- 3 years ago
- Wedding: January 2010
Many will not like this, but I need to get it off my chest.
When I was pregnant with my son I prepared and prepared for an all-natural birth and I was ready to go and convinced that my body was meant to do this, etc, etc.
Everywhere, we are bombarded with information on how to prepare for the best scenario and how medication and c-sections are evil.
Well when the time came, it didn’t work that way for me. I needed a c-section. I felt like a failure. Like my body failed me all the way because it didn’t do any single thing like it was supposed to.
My son was healthy and I recovered from the surgery in a few weeks, which is good given the fact that I was exhausted because I went through 47 hours of labor on top of having to recover from the c-section.
This time around, I was given the choice between trying to go natural again or opting for a c-section. I chose the latter. Yes, all labors are different and this time it could go so much better than the last. But it could also turn out the same way and I want to avoid that at all costs, especially since I not only have myself and a baby to care for, but my toddler as well.
After I informed my doctor of my choice, she told me that she agreed, and that in my specific case she usually doesn’t recommend a vaginal delivery.
So I am happy with the birth that I will have and love that I know what to expect this time around because last time was so hard.
But I find myself surrounded by people who, not knowing all this, keep holding a negative speech about all births that aren’t completely natural. What irks me the most about this is that I was one of these persons prior to giving birth. I was totally unprepared for the possibility of anything else, completely brainwashed into thinking that because this process is natural and women have been doing it forever, my body was meant to do it and everything would go smoothly. And then when reality hit, it was even harder on me than if I had been prepared for other scenarios.
I need mothers to be to know that birth, any type of birth is a beautiful thing because you are bringing a baby into this world. C-sections can be lifesaving if performed in an emergency situation, but sometimes a planned c-section is what is best for you and your family and you shouldn’t be made to feel guilty about it if you have made such a choice.
A natural birth might be the safest way to give birth, but a planned c-section is better than an emergency one so if you know there is a good risk for you to end up in an emergency situation, then planning can be the wise choice.
I’m sorry this is so long… but I really needed to rant and at the same time, talk about delivery from another perspective. We all wish for the best, but should still prepare for the worse. I know if I had, if anyone had spoken up about this and helped me prepare mentally for anything else than the ideal medicine free scenario, the shock would have been smaller and my feelings spared in that very vulnerable time.
Ok feel free to jump all over this now.