Post # 1
Was that something you both wanted? How was it? Did it help calm the nerves?
I’m asking because I want to bring up the idea to FI, not sure how he will react to it. Can you ladies give me advice on it? How did it go for you and how did you and FI feel? Thanks!
Post # 3
It was the best idea!
1) We had a moment to talk! and we still got the first look moment. It didnt change because we did in in private in a room vs down an aisle
2) Pictures were not rushed
3) We got to enjoy more of our wedding!
4) I still cried like a baby walking down the aisle. In no way does it take away from the walk. When I saw him, it was only the first time that day and the first time he saw me in my dress. When I walked down the aisle it was for the purpose of getting married. It is still very emotional to think “He is waiting there to marry me.” And besides, everyone else is watching you walk and seeing you for the first time all done up.
Post # 4
My husband didn’t care either way. I loved having the time together before hand to relax and take great pictures together. And it didn’t take away from the walk down the aisle either.
Post # 5
I didn’t really give DH a choice. Neither of us are super traditional, so I just said “We’re doing all the photos before so we don’t have a huge time gap” and he said “Good idea” and that was that. LOL!
Post # 6
I am so glad we did it! And yes, it was something we both decided we wanted. I was very anxious the whole day, but when I came downstairs and saw him waiting for me I felt so much calmer. And, it really helped to take our pics together before hand (we had a 6pm wedding that went straight to cocktails…so would have been tight if we tried to get that all in during cocktail hour). I totally agree with pp about reasons for doing it! I would recommend it.
Post # 7
Was that something you both wanted?
It was something we wanted, in a way, becaus ewe wanted to have a special moment. The way the venue was set up, he would have seen me before the aisle anyway.
How was it?
It was really great. We intended it to be just us and the photographer, but the WP follwed us up there. Less than private.
Did it help calm the nerves?
I wasn’t nervous to begin with, but I did cry during the first look and not the ceremony, so maybe I got it out of the way.
Post # 8
I’m seriously SO glad we did it. It was our little moment alone (minus the two photogs and my moh). It was amazing to see his expression seeing me all dressed up. I def recommend doing it.
Post # 9
It took a while for DH to warm up to the idea of a First Look. I brought it up, and he wasn’t into the idea at first…. or, he felt like if we *did* do it, it should be right before the ceremony.
But, as time went on, and we started really looking at the logistics of the day, and all the photos we wanted to get, we started to realize that there was no way we could get all those pictures and wait until the ceremony to see each other.
And once we decided to do it, he seemed happy about it- he liked that we were scheduling 45 minutes of time just for the two of us, were we could talk, get photos, and not have to deal with anybody else. (Because, trust me, you will have several people stressing you out that day)
And it was 100% worth it. We both cried when we first saw each other, and we were actually able to keep it together during the ceremony. (It wasn’t easy, but we did it).
Plus, we were able to roam around the gardens where the ceremony was located and get shots that we wouldn’t have otherwise gotten.
Post # 10
I had mentioned it but then when we got closer it seemed it wouldn’t fit in with the timing of the day.
But DH wouldn’t take no for an answer. He was insistent on seeing me beforehand.
I am **SO** glad we did it. He cried like crazy, which of course made me cry. We were able to do a bunch of pictures together of just us before the ceremony.
And it didn’t change anything at all about seeing each other there – we both still cried, it still felt amazing, but we were able to focus better on the things that were being said, what we were saying, and how we felt during our ceremony.
I haven’t seen any pictures from that part of the day yet, but I can’t wait!
It definitely cut down on DH’s stress level, mine too. We also did a day after shoot which I can’t recommend enough!
Post # 11
We did it for religious reasons (we had to sign the ketubah first anyway). But I’m so glad we did it. When my rabbi brought it up, I was actually the one that was iffy about it, and my husband said we could do whatever I wanted. I always pictured our “first look” being when I walked down the aisle, but the more I thought about it the more I liked the idea of seeing him before the ceremony. Like you said, it really helped calm the nerves, and I felt like it was way more intimate b/c it was just us (and the photographer way off in the background) instead of everyone that was invited to the wedding.
Post # 12
Thank you all ladies, this is great feedback. FI is very adament about not seeing me until I walk down the isle, I would love to do first look, maybe I can slowly convince him.
Post # 13
My DH originally wanted to not do a first look. I made up two timelines–one with a first look and doing pictures before the ceremony and one with no look and pictures after. Seeing the time it would cut out of photos after the ceremony (letting us enjoy the reception more). That combined with the fact we decided to walk down the aisle together, made him change his opinion.
In the end, it turned out to be a great decision. We were able to get almost all of the family pictures out of the way before the ceremony. We finished so quickly, that we were able to have about half an hour to ourselves before we were announced at the reception.
Post # 14
I’m so glad we did it. DH had never heard of it, so he was like “wait aren’t I supposed to not see you before the ceremony?” When i explained the concept, he was actually really relieved that we could do that whole thing in private with just a couple photographers, as opposed to in front of all our guests. We also knew that he’d be anxious all day until the ceremony was over (he hates being on a stage), so hanging out with me for the couple hours beforehand (taking pictures and signing our ketubah) would be much more relaxing than just being with his guys in a separate area.
Post # 15
I’m soo glad we did. Since we were getting married @ a local park, we wouldn’t be able to get any pictures of us on my favorite beach. We were running about an hour late so we were both really stressed. Nothing was really going as planned but when we saw each other for the first time, Time did stop. Our first look was AMAZING. It was great to just chat a little, laugh, and take some photos w/ just us and our photographer. We were both soo relaxed, we didn’t want the shoot to end.lol
Also it didn’t take away from when we first saw each other @ our ceremony. We were both soo excited to get married, we hugged, kissed, and laughed. And of course, I cried. And he dried my eyes.
Two moments that will always be precious to us:)
Just tell your FI that its required.
Post # 16
Thanks ladies… so a quick update.
Today we went to the church we will be getting married at and after church I started speaking about First Look. FI asked what that was and I explained to him, his first answer was “NO, never, it is bad luck to see you before the church, bla bla bla…. ” I asked him to think about it for a bit, it might be a good idea for us, gave him some pretty good reasons too, thanks to you bees.
To that he said: “there’s nothing to think about, I wanna see you for the first time walking down the aisle”. Being that I am kinda traditional at heart, I’m kinda glad he said that hihi….
But I’m still interested in hearing anyone else’s experience with their first look. 🙂 Thanks ladies!