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First of all, you shouldn't have to make an excuse, it's none of their business! I've not been in this situation but you could say you're trying to eat more "clean" and eliminate alcohol, they say if you cut out alcohol you could actually lose 5-10 lbs which is a good reason whether you're TWW or not! =]
I'm trying to watch my weight, and alcohol is just empty calories I don't need. Wine gives me a headache. I have to get up early tomorrow. I'm just not in the mood to drink, but you guys enjoy! Usually people don't question the medication excuse, it's never failed for me and I've been quiet about it for almost 3 months now around a family full of Irish drinkers, holiday parties and Thanksgiving when I always drink wine and champagne.
@LoveMySailor1018- I know I shouldn't have to but since I am the youngest one by about 15-20yrs I feel like I am already under a lot of scrutiny. I have always been a wine lover so for me to just stop drinking and also a girl that I don't speak to sent out a mass email to the company telling everyone I was pregnant. So eventhough everyone knows it was a rumor I feel like it did open people eyes.
@KatyElle- Glad that it has been working out for you. Maybe I should just make up an excuse and stick with it. Trying to eat healthier and lose weight and don't let anyone push me back on it. My family knows since I do have a few people who have done invitro in my family and they are very kind to lend a ear of share advice.
I think the loosing weight thing is a good idea and your co-workers could buy it. You could always say that you've been dealing with insomnia. Most people are told to avoid alcohol if they have problems sleeping regularly as it interfers with your body's natural sleep cycles. Also, if you get desperate, you could say that you've started medication for insomnia that alcohol interfers with.
Just tell them you're on strict diet, no alcohol, carbs or processed sugar. Most people won't badger you about trying to be healthier. If they try to get you to have a drink just say "I wish I could, but it's just easier for me to stick with it if I don't" then change the subject. I know you don't owe anyone an excuse, but it's just making your life easier without trying to be a bad liar.
@roxy821: Mass email to the company about you being pregnant when you're not?!?! WOW that's a whole 'nother issue! That is ridiculous!! But I think you got a lot of good suggestions here, and the clean diet one is a good one to stick with! =]
@LoveMySailor1018- Her last day is this month :) Not because of that but because of all the drama she causes the company.
I have had the same problem with the drinking issue. I'm about 5 weeks preggo right now and not ready to tell friends. We are still young and our group is comprised of social drinkers and it would definitely be obvious if I turned down drinks all night. We decided to just be sneaky. Diet 7-up/Sprite and 'vodka' in a red cup is an easy one. Unless someone is literally sampling your drink they'll never know! Cranberry juice in a wine glass looks the same. I also bought NA beer and put it in a pint glass. No one would ever know the difference even if they tried it! Before I got KU I would order selzer water in a cocktail glass with a twist of lime when I needed a break but didn't want to get hassled. It looks just like a vodka tonic! Also, saying you are DD is a good way to avoid anyone getting too suspicious. I know it's no ones business but close friends like to pry and this method works for us for the time being at least. Can't wait until I can come clean and stop with the sneaking! Good luck : )
You can say that you're training for a race, look up local races in your area to make it believable. Then if they start the "just have one with us, it won't hurt, i trained before and could have one" then definitely use the liine "I choose not to because I find it easier if I just don't have any. Wish I could though, you guys enjoy!" And of course if they follow up with you about the race, just say you didn't register in time or something but you're doing another one in 2 or 3 months.
Sometimes when I don't feel like drinking I"ll let the waiter fill my wine glass and I"ll just kind of sip it a little. I'm not sure if doing that would be easier than announcing that you aren't having any at all though, it depends on how hawk-like they are about your drinking.
You can also say you're really tired or hungover. I'm not sure if you want to use the hangover excuse around your superiors though!
Since I instituted my rule of no drinking unless it's my period, it works in that situation too. I like the idea of the cranberry and seltzer drinks.
I don't drink, but whenever someone is trying to push me to drink, I just say I'm not drinking for health reasons, and they have always left me alone.
@carrieknitscake- That's my rule too! At that point I feel that I deserve a glass and need to relieve some stress.
I'm definitely not TTC but I've stopped drinking in the past month, not a drop. Nobody is really questioning me on it and if they do I just say that I don't feel like it. If anyone was to really push I could likely say I was acting as DD, I didn't feel good, whatever, but people are surprsingly cool about non-drinkers.
