TMI: Pregnancy and Your Sex Life

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Did your sex life change when you were pregnant?
    Yes, it was almost nonexistent, and stayed that way after pregnancy : (10 votes)
    29 %
    Yes is was almost nonexistent, but went back to normal after pregnancy : (9 votes)
    26 %
    Yes, it became much more frequent and much more intense, but went back to normal after pregnancy : (2 votes)
    6 %
    Yes, it became more frequent and more intense, and stayed that way after pregnancy : (3 votes)
    9 %
    No it stayed pretty much the same : (11 votes)
    31 %
  • Post # 3
    3623 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @the_newlymintedmrs-s17:  I have always heard that second trimester sex is awesome, especially if you are having a boy. Post-pregnancy sex (especially when you are recovering and have a newborn), not so much. It gets much better when the baby sleepss through the night and stops breastfeeding. Enjoy it now!

    Post # 5
    11 posts

    I didn’t vote because I’m still pregnant (13 weeks today) but lemme tell ya, we are in a dry spell for sure! Last night was the first and only time in a long, long time, mainly because I have been very sick, including hospitalizations and bedrest. 24 hour nausea is a bit of a mood killer, ya know?? I’m starting to feel better and am hoping (as I’m sure FI is lol!) that things will get back to normal. I even shaved my legs for the first time in weeks to help things along. Baby steps, right?!

    Post # 6
    1022 posts
    Bumble bee

    Our TTC sex was freaking amazing (and I was also working out of town, so when I came home it was on), and very frequent. The first 13 weeks of my pregnancy were hellish. I felt hung over all the time. The second trimester brought back some of the sex, but no where near what was normal for us. Now, sexy rumpus is on hold, there is just too much going on with my body and I can in no way feel sexy. I fell down the stairs, almost lost out little one, my boobs started leaking, which I do not care who the hell you are, it is not hot, I have a kidney infection, my hips hurts, my tendonitus is acting up, there is a huge belly in the way, oh and I lost my vagina. I can’t see her. My husband tells me that she is still there and that she is beautiful, but when you can’t see it you don’t feel great about it.

    We aren’t all the same of course, but when I talked to my mom and my sister about never wanting to ever be touched again, apparently they both felt the same.

    I can’t wait for sexy time to come back.

    Post # 8
    1147 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @the_newlymintedmrs-s17:  We had a major 1st trimester dry spell because everything was SO dry and it felt awful. During my second trimester we DTD more but as my bump grew it became more complicated to get into the right position. Now at 35w pregnant sex is just comical, it feels good but its a matter of getting into the right position to make it happen. Luckily we both have a great sense of humor and do a lot of laughing when it comes to making it work. I didn’t vote because i don’t know how it’ll be after baby arrives. From what my mom friends have told me even after you get the okay at 6 weeks you may or may not be physically or emotionally ready for sex yet. After my sister had her first she said once she was cleared for sex she cried the first time they tried to get it on because it hurt so bad. She ended up using a numbing cream from her OB for a while (can’t imagine that felt amazing for her DH) but they eventually got through it =) 

    Post # 9
    440 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @MrsKeller:  I shaved my legs for the first time in weeks today too!  I hope some minor hopes of maybe having sex some time soonish…maybe, lol.  It’s been 3.5 weeks and I am not missing it.  I have been feeling like hell. DH doesn’t have the high of a sex drive and he was fine for the first two weeks but now I think he’s starting to be ready.  I don’t have a bump yet at 11 weeks but I do feel just…fat.

    Post # 10
    11 posts

    @PatientBee:  exactly! I haven’t felt like it either and feeling fat/bloated does not help me feel desirable. I think once you get over that first hump (lol) and just do it you get back into the swing of things.

    Post # 11
    4827 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

    @the_newlymintedmrs-s17: that’s so awesome you go a big uptick in your libido. i am so jelly. No libido here. Zero. and not pregnant. 

    Post # 12
    416 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    We were pretty much normal in the first tri…I’m finding the bigger I get the more tired I am now (currently 27 weeks) but we probably do it 2 to 3 times a week instead of 4-5 like before. I’m not worried about it going back to normal after baby comes 🙂

    Post # 13
    8818 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I guess I was the odd one. The frequency stayed the same but it was a lot more intense and I wanted it a lot.  I never lost the desire.

    Post # 14
    1436 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    It’s been sad for us.  I was rearing to go first trimester,  but he was worried about hurting the pregnancy.  By the time he came around I just felt fat and tired and generally blah.  We haven’t had sex since October.  I’m 33 weeks and although I’m starting to get horny again, the effort required is a turn off.  Also worried about it being painful or uncomfortable. 

    Post # 15
    557 posts
    Busy bee

    So far I am almost 23 weeks and haven’t missed a beat…I am totally dreading the post-birth 6 week wait but I am one of those people who is ready to go all the time, even during my tired/morning sickness weeks. I can say that the second trimester sex/orgasm is just as good as it always has been…no big WOW, and I am having a boy.

    Post # 16
    1773 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I was constantly vomiting and totally nauseous during my first trimester; and pre-pregnancy we were very active. I felt awful for never wanting to do it but my DH totally understood. I’m 16 weeks now and still not 100% over the nausea/MS but feeling more and more like myself. I’m so ready to get back into it but I’m also nervous!

    I keep hearing it’s totally safe and fine for the baby to do it, but I can feel the baby kicking and it just feels weird to have that feeling and be sexual at the same time… it’ll happen soon I guess! Did anyone else feel weird having sex as your baby is moving around in you?! It’s such a turn off for me, lol. 

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