- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
Like many of you, I am just exhausted from trying to be patient and feigning happiness at other weddings/engagements/babies. Our love story isn’t exactly linear, which is what makes it even more difficult. I’ll just share the facts…
– We have been together for over 4 years now, started dating as undergrads in college. We have a house together, adopted furry ones, and know we want to get married soon and have a family. However, a few kinks have been thrown in:
– We started dating as young undergraduates, so we knew we wanted to graduate college first.
– About a year after we graduated college and started big kid jobs we hit a rough patch and were feeling over-stressed and over-pressured to get married. (Admittedly, I contributed to the pressure). He had BOUGHT A RING and intended to propose in March of 2012, until we hit this breaking point and I made a pretty huge mistake. This also affected my relationship with his family, which has since been mended.
– Then, we worked through our stuff, admitted we never wanted to live without one another, and have been doing great since April of last year. We feel closer than ever and even more equipped to make a marriage last.
– We are both currently in graduate school and have been living apart for the last year. However, we talk constantly, and he is only 2 hours away and literally comes home EVERY WEEKEND. I work full-time and am also in graduate school, so I am super busy all week, anyway. We hardly have time to miss one another. I want to reiterate that we are not really functioning like a long-distance relationship.
-He graduates this December, moves back home full-time and starts back at work, and I graduate this May (I work full-time while also in grad school, so my schedule won’t really change).
– Throughout our entire time together, his sister has gotten married and had two babies and lives this seemingly perfect life. It is so difficult to feel like we have to live up to that and it often makes me feel jealous and sad that I don’t have those things, yet.
– I thought (AND REALLY REALLY HOPED) that he would propose while he was home all summer. (Would also conveniently give me a year to plan a Spring wedding). However, that came and went. Now, I’m kind of hoping for a proposal by at least December, as I would really like to get married sometime in 2014.
– He has said before that he does NOT want a long engagement, so there’s that. He has also said that the engagement would be totally unexpected – meaning, not at dinner, a holiday, my birthday, etc. hah. It’s cute, but also makes me more paranoid!!
I was really hoping to get married in the Spring or Fall of this year, but I don’t think that’s going to happen, for lots of reasons:
I graduate in May and have to finish up one more elective in the Summer, which basically takes away May – Mid July. A very close friend is getting married in August. Every major event of his Sister’s has happened in September (anniversary, kid’s bdays..etc), so they can keep that month.
I know the obvious answer is that he is waiting for school to be over, but it’s just so difficult to wait when you want something so badly. I just want to get married to the love of my life and start a family, dammit!
Sorry for the length of that…. I just needed to tell people who are relatively unbiased. 🙂 Advice/Coping methods/Wise Words/Logic are always appreciated.