(Closed) To All The Christian Girls…

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Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Our’s is secular. We’re having a photobooth company come in and have a photobooth that holds up to 8 people so they can take their picture and have fun. We get a copy of all the photos taken on a disk so it should be interesting! We’re having a cash bar and music. The entertaining factor will be dancing and the picture booth. Good luck!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We will have alcohol at our wedding, but nothing crazy. I have been to many dry weddings, but always assume that it’s because the couple is personally against alcohol. We are not (we’re very against underage drinking and crazy drunkenness in general, but we love a good glass of wine or beer respectively). Our “cocktail hour”, however, will have a cash bar located in another room. Our venue has a licensed pub where they normally have cocktail hours, but we’ve optioned to have appetizers out on the deck instead (basically, we’re not providing the alcohol so as to not make anyone uncomfortable, but for those who really want it, they’re free to go get it.) At dinner, we will serve wine (with a pre-decided budget told to the caterers) and have a champagne toast, but we will have plenty of non-alcoholic options too.

We’re having an iPod wedding, so the music will all be ours. That way, we can use all the “secular” music that we love and not have to worry about a DJ playing anything offensive or not in our taste. We’re big music snobs people, so we wanted control. 🙂

 

I’m not worried about entertaining different sorts of people. all of our guests are people that get along with us and see eye to eye with us about what it means to have fun.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think believers can with good conscience be entertained by secular music and alcohol as long as they practice self control.  (no swearing or racy lyrics, but definitely some hip hop techno, dance music) We served alcohol and had a variety of music at our wedding.

We were not going to be legalists and I wasn’t going to cater my wedding to our guests.  We did what we liked in good conscience.

Your guests will have fun regardless, because they’re there to celebrate you…and they’ll do it your style-whatever that involves!

Post # 7
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Wannabee

Isn’t there a story in the Bible about Jesus making wine for a wedding?  Obviously it’s not my place to judge, but I’m not sure God is against alcohol! 

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I think you’re reception sounds very nice! I’ve been to a few receptions that are just like that. They had the first dance and the bride and her father, but nothing else. It was hard for the church to let them do it, but they did and it was beautiful.

I don’t think the alcohol is a big issue, unless you’re in a church hall that doesn’t permit it. Guest are just that, guests. My favorite wedding line people have been giving me is.. “It’s your wedding, do what you want.” As long as my personal testimony isn’t harmed by my wrongs, I don’t care if some of the guests feel free to do what they would do anyway. They know our stand on issues and most if not all won’t cross the line.

Yes, we are having “club” type music. I’m not one who believes dancing is wrong and neither do our families. I’m big into country so we’ll have a lot of that too.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We’re not having alcohol at our wedding, just because I don’t drink and my soon-to-be husband rarely does, and good portion of our friends don’t either. I don’t think we’ll have secular music. I wouldn’t mind it as long as we picked stuff that we liked, but I’m kind of letting my fiance take care of the music side of things. He hates to dance so he doesn’t see the point in having music for dancing, other than our one song (I did suggest that maybe other people would like to dance, but I don’t think he saw the point :-P), so I think he’s planning mainly Christian music, though it’ll include some upbeat stuff. I think I’d prefer some music that people could dance to, but there are enough other details that I really care about that I figured I’d let him have his way with that one 🙂

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

we’re doing an ipod reception with some secular music. it won’t be anything like at a club, it’ll pertain to a wedding. we’re not having alcohol though, i’ll be underage and fiances side of the family(most of them) won’t come if we do have any alcohol. we’re going to set it up so that people have fun.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@ lizza66 – yes, that was Jesus’ first miracle. Of course, there are many churches who still say that alcohol is a sin (most just insist that drunkenness is a sin, but since it id hard to define drunk they look down on alcohol all together.) Some of these churches argue that wine back then had a lower alcohol content and such, but I’m not so sure that’s true.

Anyway, I do not have a problem with alcohol in moderation. In fact, I quite enjoy it. I have friends and relatives who do feel that way, though (there will also be a recovering alcoholic), so we don’t want to make the alcohol too plentiful or available so as not to offend those people. In the same sense, though, I don’t want a totally dry wedding so as not to imply that I have such strict feelings on alcohol.

 

But yeah, we’re doing everything we can to personalize our wedding so it represents us and glorifys God while making it fun! (Including our iPod selections, a photobooth, writing our own ceremony, etc)

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We aren’t walking on eggshells for our wedding. The reception will be dry, mostly as a cost-cutting measure, but we’ll have an afterparty with beer and wine after his hardcore-Mormon family has all gone home for the night and it’s just we protestants and ‘heathens’. ^_~  We’re doing a laptop wedding (no iPods here!) and playing music based on requests from RSVPs as well as from our very eclectic assortment of music, some CCM and some ‘normal’. We’ve had some great requests, though, like Cat Scratch Fever and the Meow Mix song. We won’t have dedicated dance space; folks can just break into dance wherever they want, but I think we will do a first dance (“When God Made You”, “Everything I Do (I Do It For You)”, and “Move Your Body” are the options we’re debating on). We will also be honouring the same-sex couples as well as the opposite-sex couples during our ceremony and are just hoping that noone yells too much.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

yes, having quite a bit of Christian/Gospel at the ceremony, some Gospel dance music at the reception, but mostly secular dance music- nothing really nasty or lewd. There will be alcohol- our families practically require it (they like to drink and be merry)  and it wasn’t much more of an expense to our per-head price. We also drink in moderation. I don’t believe in being legalistic- who am I trying to force to live with my own convictions? That doesn’t bring anyone to Christ. People need to act on their own convictions (which are real for them), not my own. Your biggest testimony is how you live your life, not what you preach out of your mouth.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We will have it (And yes, I will be legal by the time our wedding rolls around) in coolers and such so the guests may help themselves as they please. Those who don’t want to drink don’t have to. I am also going to be using our iPod so that I have control over what we get to dance to and hear. It’s an outside wedding, so we won’t have to worry about any rules applying to what we wish to play. = )

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