Post # 1
Long story short, I cannot find a wedding band to fit my engagement ring. I didnt think about changing my ER until my mom mentioned it. I talked to my fiance and he told me that he did not care if I wanted to change the ring into a different setting, or pay to get a custom wedding band. Either would be fine with him and its my ring and what I will be wearing so he wants me to be happy.
Now, I am just worried that if I do change my diamond into a different setting (which will probably be just a soliate setting) that I will regret it and feel like its not as special as my first ER…
I also thought about keeping my ER and putting a different stone in it and wearing it on my right hand so I will still always have it on.
One other reason I would like to change the setting is bc I am a nursing student and will probably want to just wear a wedding band to clinicals instead of a prong set ring that may catch…with my ring now, I will have to have a curved band and dont think it will look right alone.
Anyone who has changed ER or “upgraded” or anything like that, did you have any of these feelings
Post # 3
I got an upgraded stone and it still feels just as special. I had his grandmothers stone then he gave me my own stone on my bday. We are setting the old stone into something else when I figure out what I want to do with it. Oh, and I’m a RN and my ring doesnt interfere! Just be careful putting gloves on and off.
Post # 4
I have “downgraded” my ring. It was sentimental to me of course but it was IMO disgustingly huge for my tiny finger. My original ring was a 3-stone, 3ct center radiant, with two .5 ct side stones. I kept bumping that darn thing or walls and knocking the stones loose. My band we bought to fit around my stones was so thin but it had to be to fit on my finger next to my hulk-ring. I didn’t like it by itself but hated wearing my e-ring on a daily basis. I consider myself to be a modest person who doesn’t like attention and that ring sure did attract the crazy eyes.
I finally gained to guts to tell Fiance that I was uncomfortable wearing it. It initially hurt his feelings because he worked so hard for it. He eventually understood my feelings. We are average people in our area and I wanted something that represented our socio-economic status better than making me look well….what I’m not.
I did keep my big ring, as a cocktail ring. I wear it as a RHR when we go to special events.
Edit: My new e-ring is special in it’s own way for many reasons but the feeling is different because the first one he chose. I love and cherish both equally.
Post # 5
@Willow1991: thank you! I had just read somewhere that your rings could bring home bacteria,germs, etc from the hospital, but then seen that people said they would just clean with alcohol pads after they left!
@Broken Biscuit: wow,that does sound like a big ring! Im sure it is beautiful! Does your 2nd ring still seem just as sentimental to you as your first?
Also, I dont want to have to try and explain myself to people who have already seen my ring,and then will ask why I got a ‘different’ one or changed it..I dont want to seem shallow or greedy or whatever! lol. I just know I want my wedding band to fit perfectly because its something I am going to be wearing forever.
Post # 6
I personally am VERY sentimental, I would never change my e-ring though I too, have issues with picking a wedding band because I chose a low profile setting which would mean either a gap…or a curved band (neither of which i’d like) …
Fiance actually wanted to add baguettes on the side of my radiant cut solitare and I said no! Who says no to extra diamonds? (me)…but I told him he can design my wedding band however he wants…
I wouldn’t trade this ring for the world, it’s amazing and so sentimental with so much meaning behind it.
Post # 7
@bridetobe1: The feeling is a tad different for me because the other one he chose from his heart but e-ring #2 will mean even more than the first once our rings are blessed.
I have gotten comments/questions like “what made you decided to get a new ring?” that have made me feel ungrateful. I try to explain as best as I can that my e-ring wasn’t practical for my daily life.
Post # 8
what if you get the custom wedding band to go with ering, then have a simple gold, white gold band or even silver band for the days you work?
I know I would not feel the same about my ring if i changed it, i love it and could not image altering it, its the ring my husband proposed with… I did get a band to go with it, and if i could not wear it on the days i worked it would have a smiple white gold band to wear while at work and leave the ering and real wedding band at home
Post # 9
I went from prong set to bezel set and it works SO much better in terms of comfort and style. Don’t let people make you feel like you’re ungrateful or have no sentiment attached to your ring, the point is you want it to be your FOREVER ring, and some rings are better suited for our lives than others are.
Post # 10
Same story here. Marquise with baguette side stone was IMPOSSIBLE to find a band for and is VERY similar to the ring my ex gave me. I went with a halo and I am wearing a stand-in halo til it gets here in a few weeks. Only person who has had much to say when she saw me not wearing my original ring was FI’s mom. She noticed I was not wearing the other ring right away. I kept it, it’s just in my jewelry box not on my hand.
Post # 11
I changed mine…twice. For me, it was the because the setting wasn’t me. The new setting is gorgeous, but it just didn’t feel right. So my Fiance and I picked something else out. Now I’m very happy. Obviously, I wasn’t sentimentally attached to the first settings.
I think your plan of keeping the original setting and possibly putting a different stone in it for a right hand ring would be a great idea.
Post # 12
thanks for all the opinions everyone!
Post # 13
We changed my whole set. My hubby upgraded me for my birthday/anaversary gift. It is still is from him to me so it is still sentimental (he picked it out with my help of course). But we had to trade in my old set to do it…which made me kind of sad but my new one is soo pretty…I get over it..lol.
Post # 14
I went from
a solitaire setting with a 5 stone prong set wedding band.
I was struggling with the whole wedding band thing and the first Ering just not be right for my current lifestyle. Sometimes I do get a little wistful looking at my old Ering but truly I love my new wedding set so much. I definitely wouldn’t go back to my old one.
My Darling Husband I think prefered my first ring because it was so attention grabbing but he was 100% supportive of whatever I wanted to do.
Post # 15
I never thought of upgrading until my husband mentioned that he wanted to get me soemthing nicer with more sparkle.
I think you should do whatever works best for you. I’ve been married for 2 years and I am upgrading my entire wedding set (keeping the center stone)—the original set he bought right after college when money was tight. I am keeping my original wedding band for sentimental reasons as a RHR.