(Closed) Tired of Vendors acting like you are a Bridezilla when you reach out to them

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Am I the bride from hell?
    Yes you are terribly demanding : (4 votes)
    9 %
    No you are just trying to finish up details : (42 votes)
    89 %
    other : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    5075 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I don’t think you are being unreasonable at all.  .you are the customer.. .you are paying these people money to provide goods/services.  They should be more than willing to talk to you and answer your questions.  

    Post # 4
    1093 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    In no way are you a bridezilla. Your requests are very reasonable and I’m disappointed to hear that these people in the wedding profession are acting like that. 

    Hang in there! It’s almost over.

    Post # 5
    3261 posts
    Sugar bee

    I feel the same way and I tell Fiance that every time I make a reasonable request of a vendor they make me feel like I’m a bridezilla. I would just ignore it and keep asking your questions, it’s your wedding. 

    Post # 6
    842 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’ve always felt like all my vendors think I’m being a bridezilla too or overly organized/on top of things.  Maybe it just comes with the territory of getting married Undecided.  We’re having a semi-destination wedding and I had to do a lot in chunks during the times I was actually able to be in the same location as the wedding.  And all the time I got comments on how early I was doing things and how I had so much time and didn’t need to worry. Sorry, but if the only time I can be htere to meet with you is a year before the wedding, you’re going to have to live with it.

    I say just ignore it and do what you need to do to feel that everything is taken care of.  If they think you’re a bridezilla, so what?  At least you’ll know everything is correct.

    Post # 7
    2808 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Ugh. I am 7 weeks out and I am getting a little pushback from a few of my vendors. I am still missing 2 bridesmaids dresses (not like we ordered them in NOVEMBER or anything) and the shop owner is getting pissy with me for calling and asking for shipping information. I’m super unimpressed with this place so far and I swear that woman has more excuses than answers.

    It will all be over soon!

    Post # 8
    2084 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 1993

    Nope. You are not a BZ at all. There are levels of service that you can rightly expect; they are falling below it, you’ve done nowt wrong!

    Post # 9
    602 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I think you’re being perfectly reasonable…

    Post # 10
    879 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    It is their job to answer all your questions.  I have sent many questions to my venue coordinator and the caterer, and while sometimes I feel like I may be”bugging” them, I get over it real quickly. If I have questions, they are supposed to answer them.  Luckily both have been more than accommodating and polite.

    One suggestion to you is to not write emails that use phrases like “I’m sorry… I apologize for bothering you… If it’s not too much trouble.” You have nothing to be sorry for and any of your requests (unless they’re super unreasonable, which doesn’t sound like it) should not be any trouble to them. Be polite and professional, yet firm with your requests. Try to avoid being overly polite and don’t ever apologize for needing to contact them!

    Post # 11
    151 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’m no bridezilla, at  all…bridesmaids are wearing $30 sundresses, they’re allowed to wear flip flops after church, I’m incorporating the ideas of family and friends, etc etc. Sooo, I’m not demanding bride. My input is:

    Its their job. Period. 🙂

    Post # 12
    1158 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I agree with the pp. You were polite and well within your rights.You are paying for a service.There is nothing wrong with contacting them to touch bases before your wedding.

    Post # 13
    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @arabesque:  Yes! You definitely do not have to be sorry for asking them your questions. You aren’t harassing them, you’re giving them business.


    If anyone I was working with was that rude/unaccomodating they could be sure they would NOT be receiving any kind of tip/gratuity or good references.

    Post # 14
    315 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 1997

    @unixfairy:  I am so sorry! I really wish that you lived here in Oregon. I would show you the way a good vendors are, I know a lot of them. I am so sorry you have had this experience. This should be a wonderful and amazing experience for you. I really wish I had a magic wand so that all the couples that are treated poorly by their vendors could have a magical and fairy godmother do-over!

    Honestly, we are not all crabby, just some are not good with the stress issues. I hope the next 8 days are smooth and wonderful.

    Best wishes for a wonderful ceremony and a long and happy marriage.

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