To Bees who have been married/engaged for a while…

posted 3 years ago in Rings
  • poll: If I could go back in time:
    I would spend more on my ring : (32 votes)
    14 %
    I would spend less on my ring : (11 votes)
    5 %
    Gone with a more simple/practical design : (9 votes)
    4 %
    Gone with a more ornate design : (12 votes)
    5 %
    Gone up in size : (27 votes)
    12 %
    Gone down in size : (11 votes)
    5 %
    Gotten a different centre stone (in terms of actual gem, colour etc) : (17 votes)
    8 %
    I've realized that my ring is great but not as a big a deal as I made it (spent less time/money) : (13 votes)
    6 %
    I still think my ring was worth all the fuss and money : (91 votes)
    41 %
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    We purchased my ring because it was in-budget at the time and I couldn’t see spending more than $500 on it when we had bills and cars to pay off. Now that most of its paid off [a year later], I do wish I had gotten something a little more expensive [not really size wise.. but a better setting, and metal].

    We do plan to upgrade eventually.

    ETA : I wear my e-ring everyday and have since he put it on my finger. [except for when showering and cleaning of course] I would never not wear it because it’s not my “dream ring”.

    Post # 4
    Member
    6273 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    my ring is my grandmother’s diamond.  i adore my ring.  DH designed the setting (with prior input from me).  i wear it every day.

     

     

    Post # 5
    Member
    6048 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I would have chosen other or height of my ring as the thing I would have changed.  We used my grandmother’s diamond in a new setting.  It sat up so high I kept getting it caught on things, shirts, sweaters, my hair, scratching people… bleh nightmare.   For Christmas DH bought me a ring, i’m sure he thought would be a RHR but I wear it now instead of my wedding set.  It’s unique looking with saphires and diamonds, but barely comes above my finger as far as height goes. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    311 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Engaged just over the 2 year mark and I still love my ring. I was excited to shop for wedding bands that would compliment it, and not steal its spotlight.

    Post # 7
    Member
    504 posts
    Busy bee

    I wish I had gone with a more simple setting and had the money for a bigger stone.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1355 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church

    I adore my ring — it’s an heirloom design and diamonds, but we had it reset in white gold. I wear it every single day and wouldn’t change a single thing about it.

    Post # 9
    Member
    2052 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I adore my ring but I wish I’d paid more for VS clarity.

    Post # 10
    Member
    852 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I wear them every day, all day, and sleep in them too. We designed mine together foruscing on the practicalities more than the looks to be honest. I love that they fit so well into my lifestyle and I love looking at them every day. I honesty would not change a thing……though looking at threads here I have seen some fantastic rings I would love for my right hand. 😉

    Post # 11
    Member
    3222 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    @Arshim:  When we were buying my ring, my FI really wanted a 1.4-1.5 diamond, compromised on a 1.2 stone, then I talked him down to 1 carat because I thought I’d be more comfortable with its size. Thinking back, I should have listened to him! My setting was ordered with the size of the stone in mind, so I can’t upgrade without getting a whole new ring, and I really don’t want to do that. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    1002 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I love my ring but, the center diamond is an heirloom and it definitely came with strings attached.  I would have rather gotten my own center diamond to have avoided a lot of issues that this diamond has caused with FI’s family.

    Post # 13
    Member
    863 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @Arshim:  I think it was worth everything. FH made a big deal out of finding my ring because e wanted something I thought was perfect, and I wanted something I loved  that would match or contrast nicely with a scalloped wedding band. None of the more popular ring options were what I was looking for and we had to search pretty hard before we found a ring I felt was mine. I know I made the right decision because I have no regrets about it. I’m going to be wearing this ring for the rest of my life – why wouldn’t I make a big deal out of it? 

    Post # 14
    Member
    5932 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    I wanted a larger stone, after five and a half years, I went from a .52 carat to a 1.50, and changed the e-ring setting to rose gold…I love it!  I can say, after wearing my original set, and looking at it, and realizing, I was never just going to wear my wedding band, it was worth the money to upgrade the stone and the setting to something I loved, because I do wear it all every day.

    Post # 15
    Member
    2851 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I have been engaged for 15 months and I still love my ring. We did not overspend (about 3K) and I’m glad we didn’t spend more.

    Post # 16
    Member
    7997 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I’ve been wearing my ring for almost half a year now. I wouldn’t change anything… I put a lot of thought into it. Yes, it’s a delicate setting with tons of pave, but I knew that going in. I don’t mind taking it off when I get home. I’m a big jewelry person so yes I still notice the details and stare and it multiple times a day.

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