Post # 1
I’m looking at spending about $750 for a bachelorette party next month. I’m not traveling for it, so that $750 is the cost of the activities that, at the bride’s request, we’re doing.
I can pay that, but it will mean cracking open my savings and only paying the minimum on my student loans for a few months. ($750 is about 30% of my after-tax monthly income). I am a careful budgeter, so expenditures like this naturally send me into a panic.
I don’t want to be a cheapskate, which is why I’m asking here first. So, what would you do–suck it up and fork over the money with a smile? Or bring it up with the other BMs and see if there’s a way to rein it in a little?
Post # 3
Each of you is paying $750? That sounds completely insane to me, what are you doing?
Post # 4
Um, yeah. That is freakishly expensive. I balked about paying $200 for a one night bachelorette when I wasn’t even in the bridal party. No way would I pay $750. Especially not if I had to go into my savings and cutback on my student loan payments. No way.
Post # 5
Ok phew, I’m not some crazy jerk tightwad/terrible friend! Thanks for the reassurance. We’re having a very fancy spa day, which is just . . . something I would never do otherwise.
Post # 6
What kind of spa is this… That is an insane price. I just checked some of the best spas in the city where I grew up and a full day all out is half that.
Post # 7
no way jose I would pay that much for just a day! I paid that for a 5 day cruise with everything included but booze for my best friend’s bachelorette party and I was the MOH. We had a bit of everything, relaxing mornings in the steam room, happy hours at 1pm, naps by the pool in the afternoons, amazing dinners and partied every night… It just seems you could get way more bang for your buck….
Post # 8
BALK! BALK!! Your savings is for emergencies in your own life! What happens if your car breaks down, or your pet gets sick, or your hot water tank blows (insert your preferred disaster scenario here) after you spent this money? I doubt your fancy spa pedicure will be enough to console you.
Post # 9
Wow that is a ridiculous amount of money to be spending!!! For my hen party me and my friends are going abroad for 3 nights and paying £110 each including flights and meals! I even felt a bit guilty about asking my friends to spend THAT much on my hen party so I have organised a cheap night out round our local town clubbing for the people who cant afford the weekend away and I have left it totally up to all the girls whether they want to do one or the other or both. Did the bride ask any opinions before booking the bachelorette? I know she is the bride but when you are asking people to spend so much she really should have consulted you all first
Post # 10
Oh my gosh. I could never afford to spend that on a bachelorette party. You’re a very understanding person to even consider it, but I think it’s pretty outrageous.
Post # 11
If that doesn’t include a plane ticket, then yes, that’s hella expensive. Have you talked to the bride or the other attendees? Maybe you could attend but not get ALL of the services that the bride is getting?
Post # 12
I would have laughed in my friends face if she actually had the audacity to tell me i’m spending 750 to go to a spa. All that for the bachelorette party so your still paying more on top of that for the actually wedding responsibilities.
Are you acutally going to do it?
Post # 13
holy crap!!! What in the world are you guys doing for $750!?! I spent a weekend in NYC, had to pay for gas and parking, spa day, 2 fancy dinners out, and all the other meals and I dont think it was 750!
Post # 14
No way in f’ing hell would I spend $750 for a bachelorette party that didn’t require me to travel. Even then I think it’s too much. This bride needs a reality check. Unless she’s of Kardashian caliber, she needs to bring it down a few notches.
Post # 15
Way way too expensive! I didn’t even pay that much for my dress!
Post # 16
$750 for a bach party is INSANE. I cant believe the bride is actually expecting people to pay this much.
Its absurd, and I would NOT attend. Even if I was a millionaire I wouldnt go just for the simple fact that the bride is so ridiculous.