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Titles of Bride/Groom in invitation?

posted 2 years ago in Paper
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bluebook February 13, 2010 Miami, Florida

FI recently got his PhD. He really loves saying he's Dr. Bluebook :) (he's from germany so it's more common to say that when you're not an MD) ... anyway I designed our invitations and they don't say our titles (I'm have a JD, but I'd go by "Ms."). His parents (and him) were wondering why I didn't put his title in the invites ... right now it reads

[choice1]
Jane Bluebook & Joe Greenbook
together with their parents
invite you to their wedding blah blah blah

I told them that I hadn't seen anyone using titles there, and I thought it'd be weird b/c then I think it would have to be

[choice2]
Dr. Joe Greenbook & Ms. Jane Bluebook
together with their parents
invite you to their wedding blah blah blah

We are bucking tradition and putting our names and address embossed in the back, and if I remember correctly the embosser has our names like in "choice2" but I think for the actual invites that looks weird. I don't have a principled reason though. FI says he'll do whatever I want (choice1) but I want to know what's technically correct (even if I still do what I want :)

What do you think?

2 years ago

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Bumble bee

Miss Sapphire December 2009 Seattle

Titles can sometimes come off as a bit presumptious. That being said, I have a lot of friends that have JD's and I, personally, would laugh if they put it on their invites.

To me, it's just a couple, inviting their friends and family to an important gathering. Not a person with letters after their name hosting some work type event.

2 years ago

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spaniel March 2010 Los Angeles, CA

Dr. is fine, but JDs don't get their title in the invites (sorry! just judges!). Ms. is also fine to address invites, but Miss is appropriate for unmarried women (of any age) if you want to be "technical". :) I have always used Ms. when I could, but I wouldn't on my invites.

2 years ago

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jordynrose October 16, 2010 Las Vegas, NV/Chandler, AZ

I like choice #1 for a few reasons. First, I think it is more traditional to have the bride's name first on invitations. If you were to put Dr. for Mr. B, then his name would need to come first. Second, as you mentioned above, I have never seen an invite where a PhD holder uses their Dr. title. American tradition seems to be Dr. on an invite = M.D. Despite all this, I think you should do what feels right to you. If it really means that much to your fiance to include his title, and it is his culture's custom to do so...go for it. I would, however, refrain from putting the Esq. after your name. ;)

P.S. When I saw your username before I KNEW you had to be a JD!! I loathe the Bluebook!!! Too bad the profession does not use ALWD...so much easier!

2 years ago