Post # 1
I dont know id I should take my fiance’s surname or go double barrel. I know its a personal choice but I’m curious to find out what everyone thinks.
Well there are three girls left in my family with the family name and after us that’s it, the end of a very long line of Quinlans : ) We’re all very sentimentally attatched to our surnames which doesnt help! part of me doesnt want to put an end to the family name whilst the other part wants to belong 100% to my hubby’s side as well ( not that the name would make any difference to them!) as I said, I’m curious to see how everyone feels? : )
Post # 3
I struggle with this also. Maybe you should hyphenate. If you do go double barrel that doesnt make you an less part of the family. Good luck!
Post # 4
I think this is hard on a lot of people. Could you make your maiden name your middle name and take your FI’s last name?
Post # 5
i kept my maiden as a middle name. I’m glad i did!
Post # 6
Wow, thanks for all the quick responses!
My middle name is already quite long though…..which’ll make it a really big mouthfull if a hyphenate or go double-barrel. We’re really fortunate that our respective families in law both adore us and the name is the least of their concerns! I supposewant to keep my surname is sentimental more than anything but starting a new life with your husband is also really important and taking his name is also very symbolic to me!
Post # 7
@Mrs to be: Just wondering how the double barrelled surname has been working out for you? I need to make my name change decision right away. Like you, my maiden name holds a sentimental value for me– I am not comfortable with abandoning it, yet I want to take my FI’s name too. Please tell me your experience with this. Have you had a lot of confusion and headaches?
Post # 8
I would drop your current middle name and make your maiden name your middle name, or if you have a girl in the future you could name her Quinlan and call her “Quinn”. That would be cute 🙂
EDIT: Just realized how old this thread is 😐
Post # 9
I am one of the last with my family’s surname left also… everyone always told me I cold hyphenate… but my surname is already 9 letters long, and hard to say… and his last name is 6 but even harder to say… so I think it would kind of be a disaster. It also makes it kind of confusing if and when you have kids if your name is different than theirs.
In the end I will probably end up taking his name… good luck on your decision. 🙂
Oops… old post!
Post # 10
@Mrs to be: I’m in the same boat. I’m the last in my family with our name. My fiance is the last in his family too. I know that my name will not be passed onto my children, but it is still very sentimental to me. I like my name a lot, and it’s also part of our family business’ name. I thought about keeping my name and taking his socially. He thinks it’s ‘weird’ if I keep my name, and doesn’t like hyphenating. Hope you can figure yours out! lol
Edit: Just also realized that this thread is super old. Oops!
Post # 11
@thundersvine: Hi there! Well, three years on I still haven’t changed my name! Lol We had a small wedding three years ago and our big family wedding back home about a year ago. I thought I would change it then but, just haven’t gotten around to it. I’ve stopped stressing about it for the most part and will probably change when we have kids. Our kids will have double barrel and possibly a very short first name to coutneract the length. I definately want the same name as our children so I’m sure I’ll go double barrel.
I love the idea of using my maiden name as my childs name and Quin / Quinlan would be a different name and kinda cool : )
Some old friends and most newer friends don’t realise I have a different surname and I must admit i really do like being called Mrs. Wilmot : )
It’s a tough decision and I hope you’re happy with whatever you decide to go with!
Post # 12
Thanks for all the replies! I know this post is old but 3 years on and I still haven’t changed my name and there is still part of me that is unsure! 🙂