advice of the other Bees, I read "Taking Charge of Your Fertility", and I was pregnant the first month!
@lotam240: Pesticides used in growing bananas have been linked to infertility. Many of the banana workers are infertile...not sure how much impact one banana could have, but it's one thing we're avoiding (not that DH eats that many to start with!)
Taking Control of Your Fertility. Just to repeat HOW AMAZING IT IS. It seriously changed my life. I recommend it to EVERYONE.
I am starting to know a lot of people who are trying to get pregnant but it's taking awhile. I really want my friends to ask me for advice but nobody has and don't want to offer it unsolicited. So I'm glad you asked!! Here's what I think- based on my two pregnancies that resulted each time we 'tried' during our fertility window. (One ended up being a miscarriage though.)
1. Orgasm-have one! (at or close to the same time if possible) I saw this pic once and your uterus swells or tilts a certain way to help carry the sperm along.
2. Pray as a couple, right before...and ask your friends to pray for you guys, in general if you are a 'believing' person.
3. Fertilityfriend.com-helped me track my windows and taught me how to look for cervical mucus
4. Don't have sex too much that month (or at all) unless it is your fertility window. Then do it EVERY OTHER DAY. My theory is saving it up, builds the trajectory! (We have UtI issues so we can't do it too often as we'd like and I peed right afterward each time so I don't know if that theory is really true.) But then...everyone has their theories.
@nonoame: Definitely track your cycle and find out when you are ovulating - then get busy all around that time! Sperm can live in your body for a few days, but you are only fertile for a day - basically you want the men in place when the lady is ready to go!
@Mrs Green Grass: Organic dairy farm girl here - it's not just bananas. There was some study a couple years ago about how farmers had more testicular cancer and fertility problems from all the close contact they have with pesticides etc. (many of which are very high in estrogen).
Getting organic fruits, veggies, dairy, and meat could be beneficial (and not just the fertility side). Beware that the USDA does not actually regulate labels like natural, hormone-free, free-range, etc. - so you are trusting that the source is being honest. Organic invoves inspections, certification, etc. Not saying someone selling something as natural is lying, it's just easier to say.
FYI - a man's swimmers take 3 months to develop - so if he sat in the hot tub for 2 hours last week, that's affecting his fertility for the next couple months. Same thing with chemical exposure and all that.
Don't get disappointed if it takes a little while - so much of it is dependent on perfect timing. But you know what they say, practice makes perfect!
@808bride: 1. Orgasm-have one! (at or close to the same time if possible) I saw this pic once and your uterus swells or tilts a certain way to help carry the sperm along.
This is true! When the female orgasms, there are small cilia that wave (think like grass blowing in the wind) toward the uterus (and during her fertile period).
When she's not fertile, they actually go the other way, helping to keep sperm out. Plus the contractions help move sperm up toward the uterus.
Amazing what you learn about yourself taking animal repro in college. Haha!
While I have no real evidence of this, I think staying laying down helps (it certainly couldn't hurt!). I use to always pee right after also - but then "it" all goes in the toilet which just seems like a bad idea.....I also tried to elevate my hips a bit after...who knows if any of that helped but I DID get pregnant :)
oh and obviously timing is the #1 factor! although I think the every day vs. every other day thing is so unrpoven, that you should just do it at the frequency that works for you :)
Ok so..question. Having an orgasm is good, and missionary is good. What if you have an orgasm on top, and then quickly lay down? lol
@michi30: I had an orgasm on top and didn't lay down and got pregnant. So who knows?lol
@michi30
actually, my dh has an easier time reaching climax when i'm on top, so thats the way we always finish. *if* you're on top, and flip over on to your back fast as lightning (meang leaning off him to one side, lifting your one leg over and throwing yourself on the bed), you'll be able to do so without losing one. single. drop. of sperm. something about physics and forces i guess :) we had fun figuring this out.
@hisgoosiegirl: i know! That's just the simplest example I knew of. I have my HS students watch Food, Inc. Scary!!! I literally felt like I couldn't eat anything for awhile then realized I just need to prioritize what I can handle...
Ok I have a question too. I do not orgasm during sex (only oral or other stuff). (We're not gonna cure that one...I'm 30 and have had plenty of different experiences ahem!)
So...will it still work if I have one before sex? What do you ladies suggest?
@hisgoosiegirl: We have a hot tub at our house and DH hasn't been allowed to use it since last August! That will be his sweetest reward when we get PG, but I reminded him that he has to wait until the second trimester! : )
Mrs Green Grass from what I understand and remember the uterus actually keeps contracting, or doing whatever it does, for like 1/2 an hour or so... so I guess if he got you there and then he did his thing you should be good ;)
after A misscariage and 12 months of trying we went to the drs.. he told us that if you have a 28 day cycle after 5 days (1st day being the 1st day of your period) have sex for 15 days everyday .. if you have it in the morning it is suppose to work better .. if it doesnt work the first month then you are suppose to do it in the morning and night for the 15 days .. i know it sounds like alot but it has worked for us (we only had to do it one time everyday lol) i have told a few people and everyone that i know has tryed it it has worked for them ..
good luck
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