To all the girls with "Dress Regret"

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@bigcitydiamonds:  Not to try to contradict you, but I have seen a few posts here where brides regretted the look of their dress in photos after the wedding. Some of this I would attribute to improper fit and tailoring, but it has happened.

This is directed toward you, but brides that are wondering about finding the one or those questioning their dresses. I think what it’s really about is finding a dress that you feel beautiful in. If you don’t feel like a bride and feel beautiful in your dress then it’s not the one. If your dress makes you feel beautiful then don’t worry and enjoy your wedding. I think if someone buys a dress that they love at the time of purchase then they need to stop looking! I was second guessing my dress since it was so different from what I originally wanted, but I kept remembering how great it made me feel, and when it came in, I knew it was the right choice. 

Post # 4
1002 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@bigcitydiamonds my co-worker loved her dress until after her wedding, she said it was super heavy and she could barely move or dance.  But, I think it was really kind of you to post this and try to help out the girls who are upset about their dresses.  Love the positivity 🙂

Post # 5
3415 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

@bigcitydiamonds:  I had dress regret and sold that dress to purchase a new dress.  If I had just stayed with my original dress would I have still been happy with my day, probably, BUT I know that I would have looked at my dress and been like “Meh”.  It wasn’t THE ONE and I bought hastily.  After purchasing my first dress I never once couldn’t wait to wear it.  My new dress I look at pictures at least once a week and I get excited when I see it, think about it, think about my big day.  Its how I think all brides should think about their dresses.

Now is every brides dress regret really “dress regret” or just the fear of the unknown?  Probably.  But I’m a firm believer that if the brides FEELS in her gut that she made a wrong choice, than they should do what they feel is right to make sure they feel their best that day.

Post # 7
2051 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@futuregattman:  “I was second guessing my dress since it was so different from what I originally wanted, but I kept remembering how great it made me feel, and when it came in, I knew it was the right choice.”

Thank you so much for posting this! I’ve also been second guessing my dress because it’s completely the opposite of what I imagined myself in, the model pics aren’t great, and I haven’t tried it on for 3 months now… I keep trying to remind myself that when I tried it on I felt FABULOUS. I hope I have the same experience as you that when it finally comes in I will know it’s the one!

Post # 8
425 posts
Helper bee

I just giggled because all this talk about finding THE wedding dress sounds like a similar process for finding a spouse. I can’t say for sure, but I would imagine a bride would feel a lot of pressure – real or perceived – to have only shot for a ‘perfect’ wedding and that is probably where the stress of getting all the details down perfectly and ‘dress regret’ comes from.

Yes, it is important to take a step back every once in a while and remember the important things in life are not banking on which wedding dress you wear/wore.

Post # 9
171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Audrey2:  Glad I could make you feel a little bit better! I felt the exact same way! Looking at pictures of me in the sample all clipped up the dress just did not look that great even though somehow I felt great in it. I tend to stress out in general, but it was really starting to freak me out that I had just settled because I was tired or something lol. Here’s a picture of me in the sample versus my actual dress so you can see what I mean, and I’m sure your dress will be the same way!

Me in the sample #1

Sample #2

My actual dress!!

Post # 10
7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I always wonder about dress regret. Like, you go through the hassle of finding a dress you like enough to buy, suddenly change your mind, and then decide to do the whole annoying process over again… and likely incur more expenses and the hassle of trying to return/sell the old dress. All this for a dress you’ll be wearing for a few hours.

Totally overused phrase, but in 99% of “dress regret” cases, I think to myself… FIRST WORLD PROBLEMS.

Was my dress my dream dress? No, not really (not that I really had one in mind) but it did the job. I felt beautiful on the day, people complimented it, and the photos turned out well.


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