Post # 1
I’m 19 days out from having had my son and have a few questions…
How long did it take you to stop bleeding?
Will having a bowel movement stop being terrifying anytime soon? (I feel like I’m birthing a poop baby!)
Did your vagina go back to normal?
Does sex feel the same for you as before?
Post # 3
– Hmmmm I think it took about 4 1/2 weeks for me to completely stop bleeding. I’d stop and then start again for awhile before it was finally “done”
– Can’t help with this one b/c I didn’t have any tearing or anything so I was fine the next day. =/ Definitely keep up with stool softeners to help!
– Yep… aside from (tmi) the labia being SMALLER than they were. Apparently it’s a side effect of the hormone levels associated with ebf’ing. Weird but not really an “issue”. lol
– 9 weeks out and it’s uncomfortable like back when sex was still “new”… Also the hormone issues again with being “dryer” so sometimes that attributes to the uncomfortableness… Otherwise it feels the same & I’m sure after I’m done ebf’ing and my hormones level out it’ll be alllllllll good! tehe
Post # 4
Bleeding was about 3 or 4 weeks and then I didn’t have it again until 6 months because I breastfed. It really isn’t too bad if you take care of it. I recommend the Always OverNight Maxi Pads (Dark Blue bag, Purple pads). They covered everything and worked very well.
Bowel Movements took forever to not be terrifying because I ended up tearing most of the way back. But I took lots of stool softener and worked through it. Just take your time and don’t stress out.
My husband says my vagina is just fine.
Good luck with your baby. It will all be amazing after you have him. It just changes your life.
Post # 5
@runsyellowlites: I’m so sick of pads! I hope the bleeding stops soon. I did not know about the labia. The skin feels so tight down there, I wonder if that’s why.
Post # 6
@brownieMomma: I have him already! He’s amazing. I tore too, I wish I could just relax, but I’m so scared lol.
Post # 7
@mwitter80: I was sick of them too by the end of it! As for the labia…. I didn’t know that either until I say another mom post a question about it on another forum. I had kinda noticed it just a few days before but thought I was just crazy. lol
Post # 8
I was bleeding for 6 weeks, it was heavy for a week then very light.
I healed very slowly and had dozens of stitches so BMs were scary for about 2 months. It felt okay to go after about 3 weeks though lol.
my lady parts are nothing like they used to be but I had a nearly 10 pound baby and ripped front to back.
sex is different for me now still in many ways… at the time I didn’t have sex for a year and the first time was painful. I swear they stitched me too much lol. Even now 8 years later almost its still tender if the scar tissue gets too much friction and my sex drive never fully recovered.<br
Post # 9
Wait, wait, labia get SMALLER after a vb?
but,but,but….I LIKE my labia the way they are!
Post # 10
Bleeding stopped in 2 days. I was demand b/feeding 2 hourly or so.
Going to do number two’s were terrifying as i had a 3rd degree tear. But relaxing and not tensing up made it so much easier.
My vajayjay is still “very tight” according to FI. (never heard of labia getting smaller)
We had sex a week after the birth and it was and sill is amazing! Juat remember to go slow to begin with.
Post # 11
@Toastymama: Wow 2 days?… I SOOOO wish mine would’ve stopped like that, I was ebf’ing on demand every 45min-1.5 hrs until just a couple weeks ago. Totally didn’t help me! Lol
Post # 12
@runsyellowlites: Your answers are pretty much exactly the same as mine, so I won’t bother writing them out again.
Post # 13
One thing I will add is that if you have torn you can re-tear when you have sex, so take it very easily the first few times. Maybe TMI but I talked to a lady once who tore very badly (she even tore her clitorus, which I didn’t even know was possible) and even 18 months after the birth she still tears after sex most of the time.
Post # 14
@PrincessConsuelaBananaHammock: Omg torn clitorus …. I almost fainted… :-O
Ooooouch. Ladies I am nOw slightly terrified to TTC
Post # 15
Oh my god!!! I feel a little sick, I had heard stories like this and was hoping it was a myth and I could just wiggle a bit and it would fall out!! Jk!
Post # 16
@PrincessConsuelaBananaHammock: She tore her clitarus! I just squeezed my legs tight ahhhhhh I can’t even imagine that happening.