Post # 1
My initial post was eaten by the Bee machine… 🙁
So I have two questions
A) My parents have titles, my mother is a snob about hers and enjoys rubbing peoples faces in it. My father is well behaved about it and doesn’t seem to care. They worked hard for these titles and so on but still…
I don’t want their titles on the wedding invites,
I want it to be
Mr. & Mrs my parents
Mr and Mrs his parents
request your presence at the wedding etc
Quite frankly if I had this my way no parents names would be on the invite and it would be coming from FI and I but we can’t do that so this is what I am after.
Are titles supposed to be used? Am I being immature because my mother and I do not get along? And she is such a snob about her title showing off and rubbing it in everyones face all the time. Drives me crazy.
B) Has anyone created a wedding website? If so how useful did your guests find it? We are having an international wedding, getting married in my home town in the UK and a large number of guests are from Ca. Just thought this might be useful. However I have yet to find a host I like.
Any advice would be welcome!!
Post # 3
@Cicera: Can I ask what kind of titles? If it’s something like Dr. so and so…then I think that is perfectly normal.
Post # 4
I’ll answer B) we had a wedding website and used wedding window, it’s not free, but the templates and options were just so awesome I had to use it.
Our guests LOVED our website and used it all the time to get up to date info on the wedding details, rehearsal stuff, registry info, and to submit music requests for our DJ. I also linked over to my blog so they could keep up with the wedding planning!
Post # 5
IMO it would only sound snobby if to write the titles took up an obscene amount of room. For example,
The Lady Gabriella of Windsor and The Marquess of Milford Haven
Mr. & Mrs. Smith
request your presence blah blah
…you know what i mean? Like obnoxiously long titles?
Post # 6
@Bostongrl25 They are judges so the titles would be
His Honor Judge A and Her Honor Judge A
Mr & Mrs B
I really just want them to be Mr and Mrs my parents for the day.
@ktisthatbees Wedding window eh! Thanks I’ll check it out!!
Post # 7
@Cicera:Isn’t there an abbrv. like ,
The Hn. Name and Name Last Name?
I think you’re supposed to use their titles, but you can definitely abbreviate them.
Post # 8
Oops, also, if they have the same title, you only write it once
The honorable judges Joe and Jane Doe.
Again, is there an abbreviation?
Post # 9
I say use the titles.
My mom is a Dr. So and So, but she requested not to use it, so we didnt.
However if someone wants to use it they should. Our program said The Reverant First Name Last name. Not just the officiants name.
Using a title, if its wanted, is a matter of respect.
Post # 10
I don’t know how well this would go over, but there’s always the “Together with their parents, Cicera and FI…” type of wording. I’m probably going to do something like that just to not get into all the specifics. But since your mom is serious about her title, she might not go for that, I guess.
Post # 11
Hmmm…I do agree with you that it may come off a bit snobby if your parents’ titles are very long and his parents aren’t at all! I like the wording above – “Together with their parents” – if that would be acceptable to them.
Post # 12
A) I think that you should put their titles. They worked hard to become Judges and deserve to be recognized as such. Especially if it is their preference. If they didn’t care, that would be one thing, but it is impolite to address someone by a name that they have told you is not preferred.
B) I think wedding websites are a waste of the couples time (unless there is significant travel for more then 95% of the guests). I think people look at them for only a few minutes, and the couple invests hours into making it. I don’t think it’s a good return on time. I really vaule my time though, and try to always think of things in a X number of hours X my hourly rate at work, and it rarely works out favourably. I wouldn’t be willing to spend several hundred dollars to have a wedding website.
Post # 13
@andielovesj: wedding websites are free unless you buy your own domain and design it yourself. Then it wouldn’t cost much even then unless you have to hire a programmer to build it. That’s just crazy when there are so many free options out there.
Post # 14
@Miss Tattoo:She meant man/hour cost equivalent for her time. 🙂 So, while it’s free for me, who does’t make much $$, for her, she really didn’t want to do it and it wasn’t work her time (b”billed” at the rate of her regular job).
Kind of cute, actually. My dad thinks that way, too.
@Cicera: What did you decide to go with?