Post # 1
I am a 50 year old Woman, with no children, who got married for the fisrt time in Aug. of 2011, after a long wait for Mr. Just right! I went to a Bridal Expo and looked in a few salons before deciding to have a very small service with family, then a few months later a luncheon to celebrate with our friends. One bit of advice. When a woman my age walks up to your table if at a show, or stops into your salon, DO NOT SAY TO HER WITH A PUZZLED LOOK ON YOUR FACE, “Oh, Mother of the Bride”?!?!?!?!?!?!?!!? It’s really embarassing when other people are there, trying to explain who you are. I envision if I said The Bride and proceeded to try on gowns, the workers would be making fun of the old woman trying on wedding gowns! I’m not saying you are, just made me feel like you would! I am very Happily married and glad I found just the right guy…just don’t make any other women my age feel awkward, we are just as excited to be a bride too!!!!
Post # 3
Amen. I have wanted comment since you originally posted, but I am speechless. It’s like the whole “age-appropriate” crap that I see on these boards. Just because I may have children older than some of the other bees, it doesn’t mean that I can’t be as giggly and excited about starting a life with the man of my dreams as they are.
Post # 4
I’ve done okay so far – I found the perfect LWD for my cocktail party wedding. The biggest frustration has been for my mother. I’m 40. She’s 73. MOB dresses seem to be targeted for women my age, not hers. She’s very stylish, but she’s modest. It’s been so difficult finding something that isn’t cut up to here and down to there, but also isn’t a polyester tent dress. We tried on everything we could find her own town and in the cities nearby. If anyone can find age-appropriate cocktail dresses that she could buy online, please let me know!
Post # 5
I completely agree! My FI & I are both in our 40s. When we went over to the hotel to pay the balance of our reception, the person processing our payment asked “so, is it your daughter’s wedding?” Uh, NO! We even said “we’re here to pay the balance on our wedding” and he still kept thinking it was for our child. We were both a little hurt by his comments. Yes, we’re no spring chickens, but geez…at least pay attention to what we’re saying and don’t make us feel OLD when we’re there! The catering manager has been wonderful through the whole process. She needs to trickle down that attitude to her employees.
Post # 6
@ProfessorGirl: That’s funny, my mom (who is 59) complained that it seemed like all of the mother-of-the-bride dresses were too matronly, and looked more like they were for the grandmothers. I guess no matter what, it’s hard to find something you like.
Post # 7
Amen! When I look at MOB dresses for my mother, they do look a little, matronly. Also, given that, the women in the pictures look like they are about 30! Give me a break!
Post # 8
Agreed! My wedding is over 2 years away and I will be 40 & my FI 41 the year of our wedding. I think brides, whether 1st timers or encores or over 40 should be treated equally. When I go dress shopping, I plan to screw them all over and take my mom and my then 20 year old AND my then 11 year old…let’s see what they do THEN..LOL
Post # 9
I know exactly how you feel, I’m 54 years old and a first-time bride, it’s the first for my 55 yr. old FI too – I went to bridal shows and was made to feel like crap…I’m determined to open up my own wedding planning business specifically for encore/older brides when I finish planning mine!
Post # 10
+1 Totally agree with all the posting. Thank God we are at the age where it does not crush us but we will definitely set the record straight…lol KUDOS
Post # 11
I can’t believe that we are that rare. I don’t think it should be odd that a 40, 50, 60 something person can get married. (and we even met on the internet, go figure!) Can you imagine someone my age knows how to use a computer, LOL?
Post # 12
I can’t believe people actually say this kind of stuff. I would never presume to ask any of those things–how hard is it to just politely say hi and listen to your potential customer?
Post # 13
Wow….what an ignorant comment! I’m planning a destination wedding with just the two of us, so luckily we are missing a lot of the wedding-planning hoohah where these kinds of comments might happen. I am lucky to look younger than my 45 years…but I’ve still gotten a lot of people commenting “It’s your FIRST time? and for HIM too?” Sorry, it took me some time to find my beloved, but better late than never! Sheesh.
Post # 14
I’m not a fan of Lisa Lampinelli, but had the opportunity to see her earlier this year and she had a whole routine around getting married last year at age 51 and some of the inappropriate, ridiculous comments people said. I bet we could pool together hours of fodder for that. 🙂
Post # 15
I, too, waited a very long time to meet the right guy. I was a first-time bride at the age of 47. Thankfully, most people seemed to think that I was in my mid-to-late 30s; however, I did have one sales associate ask if some bridal items I was purchasing were for my daughter’s wedding. I politely answered, “No,” and explained that I did not have any children and that I was the bride! 🙂
Post # 16
I agree – the comments people make are most likely innocent, but none the less, I find them to be quite embarassing. When we went to look at engagement rings, the first thing the sales woman said was, “Are you looking for an Anniversary Ring?” Good thing we have a sense of humor, but it still makes me feel sort of embarassed on the inside. Another vendor said to me, “What took you so long?”, and I just laugh, but on the inside I am thinking of how embarassed I am to be put on the spot like that in front of others. If nothing else, this has all taught me to be more sensitive to what I say to others. What may feel like an innocent remark to one, can be quite hurtful to another.