(Closed) To all the waiting bees out there

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1237 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Great message HoneyBun, especially the part about being the girl he fell in love with. I need to keep this in mind when I hear myself start to nag and be annoying. And that’s when I’ll come here and vent to all the lovely bees instead!!

Post # 4
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1408 posts
Bumble bee

And don’t analyze everything he does and everything he says.  Don’t become boderline obssessive…

Post # 5
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34 posts
Newbee

This is so very true! Sometimes we just need to put things into perspective. 

Post # 6
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2271 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

The waiting posts make me sad. I rarely read them for that reason. As much as I love DH, I would not have been devastated if he never asked me to marry him. It makes me sad to think a modern woman would think she has to get married in order to be happy. It makes me sad to think of all the time and energy spent being depressed and disappointed because the SO hasn’t proposed yet. It’s kind of like all the progress made by women over the past hundred years just got thrown out the window.

Now before someone jumps all over this post, please note that I am not saying anything about anybody. It’s just how I feel. And when someone is all elated because they have gotten the anxiously awaited proposal I am happy for them. It’s just that sometimes we spend so much time wanting something so badly that we forget to take pleasure in what we already have.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

@bluespurrs: “It’s just that sometimes we spend so much time wanting something so badly that we forget to take pleasure in what we already have.”

I would definitely agree with that for sure. It seems people are constantly waiting for things. Waiting to finish high school, waiting to get a job, waiting to get married, waiting to have kids, ect ect instead of enjoying the stage they are now.

That said, marriage is important to me (especially as someone who is religious) so I certainly would not be content with never getting married. Personally, I think this whole thing could be solved if getting engaged was more of a joint decision that a couple makes together instead of the male deciding when it’s time and “surprising” her. Sure, it may be more romantic that way, but currently many women feel like they don’t have control over their own lives because their boyfriend gets to decide when they will take that next very important step, which would make many anxious I think.

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