Post # 1
We booked our wedding back in January for July 7, 2012, but both of my grandparents passed away on July 8th, 2011. Since their one year death anniversary will be the day after our wedding next year, should we consider changing our wedding date? I’d feel awful if people felt that we were celebrating instead of still mourning losing them. What is everyone’s thoughts?
Post # 3
@Fireflyyy: Yeah honestly I would even if it is just by a week out of respect. You have my very deepest sympathy – I cannot imagine how terrible it was for you to lose them
Post # 4
First, I’m sorry for your lose. I’ve lost all of my grandparents and I know it’s difficult. With that said, I don’t think you need to change the date. Maybe you could do something special to honor your grandparents at the wedding though? Or maybe you could wait a few months, then decide?
Post # 5
My FI and I are actually getting married a week before the date of his father’s passing 2 years ago…..but we know that he’d want us to be happy and not feel sorrow…we will of course will be honoring him at our wedding.
As for your question
im very sorry to hear about both of your grandparents passing. however, i still do not think it is necessary to change your date. you can still honor them at your wedding. I’m sure both of your grandparents would want nothing but you to celebrate your lives together as soon as possible rather than delay anything.
Post # 6
I know it is a painful time, but I don’t think you should change your date. Find some kind of way to honor their memory at your wedding. I know that they will be looking down on you with pride! They wouldn’t want you to uproot your plans, I’m sure. Now, if you think you’ll be too emotional to cope with the already emotional event of your wedding that close to the anniversary, than you might want to change it, just for your sake. But, if you’re gonna change it because you feel that other people might think it’s wrong, I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t change it. What is wrong with celebrating rather than mourning? I think that enough time has passed that it’s time to celebrate their lives and the expansion of the family they loved. I think as long as you incorporate them into your day somehow it will be a great way to honor them.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t change it either. I’m much more a fan of remembering loved ones on their birthday rather than the day they passed. Your wedding is a joyous occasion. I’m sure they would prefer you be happy next July than sad.
Post # 9
Nope, wouldn’t change. Other ladies have given you excellent reasons why
Post # 10
you could keep the date in their honor…..i know you already had it booked, but its quite fitting to keep the date.
i am so sorry to hear that you lost them both on the same day, how tragic…
Post # 11
I’m sorry for your loss. My deepest sympathies.
I wouldn’t change it. Your gandparents would want you to be happy. You could have a moment of silence at some point in your ceremony to honor them. The minister could say something about how important family is to both of you, and that you want to have a moment of silence for those family members who have passed on.
Post # 12
I’m sorry for your loss.
I don’t think you need to change your date. You can honor them in some way during the ceremony or reception. I think it’s a great way to help celebrate their memory instead of mourning it.
Have you asked family members their thoughts yet?
Post # 13
@Fireflyyy:Oh I’m so sorry 🙁 I don’t think you should HAVE to. If you feel it will be disrespectful and it won’t put a damper on anything, go ahead and move it. But I honestly don’t see a reason to not go ahead with the original date.
Another thing you could do, if you choose to keep the original date, is to honor them by placing a portrait of each of them on the chair that they would’ve been seated. Maybe even possibly light a candle for each of them. A friend of mine did this at her wedding, it was so sweet.
Post # 14
Thank you all for the wonderful words and suggestions! We’ve decided to keep the date, as my grandparents were aware of our plans and def. would not want us to change it and possibly lose $ and delay it etc. We’ll most definitely be honoring them both and being that they were married for 63 years, it’s a quite great example of true love that will be easy to incorporate into our special day.