(Closed) Tips that would have been helpful to me on my day

posted 4 years ago in Recaps
Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MrsPaperFlowers:  These are great tips! 🙂  BTW, so sorry these happened to you, but it sounds like you embraced them!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

 Thanks for the tips!  staying calm will be an issue for me since I am a nervous nancy most of the time:) 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MrsPaperFlowers:  So true!!! I’ll have to focus on FI he makes me so calm:) 

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 1993

@MrsPaperFlowers:  Whatever you do, do NOT try to do anything to your dress the day of the weddding. I tried to iron mine and put a big scorch mark on the back of the bodice. Nobody could see it (I don’t think.) it wasn’t a dark mark or anything, it just damaged the shine of the material in the exact shape of the iron. The iron was too hot, I wasn’t thinking, my brain was mush. Leave the gown alone. It is fine.

Have an extra set of earrings. Wear comfotable shoes.

Do things to make others happy. If you mother gives you her pearls to wear, wear them, even if you weren’t planning on wearing a necklace. I regret being a stupid snob and not wearing my mother’s pearls. Looking at the wedding photo I think they would have been beautiful, and she would have been so happy, and I crapped all over that.

As bride and groom, it is your day, but you are also responsible for making sure your guests have a good experience. I was at a wedding where the bride (a co-worker) and groom were great outdoors enthusiasts, and wanted to be married (with their dogs) at their favorite backwoods camping spot, which required all the guests to drive into the woods and then walk about a mile over a rather rough trail. I had to listen to the bride stress about her shoe choice for months, and she never once considered if 90 year old Aunt Ethel would have trouble making the hike – and she did have trouble. The bride later said she regretted not using a church. Don’t be a selfish bride.

Recognize that guests sometimes make huge sacrifices to be with you. The Best Man at our wedding was defending his PhD thesis two days after the wedding, after years of work and being being denied the degree once and being told to do more work. And he flew across the country to stand with us as we were married. I am still humbled by that. I hope I thanked him.

Do things to make others happy. 20 years from now you won’t remember that the chair ribbons weren’t the exact shade of ivory to match your dress, but you’ll remember the look of hurt on your bridesmaids face when you make a comment about it.

That is what I have learned.

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 1993

@MrsPaperFlowers:  Yeah, its not about the chairs. Its about the effort you make to love the people in your life on this special day.

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