Post # 1
I’m in the same boat as you. I face judgement and riducule every single day of my life for being engaged so young (I’m 19 FI is 21.) Do I care? No. Do I think I know everything about marriage? Hell no. Am I going to learn as I go and grow with my FH? Yes. Will I make mistakes?Yes. Am I perfect and do I think I’ve got the world figured out? NO. Do I love my FI with all my heart and am I ready to take that next step for us to grow together? You betcha. I’ve been with this man for 4 years. He isn’t the same as he was when he was 17 either, but I still love him. “People change over the years.” they say….”You might fall out of love with him” they say…but is that not true at any age? “You’re missing out on all the fun” I hear all the time. Last I checked my FI and I have TONS of fun. We go out, we party, we hang out with friends. Life is good. Radiology school is awesome. FI has a stable job and he supports me while I’m finishing school. Our wedding is in March and my family is extremely excited! I guess the approval of my family is all I need 🙂 It’s really only people who don’t know my FI and I from Adam who are judging….people who know us and love us (friends and family) are supporting our decision 100% and for that I am truly grateful 🙂
Post # 3
@bride_to_b_2014: My FI & I are the same age as you! I know exactly what you mean. I get lots of odd looks when people find out how old we are (we look older) and that we’re getting married. Granted, in the area we live in, it’s pretty common for people to marry at a young age. I’m going to school to get my RN and he’s working at 911 and as a firefighter, so people see that we’re at least contributing to society and don’t push too hard.
We’ve only got a month and a half left until we’re married and I couldn’t be happier. Our families approve and we’ve grown so close over the 5 years we’ve known each other. He’s my best friend and the person who drives me to push myself and do my best.
Don’t get discouraged when people tell you that you’re “too young.” I just smile and go about my day.
Post # 4
i am also a young bride. & you have the right attitude. you have to live your life for you, not for the people around you judging you, who more than likely dont know your situation. at the end of the day you have to do what makes you happy and if that mean getting married at the age of 15 so be it. ITS YOUR LIFE. i am already married and have been married for almost 3 months and i wouldnt change a thing about it. congrats !:)
Post # 5
Well congrats to yall and thanks for the input! I’m so glad to have people my age going through the same things I am! Also, it is very common where I live to get married young as well!…but people still react when we tell them we are engaged. I can’t have a normal conversation with someone mentioning my “fiance” without them going “OMG you’re engaged so young!.” haha but it doesn’t really bother me anymore.
Post # 6
Tsh! If you know he’s the one, and you love each other, then Why do you care what others think? Just ignore them!
I have 23 my FI too, and even then his mom thought we were “too young” until her husband told her “come on! Let them do it! We were 23 when we got married!” lol
My parencannot married at their 30’s but they never complained since my grandmas got married at 16-19 lol..
Post # 7
I feel old after reading this lol…But, to all of you I say go for it. If you love someone and want to spend the rest of your lives with that person then there is no one who has the right to say anything about it. Considering the ages people use to be married and I’m sure a lot of parents and people you know would have been married at your ages (if not a lot younger).
Everything is a life experience and I wish you all the happiness in the world
Post # 8
I agree! I’m 19, FI is 20. We’ve been together since we were 14/15, and how we have changed! We’re completely different people than we were when we met, but we’ve matured together, and I love him for who he is now, and I can’t wait to see how we’ll be when we’re older
Post # 9
@Mrs_powerz: oh i just noticed i wrote : my parencannot lol … its my parents got married at their 30’s..
Post # 10
So who are you justifying it to here?
Post # 11
@LadyMonster: I think she was just trying to encourage young brides that get judged and are having a difficult time with it. Doesn’t sound to me like she’s trying to justify her ddecisions
As long as you’re happy, it shouldn’t matter what others think IMO 🙂
Post # 12
I’m 23 and FI is 24, but to be honest when I hear about other people that are 23 and engaged, my first response is “What? Why are you getting married so young?”
But then I rememer that I’m 23 too… I think the age just sounds young, but really you are definitely old enough to have feelings and know what you want out of life.
I have a sister that got married when she was 19. Her and her husband are now mid 40’s and still very happily married.
FI’s parents got married when they were 20 and are now early 50’s and still happily married.
My brother got married when he was 27 (a more socially acceptable age) but he got divorced 5 years later.
Age doesn’t matter. Your attitude toward marriage is the only thing that counts.