Tired of bridesmaids crap!!!!

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

maybe it is worth taking her to coffee and having a nice sit down talk. maybe she has something else going on in her life and is feeling overwhelmed… Idk, but you may be able to politely let her know what you expected of her and also hear her side to see if there is a reason she has been slacking…

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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I completely understand except ALL of my bridesmaids except one has been awful. Im not a bridezilla either at all, but they wont do anything even show up for a dress fitting!! Im kicking them out. If they are going to whine and bitch, they do not need to be standing up with me. I dont need the added stress and neither do you. Remember its YOUR day.

Ask her first if there is a reason for her behavior. If not definatley consider not having her stand up with you.

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Forget the second bachelorette party. If she doesn’t want to go the main one, she doesn’t go at all.

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Helper bee

can you cut her from the list and find somwione else? i dont think u need 2 have 2 bachelertte party just because of her, you can just ask her to come or forget about it. the wedding is about you. not her

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Well, truthfully, no one wants to stand last in that bridesmaids line – all it shows is that you’re less important than the ones before you, which doesn’t exactly make you feel “honored.” Maybe you’re not as good of friends as you thought you were when you chose your BMs.

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I know exactly how you feel! Except for me it my MOH!! All of my bridesmaids are great, but my sister is being a complete witch! :/ I reallllyy wish FI and I could just take my wedding dress to our honeymoon spot and get married there! lol Buuut everything is already paid for so I guess I will just do my best not to kill my sister before the wedding day! lol Hopefully you can have a sit down talk with the one girl and maybe work some stuff out.

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Deep breath.  Hang in there, the last leg can be stressful, but it will be worth it in the end.  I’m sure all your girls will be loving and supportive on your wedding day. :)

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@hisprettygirl:  great, now i’m going to have a complex when making the line up for the bridesmaids. Someone has to be last, it’s not because i think less of her, and I’ve never thought that when I’m at other weddings…is this common?

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@hisprettygirl:  That’s absurd. If you’re a bridesmaid, it’s because you are one of the VIP’s among the guests. If someone is overly sensitive about standing at the end of the line, that’s just utterly ridiculous.

Besides, in my experience, usually the determining factor in how you order the bridesmaids/groomsmen is height. Aside from the MOH and BM whose places are predetermined, I’ve usually seen people get paired up based on how their heights match, and the order they walk in depends mainly on how they will be standing in the photographs.

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Oh for crying out loud.  All she needs to do is show up for the wedding in a pretty dress.  Is it that big of a deal??

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@hisprettygirl:  how does it make you any less important to stand last?? I’m lining my girls up by height there is no rank of importance going on there. I had no idea people actually thought that

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

I wish my mother could read all of these bridesmaid horror stories and stfu about me not wanting bridesmaids for this reason!

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