- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
Dont stress…..I was making myself SICK over the thought of putting on another bridal dress after 1 horrible experience where i felt like a freak of nature because i didnt wear a size 00….
But I surrounded myself with people WHO BRING ME UP! yes I broke tradition, I took my FMIL dress shopping with 1 of my good friends….and I left my OVER CRITICAL sister, and my sometimes bring me down mom at home, I did not want 1 single person who would be like…”oh my god i would never let you wear that you look fat”….the F word (fat) was not issued once during my day….my FMIL and BFF, were soo supportive….as was the lady at the salon….I was one of like 5 “big” girls who were there that day, but my lady (who actually owned the store), was so nice and supportive, she talked me into dresses that I would have never put on… and was very supportive and encouraging me to keep going, and to work with what i liked from each dress, and what i hated and what could make me most comfortable in each dress….it was A WONDERFUL experience….I went somewhere where I made sure they had REAL PLUS SIZE GOWNS not ohh we carry a size 10-12….they had probably 20 dresses that were a size 20 plus all different designers….and we worked and narrowing down what I WANTED AS A BRIDE! NOT FINDING A “FAT-GIRLS WEDDING DRESS”….it was amazing!! I even possibly found THE dress….but i had so much fun and built up soo much confidence that I am going to anoter appointment at a different salon next week, and one next month….to make sure it is THE dress that i have found…
Bee’s I can not tell you how important it is to surround your self with people who bring you up!! Dont take the people with you who make you insecure no matter how much it is “tradition” to bring that person with you….take me for example….my mom and sister are quick to let me know if i look fat, or my arm flab is too much, or poke my stomach if i gain weight….even though both are infact larger then I am….and if you do bring them….make sure that you have PEOPLE WHO WILL SHUT THEM DOWN AND SHUT THEM UP if they start to bring you down….it dosent matter what they think of your weight…if they think your fat just sit down smile and say you look pretty…not you look pretty but you would be awesome if you lost x pounds and did this and this…..
make sure you surround yourself with a SMALL GROUP of positive people who are on the same page as you!! One poor gal in the store was in tears half the appointment cuz her friends were horrible and so was i think it was her mom….that were making fat jokes while she was changing….it was terrible and it was 4 of her 7 people were ganging up on her…..and the 3 that were supportive were overshadowed in all the voices….she left no dress hearing diet advice….(I am still in shock that their are people out there that are like that and go with the “I am just brutaly honest shell thank me for it”crap…no your a douche and need to get some raid to take of that bug!)
But anywho back to the point of this….On the way to the store I told my FMIL and BFF that I was scared i would look bad, and how nervous i was, the reminded me, that FI loves me no matter what size I am, and that there is soo much more to beauty then your jean size…..plus it helped that my BFF just recently got married and told me there were alot of dresses she couldnt even fit in, and she is like a size 10 street size! which is crazy…..
If i could tell you what made it fun for me…..it would be
1.) bring the right people,and moderation with amount of people!
2.) Be open minded!
3.) feel pretty BEFORE trying the dresses on! (dont roll up ratty hair, sweats, grumming around….rock a cute outfit, do your makeup and a similiar hairstyle to what you will do or are thinking about doing…ie 1/2 up 1/2 down, all up, down….just to see with the dress!)
4.) if it dosent fit keep your chin up, your bridal consultant should NEVER Put you in a dress that cant be made to fit you comfortably…..
5.) wear the right things underneath!! good strapless bra, if your worried, rock some spanks…..and ohhh brightly colored panties and bras if you put on certain dresses are pretty noticeable…so maybe skip your fave lime green panties!
I now feel like a weight has been lifted and that i CAN be a beautiful bride! I dont have to weigh 80 lbs to feel pretty and find things that are gorgeous!!
so i will post pics of the stock pics of what very well maybe *MY* dress! I am soo excited!
—-Just remember to love yourself! and IF YOU DECIDE TO CHANGE PART OF WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE….DO IT FOR YOURSELF AND NOT FOR THE WEDDING YOUR FIANCE LOVES YOU FOR YOU! SO CHIN UP AND LOVE YOURSELF! if you want to shred, like I am do it for your LIFE not your wedding!
kisses bees! I am in a fabulous mood!