Post # 1
Ok so i’m looking forward to when we’re going to start planning on becoming parents (few more years) BUT while i’m excited there is one thing that scares me like no other!! The actual giving birth part…. it really does scare me… if you have seen the episode of the office where pam is putting off going to the hospital.. yeah that would be me.
How much does it hurt?
does it completely rip your.. *cough* apart? how long after birth can you have sex again…. is sex the same as before?
Post # 3
Have you read It’s Mrs. Dumpling’s blog the OMG mom, Mrs. Avocado over at That Wife, or Katie over at All Bower Power? You can also read our very own MightySapphire and Mrs. DG‘s birth stories. They all wrote about their birth stories and they were very fascinating reads!
Post # 4
Everyone always worries about the actual giving of birth, when in fact that is the easy part! It is relatively quick and you DO forget how bad it hurt as soon as you hold your baby. The sheer exhaustion of having a newborn and the startling adjustments to parenthood are much more difficult. I’m not saying it isn’t worth it-my son is the most amazing thing in my life (even at two years old lol). I just remember how focused I was on the birth process, and I think how silly that was now that I look back.
I had 26 hours of VERY hard labor and didn’t have medication so it wasn’t easy at all, but it is nothing to really focus on. Oh, and you can have sex as early as 6 weeks later, but most women I know have zero energy for sex until a bit later than that. Everyone is different.
My advice to you is not to think about the actual birthing, if you’re unable to handle pain they have epidurals if thats what you want. Enjoy your childfree lifestyle now! Travel, splurge, vacation, do wild and crazy things. Enjoy sleeping in, eating out, and long quiet bathes alone (or with your hubby!) When it’s closer to time research parenting resources; attend classes, read books, babysit, join online forums. Prepare yourself for an ENORMOUS ADJUSTMENT! And a lifelong commitment of having your heart walk around outside of your body for as long as you live. 🙂
Post # 5
I already have 2 stepkids… i know it’s not the same as having your own children, and they are not here 24/7
@tiffinapit I love that -> “And a lifelong commitment of having your heart walk around outside of your body for as long as you live.”
Post # 6
I second reading Mrs. Dumpling’s blog. http://omgmom.blogspot.com
I am completely hooked reading it, and I have no interest whatsoever in having a baby, at least in the next 4-5 years or so, possibly ever. But it is really informative, and she tells it like it is. Although it may just terrify you more…
Post # 7
… i just read that whole story… amazing! I dont know if that has made me more scared or not LOL