(Closed) Tired of being told to make a baby.

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Ha – so true!  I think sometimes people just talk because they like to hear their own voices.  😛

Post # 4
3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Ha! Well of course not. After all, your friends and family can “send them home” when they melt down. ; )

Post # 5
11273 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

people should mind their own business when it comes to making babies.


Post # 6
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@mypinkshoes:  +1

I think people just expect that’s what you should be doing. Guess what? We don’t all want to!!! On our plane to our honeymoon a dad and child sat next to us. The child screamed the whole time and kept smacking his dad in the face. Perfect birth control.

Post # 7
2196 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@mypinkshoes:  +2 ! Agreed.

I find that society puts so much pressure on couples (especially newlyweds) without thinking about the couple. Maybe the can’t have children? Maybe they can’t currently afford children? Maybe they don’t WANT children? I am a big advocate for not bringing up whether or not a couple will/wants to have children until it’s brought up by them to us first. There are a million reasons to have kids, and probably a million not to as well.

My best friend and her Fiance don’t want kids, and their reasons are across the board. I am proud of them for thinking it through and talking about it, and while I know that maybe their minds will change one day (maybe) I fully support their decisions and would never, ever ask them “why don’t you just have one?!”. 

Take your time. Make your own decisions. Tell the rest of the world to mind their own business. LOL.

Post # 8
886 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Oh God yes!!! +50!!!

In all fairness, I shouldn’t just flat out rule out kids like some (lucky) people can. Unfortunately for Darling Husband and I, neither of our siblings are going to have children anytime soon if ever. So the pressure for grandkids is entirely on us. 🙁 But I’m not ready. He’s not ready. And even though I’m older, that doesn’t mean I am on everyone else’s breeding schedule. Children are a big freakin’ deal! It’s not like you can take them back to the child pound if the adoption doesn’t work out. So stop it with the suggestions already. My reproduction is not open to public discussion. Ugh!

Post # 9
866 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Oh yes, people are never more presumptuous than when they’re poking their noses into your reproduction. Politicians, family members, co-workers, strangers on a bus — they all want a say. It’s annoying at best.

The only good news: they can’t MAKE you reproduce. Your “revenge,” if you will, is that you’re in control. The best answer you can give them (aside from STFU about my sex life, a**hole!) is to stick to your own plan.

Post # 10
277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@harleyq:  “Make one. Look how cute they are!”  Wow…what rude coworkers you have. Because you want to have a baby just because they think they are cute…

I only get asked if holding and playing with my coworkers’ kids make me want one anytime soon…

Post # 11
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I completely agree. Darling Husband and I are CBC, and we get so sick of hearing about how we should have kids, when are we going to have kids, etc. I’ve found that it usually shuts people up if you look them straight in the eyes, smile, and say “Absolutely. never. under any circumstances.” That usually gets the point across. Some (extremely rude/dense) people still persist, at which point I look for an opportunity to exit the conversation. 

Post # 12
5296 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

ugh, creepy! The bane of most newlyweds’ life. Being told to repeatedly have sex until pregnancy occurs. Regardless of the fact that you may NOT be able to or DON’T wish to have kids, or that you do not currently feel financially, emotionally, mentally, physically, anything-ally ready to raise and care for another human being.

The topic ‘Tired of being told to make a baby.’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors