Post # 1
With four months to go, I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m done. I’m tired of spending money on our wedding. And yet, I know that I’m really not done spending money on our wedding. Does anyone else just feel that they are being ‘raped’ by just saying the word ‘wedding?’
We planned on having our rehearsal dinner at our venue just because it would make things easier on everyone. 35 peeps, family-style italian dinner. How much could some pasta cost? I mean really!? Can you say $1400?
Our rehearsal dinner budget is 1000. What’s a mere $400 more? Well, it’s a lot. I could use that money in a much better way…or SAVE IT! There’s a notion.
The meal itself comes in at $845. Then it’s 3 servers for 3 hours at $140/server. Then a bartender (if we need one) also at $140 for 3 hours. That alone is $560. We were thinking of doing wine and beer by consumption but then they slap on an additional 18% onto the final drink bill. I could scream.
So we’re thinking of altering the menu slightly and actually perhaps NOT serve alcohol. Is that such a terrible thing at a rehearsal dinner?
I can’t wait until this is all over.
Post # 3
Do those servers really make all $140 of that fee? Somehow, I really don’t think they’re making $46/hr or more people would skip school and go into food service! That is a ripoff, just another way for the restaurant to skim off the top. I would skip the alcohol. You can all go to a bar afterwards on their own dime if it’s that important, but it’s just a rehearsal dinner. Rehearse and dine, no biggie!
Post # 4
Why not have a rehearsal dinner at home, and serve DIY BBQ and save the catered meal for the big event? While it certainly would make things much easier (and less cats to herd) to do it at the rehearasl site, but you could use that extra money towards your honeymoon, or put it into savings. Plus, as a guest I’d probably would be feeling a little bit of “deja vu” having dinner in the same place two nights in a row, even if the food and atmosphere was a little bit different. Plus, having a really laid-back rehearsal dinner is a great way for your two families to meet each other and relax.
Post # 5
Oh that terrible 18% tax—I HATE IT! I feel your pain…we are basically done shelling out “round 1” of the money with round 2 starting in early january. there has been nothing more frustrating to me than thinking we have a reasonable price and then i hear “oh and then there’s the 18% tax…”. WTF????
Post # 6
Ours had 6% sales tax and 18% service charge. 18% tax is insane!!!
Post # 7
I think it’s FINE to skip alcohol at the rehearsal dinner. You all can meet up at someone’s home or hotel room afterward for cocktails if you want. We aren’t having alcohol at our rehearsal dinner (not becuase price, but because of my Southern Baptist grandmother is who horribly upset about alcohol at the reception…this was a compromise for her).
Take a deep breath, and maybe it’s time to spend the weekend doing NO wedding stuff…just you, your sweetie and some relaxation.
Post # 8
Skip the drinks and stay in budget.
Post # 9
Oh yes, I feel the same. I’ve budgeted for most things, but still feel like we’ve spent too much. I really want to be done spending money, but of course that won’t happen just yet.
Post # 10
I am with you! For catering in my area… try 20% service charge and then 9.25% tax! Yikes… that is basically 30%!
Post # 11
I have the same thing. My fiance is so upset over it. We have 22% gratuity and 8% tax.. which has to be paid in advance. What if the service doesn’t deserve this much gratuity!? The meals are already very expensive.
Post # 12
Yikes, it’s a rip. Why are you paying a 50% gratuity to the servers? And yes a $25/pp pasta meal seems expensive. Are you reserving a room? Are the servers just there to attend to your party?
Ok, I’m saying it’s a rip but I heard the same thing too for large parties so we just had ours at home.