Post # 1
This is going to be a really goofy post so just bear with me.
I have been with my Boyfriend or Best Friend for 4.5 years now. We haven’t lost any “magic” at least not that I’m aware of, but I’m always looking for ways to surprise him, since generally we follow a very predictable routine. He’s a pretty vanilla guy, so if I showed up in the living room in a dominatrix outfit he would not enjoy this. As a result it’s hard to figure out ways to “wow” him because he doesn’t like anything wild/crazy. Keep in mind I don’t ONLY mean sex. I mean in general…around the house (we live together), or just in text messages, etc.
Every now and then HE does something that surprises me, but I feel like I’m just so predictable! It’s partially because I have a job that only allows me to be home at certain times, so I come home, make dinner, and then we only have about 2 hours to hang out…by then I just want to watch TV and get into sweatpants.
Any ideas of ways to wow your man, in and out of the bedroom, that he least expects? Advice from long-married women is especially appreciated!
Post # 3
I don’t think he would be appalled at the idea of you just showing up in a dominatrix outfit (at least no guy I know would be)…. I think you should do that. I once wore nothing but an apron and heels and that went well. Maybe you can try something like that.
Post # 4
@Cady: He’d be way more into an apron and heels, lol. I can guarantee you he’d laugh at me if I showed up in anything that bordered on dominatrix.
Post # 5
How about getting him little presents to show that you care? My SO likes Gatorade, so every now and then I’ll pick one up at the gas station on my way home. It may seem little but it shows him I’m thinking about him
Post # 6
@AlwaysSunny: That’s sweet 🙂 I might do something like that for sure
Post # 7
I bring him little surprises, too! I brought him a carrotcake cupcake (his favorite!) after his last business trip! Then I brought him dessert from my school’s V-Day party!
I was going to surprise him with a (fire engine red, see-through lace nightie tonight… But I’m not feeling terribly inclined at the moment. Since he pretended that today wasn’t Valentine’s Day.
Post # 8
@BrandNewBride: My boyfriend doesn’t celebrate V-day because it’s made up, so he really only makes a big deal out of my bday. Fine by me, as long as he celebrates my bday!
Post # 9
A few years ago for Valentine’s day I bought SO a new electric razor and tied it with a bow and plugged it in for him to see since his other one was crappy. This year I made him massage gift certificates. I always try to pick him up little things that he likes, like chunky monkey ice cream or a candy bar he likes. I leave him notes sometimes just so to brighten his day and I always kiss him goodbye in the morning & send him texts throughout the day
Post # 10
@anon00: Would he be cool with you taking his pants off in perhaps the kitchen, or living room, and giving him the best head of his life? Is that too risque for him? I like surprise fellatio. So does my husband…
Post # 11
I always buy him some of his favorite snacks here and there, make some of his favorite dinners without letting him know what Im making, and there are a few little odds-and-ends gifts we give each other from time to time, nothing pricey but definaately has thought put into it.
My man loves those “librarian glasses” and he asked me to get them(I am nearsighted and need glasses) so when I got the next pair with my insurance for free, I got that kind.
I wear them in bed sometimes, cause he likes them, and the pigtails for that “schoolgirl” look, and he has a thing for thigh-high stockings. So I go to Spencers and buy a new pair in a different color/pattern and suprise him with them.
Post # 12
@anon00: My Fiance came home from a long trip and I was in lingere and a trench coat. He talks about it to this day!
Post # 13
@anon00: “Vanilla” I feel like I am dating this man as well. Lol. That being said – read the 5 love languages. It was an eyeopener for me. 🙂 Now I have all sorts of new ideas on how to do things that he will notice and understand that I did them out of love.
Post # 14
Take pictures or let him take pictures of you. Obviously you just have to be careful where you save them 🙂
Post # 15
How I am is: I dont stress over the little things. Men hate when you nag. When I was having sex in my previous relationship my Fiance and I both agreed to be celibate until the wedding. I never denied my mate sex even if we had an argument I was with him for 12 years.
Men are sensitive but society has dictated how men should act strong and not show emotions but we have created an environment that allows him to be vulnerable and safe. What do I mean? I buy him gifts, flowers, and tell him I love him everyday. It feels good to know that he can say “come with me and what TV I want you to hold me” and vice versa.
Dont get me wrong he spoils me just as much but I am proud of the relationship we have created an environment of love so he can be sensitive as he needs to be and tell me what he wants or needs and vice versa.
My Fiance is my best friends and when he is comes home(military) we do everything together shop, cook, eat, etc.
Post # 16
Bring him lunch to work; put a cute note in it
Order some pizza, buy beer, and let him pick a movie/ show to watch
Buy some rose petals, sprinkle around the house, and surprise him in some lingerie with champagne
Write him a love letter
Put candles all over the house and have them lit when he gets home
possibilities are endlessss 😉