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    Arachna       nyc

    Another post made me think of this.

    I don't know about other states but in California you're charged a service charge by venues and caterers.  That's not the charge for staff (that's separate and huge amount) but as I understand it is the 'tip'.  So my question is, give you're already being charged 18% as a tip do you have to give another voluntary tip as well?  I was assuming not and am not planning on it but please let me know if I'm off base for some reason.

    I am planning to tip our officiant, photographer and anyone else for whom a service charge is not included.

     
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    Miss Chapstick    September 2009  

    We had a 20 percent service charge added on (our venue was in NY), and we didn't tip anything beyond that because we felt it was sufficient. We didn't even tip bartenders (our guests did that for us). I had asked my sister this because she works as a server for special events at an Inn, and she says 90 percent of weddings she's worked at, the couple hasn't tipped beyond the service charge, which she's perfectly fine with.

    Just keep in mind that you don't tip people who own their own business. I mention this because you said you're planning to tip your photographer, but if they own their own business, it's not necessary :)

     
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    CorgiTales    February 1, 2011  

    I am definitely not tipping above the service charge. 

     
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    prettyflowers    September 2010  

    Our venue (large Inn that operates its own restaurants and also caters parties like ours) adds a 20% service charge to the catering costs... I don't plan to tip on top of that... if that's not considered "the tip" then what exactly are they charging me for?

     
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    KMSull    August 7, 2010   Lexington, KY (via Atlanta, GA)

    I probably won't be tipping above the service charge either. It's a little annoying to be TOLD how much to tip.

     
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    spaniel    March 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    Our service charge is 18%. That sounds like a tip to me, and given the base price and how many people we have, WAY over hourly and typical gratuities for servers. We're not tipping extra.

     
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    Rocktsrgn    May 22, 2010   living in Tucson, wedding in Atlanta

    We don't have a "service charge," but I just wanted to chime in with what my DOC told me about tipping. 

    Anyone who's getting paid by the hour - servers, bartenders - maitre d's (sp?) get tipped.  Anyone who owns their business, or is paid a flat fee - DJ's, musicians, photographers - don't get tipped.  Of course, you can always tip if you feel an exceptional job has been done, but it's not expected or required by etiquette. 

    And I would only tip on top of the service charge if you would have tipped more originally, or if they went above and beyond.  I.e. - they charge 18%, and you would have given 20%. 

     
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    mikan    February 27, 2010   Bay Area, CA

    I was wondering also, but our contract clearly states that that charge and our total fee is inclusive of all taxes, service fees, and gratuity/tip so we will not be tipping anything on top of that.

     
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    Arachna       nyc

    Yay!  Thank you!  It is very reassuring to hear this as well as the info on photographers etc. 

     
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    amyb1978    May 21, 2010   St. Louis

    Our catering contract includes a $18 PER PERSON service charge, and then says to contact our catering manager with questions about gratuity!  I have no problem tipping the servers who do all the work, but I hate to give the company another chunk on top of that (I've seen in several places that the tip should be 15-20% of the total bill...that could be a couple thousand dollars!).  Anyone have a similar circumstance?

     
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    zippylef    October 30, 2010   Norfolk, UK

    We have a 21% gratuity charge. So yeah... I'm not tipping above that.

     
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    otb    December 31, 2009   Chicago, IL

    The only people we tipped was our limo driver which was expected and our DJ since he gave up his NYE 2 hours before our event began to be a DJ for us.  We felt that he deserved a nice big tip because of that.

     
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    Soon2bMrsWheeler    October 10, 2010   Oceanside ,CA

    I dont think i will be tipping above the service charge. However i will be doing baskets to all the vendors i appreciate. My main venue went out of there way to accomidate us. I will be doing something speical for her as well as our wedding planner, and maybe even dj, photographer, and florist.

     

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