To all the “long-term waiting” bees, from one to another…some kind words I hope

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
18 posts

a good reminder, just what i needed to hear 🙂

congratulations on the engagement!

Post # 3
2455 posts
Buzzing bee

BrandyQ:  FI and I were together 8 years before he proposed 🙂

I love that we waited so long and know each other so well and so deeply.

I used to get all of the “if he hasn’t done it by now, he won’t!” comments too. They don’t know what they’re talking about and they don’t know us.

Post # 4
59 posts
Worker bee

Thank you for this. I tend to get caught up in pressure from others and let all those negative thoughts creep in. We’re not engaged yet (8 1/2 years) but I have to remind myself that if we were in a better place financially, we would have been married long ago. We need to get our finances in order and have enough to feel comfortable and not living paycheck to paycheck before we combine our lives. We’re almost there, and I know one day it will happen. Thanks for the reminder 🙂

Post # 5
1585 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I was in the same boat for a very very long time too.  In the end I waited till my BF at the time was ready(with a little presure here and there, haha).  We have been happily married for 2 yrs and have a adorable son now.  Looking back I’m glad we waited so that both of us could be on the same page.  Good luck waiting girls!!

Post # 6
446 posts
Helper bee

BrandyQ:  Thank you, thank you, thank you! I’ve been with my SO for seven years, and I’m having such a hard time with waiting right now. He and I have been dating for years longer than many people, and I’ve watched them all get engaged, married, and some even have children. He has three siblings who have all gotten engaged or married within the last six months, and he and I have been dating for years longer. He assures me that he wants to get married, but some days it’s so hard. I feel like I’m holding on by a thread. I’ve been getting significant pressure from my parents because they are concerned that it will never happen. Deep down, I know he loves me and wants to marry me. In the meantime, I feel like this waiting is hell.

Post # 7
1535 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

FI proposed on our 6th anniversary. I was a waiting bee on this board for 1 year prior. you can read so many of my frustrating posts on here i’m sure! We’re having a 2 year engagement, so we’ll be getting married just after our 8th anniversary.

It was soooooooooooo hard waiting, but now I’m so happy. The timing really is perfect for us and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I’ve had a couple bees on here comment about how 6 years was too long before FI proposed, but every couple is different. our commitment to eachother was just as strong before being engaged, nothing has changed, so try not to compare your relationship to other. i think that is the hardest part

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