Post # 1
My fiancee’s sister is getting married about 3 months before us. I’m considering using one of her colors as an accent. Not because I want to hi-jack her wedding but because I LOVE the color! 1) Is it wrong for me to use the color so close to her wedding (or even at all)? 2) Do I need to ask permission to use the color.
In her wedding it will be the main color, in our wedding it will be a secondary color. What do you think?
Post # 3
She doesn’t have a copyright on the color. You’re fine. Have a lovely wedding!!!!
Post # 4
I think it will be fine, especially since it isn’t a major color for your wedding. Go for it!
Post # 5
I don’t think it is wrong for you to use it considering your wedding is after hers. (I could see a bigger problem if your wedding was before her or if it was going to be your primary color) But if you are concerned about your FSIL being upset it would probably be nice to ask her just to make sure.
Post # 6
Is your other main colour vibrant? If your colour is pink and you are adding navy (her colour) I think it is fine not to ask and just go ahead.
However, if your main colour is champagne and you are added navy (her colour) I think it is polite to ask.
On another note entirely some people are a lot more picky than I am in regards to “Claiming” things for their weddings so maybe it would be a good idea to ask her no matter what. I am sure she will say yes but she will also appreciate you asking.
Post # 7
In my opinion, you’re totally fine using the color. It’s not as if there are a million and one colors in the world, repeats are bound to happen even with friends and family. Use the color and don’t bother asking! I would be weirded out if someone asked me if they could use my wedding colors. Maybe if they used all, and only, the same exact colors but one color? No problem! Have fun planning!
Post # 8
I see no reason to ask permission – but if you can deal with the fact that she may have a negative reaction to "sharing" feel free to ask her!
Post # 9
I don’t think it is wrong for you to use one of her colors as an accent, and I don’t think that you need to ask her permission; however, if it were me, I would ask her if she minded you using it, just to be polite and make sure she knows that you are not trying to upstage her. I am sure that she will be fine with it and I am sure she would appreciate the courtesy of you asking.
Post # 10
It really depends on the color… some colors are more common than others, and I doubt she’d feel proprietary about it. But other colors are more unique, and end up impacting the flower and centerpiece choices – which means a color choice can spill over into other design decisions!
Post # 11
Since her wedding is 3 months before, you are not stealing any attention from her wedding. I think you should use the color. You can mention it, if you see fit, but don’t ask for permission.
Post # 12
I wouldn’t be offended and since you aren’t using it as the main color, I would actually love it. Then me being a DIY bride, I would love to pawn off some of my wedding decorations off to you. hehe
On the otherhand, I don’t know how she will feel. I have to admit, in college, I bought a shirt and my roommate ended buying the same shirt in the same color and I was a bit annoyed. (Then again it was college so I was a bit self centered) LOL
anyway, I don’t think you have to ask her. Maybe tell her that you love that color and that you were going to use that color as an accent. She can’t be mad at you if you already knew ahead of time that you were going to have that color.
What some girls might get mad at is if you saw her color and wanted to compete with her. Which I doubt that is going on here. I see that you are already concerned about her feelings and you aren’t doing it to show off… then you are good.
What are your colors?
Post # 13
Update: I casually mentioned the other day that I was thinking of using the same color but in a different shade. Didn’t go over well…she kept listing off other possible colors instead of that one and today she told us that it didn’t really matter since her wedding was first and we would be the ones to look bad and have the same wedding as her. Guess I’ll just avoid the drama and find a new color.
Post # 14
@railroad- yikes, i’m sorry to hear that she is taking such offense to you using a similar color as hers. can u still use a different shade of the color? what is this infamous color if i may ask? ((( hugs )))
Post # 15
Ouch! I’m sorry she ended up shooting you down like that. I think you’re doing the right thing by just avoiding the drama and going in a different direction altogether.
Post # 16
I’m really curious what the colour is too! I can see feeling a little territorial if it’s a really offbeat colour, but if it’s a neutral (cream… chocolate brown) I don’t really think that’s fair.