To change my name or not…?

posted 3 years ago in Names
  • poll: To change the name or not?
    Keep your last name for everything (even tho you hate it) : (5 votes)
    15 %
    Take FH's last name (leave maiden name on 1 publication) : (10 votes)
    29 %
    Use a hyphenated name for publications : (6 votes)
    18 %
    Publish under maiden name, but go by FH's last name for everything else : (13 votes)
    38 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @FutureDrAtkins:  You can keep your maiden name in a professional setting and use his during social settings. It’s entirely up to you and how important it is. I would never consider not changing my name as I feel it makes us more a family unit (I’m traditional in that regard). It’s a personal choice though and if I were you, I’d ask FI what his preference is and reach an agreement that works for the two of you.

    Post # 4
    Member
    414 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @FutureDrAtkins: If you really want to take his name, use it socially, but keep your maiden name legally. In a few years, you can reassess. You don’t need to change it immediately.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2661 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    @FutureDrAtkins:  My friend is in a similar situation. She’s getting her PhD and has a few papers published already. She got married last year and changed her name.

    What she’s doing regarding her papers is this: she’s going to hyphenate her next few papers, so her old papers will link to her new papers. Eventually she’ll just use her new name, but there will be a trail from her maiden name papers to her new name papers.

    I don’t know much about the world of publishing papers, but she has this all planned out and it sounds like a solid plan to me!

    ETA: you could also just continue to publish under your maiden name. My friend wants to publish under her new name because her maiden name was a very common, generic name, and she likes the idea of not being one of 200 people with the same name. (including first and last)

     

    Post # 7
    Member
    453 posts
    Helper bee

    @mgol25:  That’s what I plan on doing. Keeping my name professionally and changing it personally/socially. So, when I call hotels I can say this is Mrs. BtotheZ, I want to make a reservation. But, when I answer the phone at work, I can say this is Ms. BtotheK…. It’s only one publication, and I think most people can figure out that Dr. Melissa Atkins-Smith is the same person as Dr. Melissa Atkins 🙂

    Post # 8
    Member
    94 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I hyphenated and wish I would’ve just taken his last name. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    3394 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @FutureDrAtkins:  Obviously I am not publishing anything, but how would it not count for anything if you change your name?

    Post # 10
    Member
    10999 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I am a strong advocate of the “First Maidenasmiddle Newlast” name change, because it allows a woman to avoid cumbersome hyphenation, while enabling her to maintain clear continuity of her identity prior to marriage as well as an obvious link to her family of origin.

    I did this type of name change (the “Jane E. Smith” to “Jane Smith Doe” format), and I could not be more pleased with the result. 

    Post # 11
    Member
    1160 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @jadlnc:  When people search for you on pubmed, they’ll search for you by name. There is no way of connecting your maiden name to your married name so your publication record gets disjointed. 

    Post # 13
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    1160 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @FutureDrAtkins:  I also have a PhD and chose to keep my name for this very reason. I’m not sure what field you’re in, but I’ve noticed that some journals in my field treat a hypenated name as the last name listed (“hisname” if you were doing ” yourname-hisname”) so in practice it is no different than changing your name entirely. I suppose though there is no reason why you couldnt change your last name legally and publish with your maiden name, except this could get confusing when someone’s looking at your CV (which would presumably have your legal name?)

    ETA: I just saw your update that you’re likely going to take his name, this is just my two cents! 🙂

     

    Post # 14
    Member
    1160 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @jadlnc:  It does suck! The whole system is clearly geared towards men, I really don’t understand why they don’t allow you to link a previous name for women who want to change their name when they get married. For this reason, almost every woman I know who publishes in science has kept her name. 

    Post # 15
    Member
    3394 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @littlegraykitten:  Yeah, exactly what I was thinking. I’ve seen a lot of posts like this on here and obviously there are many more women outside of the Bee with the same issue. Not fair at all.

    Post # 16
    Member
    497 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @futuredratkins first, congratulations! I voted to take his name and use your maiden for this 1 publication.

    I was in a similar predicament. I’m an attorney and have my own practice. I kind of felt like my maiden name did all of the hard work to earn my certification and should be the name on the shingle.

    I always wanted to take my husband’s last name, because of tradition and not wanting to have a different name than my future children/husband. In the end, I took my husband’s name and I plan to change the name of my firm to my husband’s last name. One of the reasons is that my pastor once told us that our lives should be so interwoven and together that divorce is not an option and people shouldn’t be able to tell where one begins and the other ends.  

    With that said, I don’t think that I should be known one way personally and professionally (unless perhaps I was some award winning actress –which I’m not). I am my husband’s wife and will carry his name wherever I go.

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