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Our's is secular. We're having a photobooth company come in and have a photobooth that holds up to 8 people so they can take their picture and have fun. We get a copy of all the photos taken on a disk so it should be interesting! We're having a cash bar and music. The entertaining factor will be dancing and the picture booth. Good luck!
We will have alcohol at our wedding, but nothing crazy. I have been to many dry weddings, but always assume that it's because the couple is personally against alcohol. We are not (we're very against underage drinking and crazy drunkenness in general, but we love a good glass of wine or beer respectively). Our "cocktail hour", however, will have a cash bar located in another room. Our venue has a licensed pub where they normally have cocktail hours, but we've optioned to have appetizers out on the deck instead (basically, we're not providing the alcohol so as to not make anyone uncomfortable, but for those who really want it, they're free to go get it.) At dinner, we will serve wine (with a pre-decided budget told to the caterers) and have a champagne toast, but we will have plenty of non-alcoholic options too.
We're having an iPod wedding, so the music will all be ours. That way, we can use all the "secular" music that we love and not have to worry about a DJ playing anything offensive or not in our taste. We're big music snobs people, so we wanted control. :)
I'm not worried about entertaining different sorts of people. all of our guests are people that get along with us and see eye to eye with us about what it means to have fun.
I think that's a brilliant idea...we're doing the ipod thing too, when I meant secular I meant the offensive songs, that makes you feel more like you're at the club than an event of one such as a nice elegant wedding...sounds like everything is going to go well for you...The only thing with my situation is we chose to have the reception in the fellowhip hall of the church we're getting married in(holds over 300 people and was included with the use of the sanctuary, so I had to choose to curb alot of things, so we just opted to have a nice dinner over nice music and have the little bouquet tossing and all of those kinds of things, basically we're doing everything that you would have at a normal reception except the dancing and the hard liquor...I hope my guests have just as much fun!!
I think believers can with good conscience be entertained by secular music and alcohol as long as they practice self control. (no swearing or racy lyrics, but definitely some hip hop techno, dance music) We served alcohol and had a variety of music at our wedding.
We were not going to be legalists and I wasn't going to cater my wedding to our guests. We did what we liked in good conscience.
Your guests will have fun regardless, because they're there to celebrate you...and they'll do it your style-whatever that involves!
Isn't there a story in the Bible about Jesus making wine for a wedding? Obviously it's not my place to judge, but I'm not sure God is against alcohol!
I think you're reception sounds very nice! I've been to a few receptions that are just like that. They had the first dance and the bride and her father, but nothing else. It was hard for the church to let them do it, but they did and it was beautiful.
I don't think the alcohol is a big issue, unless you're in a church hall that doesn't permit it. Guest are just that, guests. My favorite wedding line people have been giving me is.. "It's your wedding, do what you want." As long as my personal testimony isn't harmed by my wrongs, I don't care if some of the guests feel free to do what they would do anyway. They know our stand on issues and most if not all won't cross the line.
Yes, we are having "club" type music. I'm not one who believes dancing is wrong and neither do our families. I'm big into country so we'll have a lot of that too.
Yes I agree well I was assuming they wouldn't want me to do certain things but maybe I'll ask the church officials do they mind wine...well if we think about it the wine ran out at the wedding in the bible and Jesus did a major refill...I know alcohol isn't a sin is the overkill that is that make you become another person...soI'm not condemning anyone about their reception, but I was asking a question how are you good christian girls doing a reception with all kinds of people...for instance my mother is a minister, a lot of his family are ministers and pastors and the whole nine so we just want EVERYbody to be comfortable, but you all are right it is our wedding. Thanks for the comments, keep 'em coming. That's how we say it down here in SC!!:0)
We're not having alcohol at our wedding, just because I don't drink and my soon-to-be husband rarely does, and good portion of our friends don't either. I don't think we'll have secular music. I wouldn't mind it as long as we picked stuff that we liked, but I'm kind of letting my fiance take care of the music side of things. He hates to dance so he doesn't see the point in having music for dancing, other than our one song (I did suggest that maybe other people would like to dance, but I don't think he saw the point :-P), so I think he's planning mainly Christian music, though it'll include some upbeat stuff. I think I'd prefer some music that people could dance to, but there are enough other details that I really care about that I figured I'd let him have his way with that one :-)
I think that as long as the guest which is friends and family are having a good time, that's all that matters. So whether alcohol and booty shaking music is played, or not, if everybody is smiling and just having a good time I think it's a success. I pray that God bless your marriages!!!!!
we're doing an ipod reception with some secular music. it won't be anything like at a club, it'll pertain to a wedding. we're not having alcohol though, i'll be underage and fiances side of the family(most of them) won't come if we do have any alcohol. we're going to set it up so that people have fun.
