To Assign or Not to Assign?!?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
  • poll: What should the seating be at my reception?
    Open seating (not assigned at all) : (5 votes)
    9 %
    Specific assigned tables for everyone : (43 votes)
    78 %
    A few tables reserved for bridal party, family, etc... : (7 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @Britt214:  I am doing assigned seating. Sure it’s a hassle for me, but at least I know that everyone at the wedding will have some sort of guidance and a sense of belonging & not feeling left out.

    It may be silly, but I can almost see those one or two people who just barely know anyone and feel like they can’t sit anywhere because they are not part of a posse. It may sound high schoolish but if you met FH’s family you’d understand….

    Post # 4
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    128 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I wasn’t going to do assign seating, but everyone said that its a mad house without it. So i would vote yes to seating plan.

    Post # 5
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    11300 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Assign tables. Seat people with people they know and get along with. We have to do this with FI’s family. His parents are divorced, so they won’t sit at the same table, and then of FMIL’s sisters hate each other, so they have to be separated. Assigning tables just for family would only leave us with three “open” tables, haha.

    Post # 6
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    394 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I agree with @Mimoza.  I know it is a pain.  But, when I go to a wedding it is somewhat comforting knowing that I will be seated with people I know.  It makes for less confusion for guests.  

    Plus, I hate the idea of the last few people arriving to dinner, frantically looking for a place to sit.  I think it’s really a courtesy for your guests.

    Post # 8
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    926 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I like assigning tables.  People like to switch seats; this way they can sit wherever at that table.  They only time I’ve heard exact spots are suggested is if you are having a selected entree plated meal (for ease of servers).  It’s only for dinner anyways.

    Post # 9
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    2973 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @Britt214:  Good question. Not sure yet 🙂 I will probably end up doing personal seating and then people are obviously free to move around as they please.

    Post # 10
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    394 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @Britt214:  If everyone is getting the same food, I would say assigning tables is fine.  We are having 3 different entree options, so we have to assign specific seats.  We are also taking into consideration people who have young kids, and providing high chairs at those tables.

    Post # 11
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    2441 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    We have to do assigned seating at our reception. We are having a sit down dinner and the venue said that we have to assign seats to make it easier for the servers to know who is getting what.

    I think it will make things easier the day of too, because people will just know where to sit and there will be less awkwardness (hopefully). I figure everyone will move around after dinner anyway.

    Post # 12
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    3633 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Please do not make it a free for all UNLESS it’s a super small wedding and everyone is on great terms with each other (e.g. immediate family only). I’ve been to free-for-all weddings and it’s so awkward. You have to make sure you have enough seats at your table for everyone and if it’s an odd number then you either have to be nice and let someone sit with you, or implore another table to take you in. Overall, it’s stressful for guests (unless they are very very outgoing) and it’s especially hard on smaller groups (e.g. the random coworker + SO you invited).

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @Britt214:  I see you’ve already decided, but I’ll add, yes! assigned tables but not seats! I hate the mad rush for finding people you know to sit with, and I’d rather just the bride do that for me. (Even if I end up at a table with people I don’t know, at least I know there will be 2 chairs for DH and I!) People are adults and can ask people to scoot over, if for example, there aren’t two chairs next to eachother, and that’s much easier to try and figure out at just one table than when you’re trying to figure the whole room in!

    Post # 16
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    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I assigned seats, not just tables! Once, DH and I had to sit at different places in the round table because three other couples had each put one seat between them!

    It was SO awkward!

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