@roxy821: I think it's a good rule. Oddly enough, it works with the BFP thing too. Well, you don't get your period then, so yeah, wouldn't be drinking anyway. I broke my rule at a holiday party, but it was worth it after the crap I put with getting that party together. It made me relaxed about everything.
I am 6 weeks pregnant so have been dealing with not drinking in front of people for the last couple weeks. I always have a glass of wine if we are at dinner or going out with friends so it would look VERY suspicious if I didn't drink. Also, in my group of friends we're all at the age where we are TTC so the medication excuse would not fly and be too obvious. Soooo...what I have been doing is just ordering a glass of wine and pretending to sip it. When people aren't looking I dump it into my hubby's glass. Also, I ask bartenders to give me soda water and lime in a cocktail glass so it looks like vodka and soda. We went to a dinner party this weekend and I did the same thing with wine - pretend to sip and then just dump it into the sink or into my hubby's glass. No one suspected a thing!
I'm not able to drink anymore because alcohol started triggering migraines for me EVERY time. I'd also feel hungover for at least 2 days following one drink... so not worth it. I actually haven't had a single alcoholic beverage in 4 years, which was a huge adjustment for me and my friends. At least not drinking during the TWW or pregnancy will be easy for me...it's the ONE positive to my problem!
Anyway, alcohol is a pretty common migraine trigger, so if you have a history of migraines, you could fib and give that as you're reason for not drinking. Once people hear it causes me a migraine every time, they don't push it.
Good luck!
When the waiter comes around, say "I'll have a... a.... glass of pinot noir... actually, no wait... " And then tell him you aren't sure and you will order when he comes back.
Then, excuse yourself to go to the bathroom and find your waiter or the bartender. Explain that you need a non-alcoholic drink that looks like an alcoholic drink. A sprite in a short glass can be a vodka tonic. Water or sprite with a splash or either cranberry juice or orange juice. Sprite.water with a splash of sour mix or OJ, with salt/sugar on the rim looks like a margarita.
Yes, it's quite a lot of hassle just to avoid drinking, but I've had to do this a few times around co-workers or friends who just wouldn't understand if I didn't have a drink at all.
Bartenders actually get this request quite a bit... they always joke that bartenders are the first to know a women is pregnant, because she needs a fake drink!
@hopingtobeamama- Wow that is a lot of work! My co-workers usually just order wine for the table so I wouldn't be able to switch the order, I just need an excuse to say I'm not drinking tonight.
I'm a recovering alcoholic so I deal with this all the freakin' time! I just tell people I don't drink and leave it at that. It's really nice to be pregnant and have a built in excuse though!
I would tell people you don't feel like drinking. It's none of their damn business whether or not you have a glass of wine.
What kind of people are you around who ask these questions? I drink but hardly and I've never had anyone ask any follow up questions. I mean, if I say I don't want to, I don't think folks should ask 'why' and then I have to come up with all kinds of shenanigans to explain why I don't want a drink. And I'm in NYC where folks drink like fish. I find this thread very bemusing.
@bRooklynRocks: I think if you don't drink much anyway, it's probably less likely for people to ask you, as opposed to someone who does drink socially and therefore it seems more noticeable if they don't.
I can totally relate here - I'm not TTC yet but I've already wondered what I'll do in this situation as when we hang out with our closest friends, there is almost always alcohol involved and I do love a glass of wine, so it will be SUPER obvious if I'm not drinking. I agree it's not necessarily anyone's "business" but with my close friends, they know me well enough to think it would be out of the ordinary for me to refuse even one drink. I think I'm going to have to do the route of making DH order the same thing as me and periodically dump into his glass, lol...
@roxy821: When social settings I try to be funny about it and say I prefer to eat my calories! Yum.
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So I am not pregnant but I don't really feel comfotable drinking during the TWW. Some of my family knows we are TTC so I'm not concered about that and with my friends not all of them drink so it doesn't look so odd. I just told them if they ask that I am trying to lose the weight I gained on our last vacation.
But what about work? In my department we all work in seperare states and get together on average about 2x per month. The head of our company loves to have dinner meeting which include a lot of wine. How do you continue to make excuses for not drinking? The medicine one or sick only works for so long and most other excuses get a response of well just have one with us.