@ lizza66 - yes, that was Jesus' first miracle. Of course, there are many churches who still say that alcohol is a sin (most just insist that drunkenness is a sin, but since it id hard to define drunk they look down on alcohol all together.) Some of these churches argue that wine back then had a lower alcohol content and such, but I'm not so sure that's true.
Anyway, I do not have a problem with alcohol in moderation. In fact, I quite enjoy it. I have friends and relatives who do feel that way, though (there will also be a recovering alcoholic), so we don't want to make the alcohol too plentiful or available so as not to offend those people. In the same sense, though, I don't want a totally dry wedding so as not to imply that I have such strict feelings on alcohol.
But yeah, we're doing everything we can to personalize our wedding so it represents us and glorifys God while making it fun! (Including our iPod selections, a photobooth, writing our own ceremony, etc)
We aren't walking on eggshells for our wedding. The reception will be dry, mostly as a cost-cutting measure, but we'll have an afterparty with beer and wine after his hardcore-Mormon family has all gone home for the night and it's just we protestants and 'heathens'. ^_~ We're doing a laptop wedding (no iPods here!) and playing music based on requests from RSVPs as well as from our very eclectic assortment of music, some CCM and some 'normal'. We've had some great requests, though, like Cat Scratch Fever and the Meow Mix song. We won't have dedicated dance space; folks can just break into dance wherever they want, but I think we will do a first dance ("When God Made You", "Everything I Do (I Do It For You)", and "Move Your Body" are the options we're debating on). We will also be honouring the same-sex couples as well as the opposite-sex couples during our ceremony and are just hoping that noone yells too much.
yes, having quite a bit of Christian/Gospel at the ceremony, some Gospel dance music at the reception, but mostly secular dance music- nothing really nasty or lewd. There will be alcohol- our families practically require it (they like to drink and be merry) and it wasn't much more of an expense to our per-head price. We also drink in moderation. I don't believe in being legalistic- who am I trying to force to live with my own convictions? That doesn't bring anyone to Christ. People need to act on their own convictions (which are real for them), not my own. Your biggest testimony is how you live your life, not what you preach out of your mouth.
We will have it (And yes, I will be legal by the time our wedding rolls around) in coolers and such so the guests may help themselves as they please. Those who don't want to drink don't have to. I am also going to be using our iPod so that I have control over what we get to dance to and hear. It's an outside wedding, so we won't have to worry about any rules applying to what we wish to play. = )
We're not having alcohol at our wedding, similar to an earlier poster neither of us drink and neither do our parents. Music wise (something that is really important to us!) two of our friends are DJing and have asked us for the list of songs, both Christian and Secular so we're going to have the best of both worlds. My worst nightmare would be to have a DJ who didn't listen to your requests and starts playing some really bad music (foul language and dodgy lyrics etc). Hopefully this way we can control that.
This was a tough decision for us! My family is religious - doesn't drink much, and rarely dance. FI's family is not religious - they love cocktail hour best and wanted a band to dance to! I wanted to avoid having to compromise and just elope. LOL. My parents are paying for the wedding and they decided what alcohol and such they were willing to pay for. FI's parents have offered to pay the difference to upgrade to a full open bar (vs. a beer/wine/sig.drink) and to pay for a band. This was the easiest compromise we could find. My mom told me yesterday how she was at a wedding and the groom asked everyone to dance respectfully, "No grinding please." So she wants FI to make the same announcement . . . I'm not sure that after an open bar, that'll happen though!
We'll have secular music & try to throw in some Christian music-I want more of the traditional wedding dance music as well as songs we like & we'll take requests. I love country music so I'm really looking forward to a reception that actually plays country music.
