Post # 1
My wedding is in 11 days (holy $#!+) and I need to know who gets a tip and what dollar amount or percentage. Here’s some info that might be relevant:
- We’re having a three-piece jazz band for the reception and a two strings players for the ceremony
- The officiant is my grandmother (doing it for free)
- The venue includes catering and bartenders, and tips are included
- We have a contact person at the venue who has been very helpful, but I wouldn’t exactly say she’s a “wedding planner.
- I’m getting my hair and make up done by my mom’s friendor.
- The photographer is a friendor of my mom’s. I think he’s giving her a discount.
- My parents are very generously paying for the wedding and will be the ones doing the tipping, but my mom asked me to find out. I don’t really know how much anything cost. I feel really embarrassed and spoiled, but my parents absolutely insisted on gifting me the wedding.
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Are these guidelines widely accepted? Did everyone follow these guidelines?
Post # 5
I would follow the guide the pp linked you to, it will be very helpful.
Post # 6
@redheadem: I actually just happened to come across that yesterday when we were trying to figure out how much we would have to tip the band/dj so I’m not sure if there is anything else saying otherwise but I trust The Knot!
Post # 7
I was just trying to figure this out yesterday! In addition to The Knot article already posted, here’s the Real Simple Guide to Wedding Tipping.
Here’s what we decided:
- Hair/makeup artist – 15%
- Venue staff – 15% of food and beverage total
- String quartet (ceremony/cocktail hour only) – $40 per musician
- Photographer – 10% (she’s the owner, but we wanted to give her something)
- Officiant – he isn’t allowed to accept payment (we will give him a small gift)
- Florist – she’s the owner, plus, it’s a tiny contract for personal flowers only, i.e., bouquet, bouts, and corsages (no setup)
- DOC – she’s the owner
Post # 8
Definitely agree with The Knot. Maybe grandma would appreciate a nice meal in the new house or a small gift rather than a tip though?
Post # 9
@chillyteddy: Yeah, we’re getting her a giftcard.