As for alcohol, we'll have it-an open bar-but we're unsure for how long. I'm perfectly fine for 2 hours, but my parents want like 3-4 hours & then are complaining about the cost of it. The FH could care less about it & would prefer it's not open-it's quite a struggle & each side wants me on it, but I really could care less either way. It's not important about how much alcohol there is-just how everyone enjoys themselves & that we have a good time.
heheheh - sorry, this post makes me giggle a little. We had LOTS of alcohol and the priest and all the church members all drank, sang along with our secular music, and danced like crazy til the lights came on. But then, we are Episcopalians so we are always a bit crazy. ;-)
I think it'll have to reflect your own lifestyle -- if you drink (at least around your family and friends), then go for alcohol! If you listen to secular music, then why not use it?
We're most likely not going to have alcohol at our reception, half because my mom's family doesn't drink, and half because of the cost... I guess you could say we're blaming it on my mom's family, but really I find the cost savings to be a bigger benefit. If we do an afternoon ceremony, we're considering an after party at a the hotel bar with our bridal party and some friends, but family probably won't be around for that part the festivities. :)
Yeah I was a bit confused as well. We're having the priest that's marrying us at our wedding, with plenty of beer, wine and champagne and hopefully lots of dancing and it didn't even cross my mind that anything would be wrong with that, I guess I don't understand why anything would be wrong, we read the bible together, it's not like we are un-Christian, I guess we didn't pick out songs to be played that are hate filled but I haven't really been to weddings that have done that.
We are having wine & beer along with other tasty options. I'm not sure how much more dancing we will do than the "traditional" dances and a few slow songs. Neither FI or I are into dancing much (as we realized last night at a wedding!). We still want to have a live band play.
Even under the flag of "Christianity" this is going to be a different answer depending on your own beliefs as well as those of your Church.
I will be serving alcohol at my reception and having dancing. My only request to the DJ is to keep it clean and nothing overly suggestive. (i.e. no thong song or anything else of that nature.)
But I have no problem with alcohol or dancing...
I've been to weddings that are Dry weddings, and non-dancing weddings. Usually if you fall into any of those categories the majority of your family/friends/guests will too so stay true to yourself. In the off chance a "friend" complains about the lack of alcohol... are they really a good friend?
we will be having secular music at the reception but nothing with swearing, etc..and we will also be having alcohol, although we rarely drink, we just figured we'd have it because some of our guests enjoy..
I am totally guilty of going semi- off topic... I will get to the main point, I promise! lol...
I was recently at a conference where the speaker brought up the whole secular vs Christian music - meaning why is it seperated... why is Christianity the only one. Why can't Skillet be alt rock and not its own genere "christian or inspirational". and the bands that do put out music in the "secular world" we call "crossover artists". (Switchfoot, The Fray)
If you really think about it it doesn't make sense.. why do they get seperated based on religion. . .It easily becomes an "us vs them" view. (which I am not accusing anyone of - I never thought anythign of it until this speaker talked about it) anyway.. just to get everyone thinking :) (if you are interested in more about what I said.. the speaker was Brett Ullman) www.brettullman.com Highly recommend him and his teaching! Truely a man after God's heart.
The on topic response: At our wedding we are having .. music. lol. but nothing with swearing or too sketchy of lyrics. There will be alchol but no open bar.. maybe a twoonie bar (which I just realized is very Canadian of me). We wont be promoting drinking but it is available.
There was no alcohol at our wedding. Neither my husband or I are drinkers. I don't think that anybody was too disappointed not to have drinking at our casual outdoor afternoon wedding.
As for music, nothing such as 'Brickhouse' or 'Baby Got Back' was played. If we had stuck with our original recessional song, we would have had some My Chemical Romance, but even that song was relatively mild for the band. The worst song we had was probably for the cake cutting, because based on how you listen to the song, it sounds inappropriate, but it's talking about actual sugar and not what it sounds like. Otherwise, only if someone was offended by us playing a Japanese song and thought there was cussing involved.
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What kind of reception are you having? Will there be secular music and alcohol, how are you going to entertain, believers and unbelievers at the same time?