Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2014 - Private Residence
I’m smack in the middle of working on my registries and the biggest issue I’m facing is on our formal dinner service. We are not formal people! We love to entertain but things tend to get pretty rowdy with our friends and family. So here are my questions and I would love any feedback anyone has:
-I’m getting a set of China from my grandmother. It’s not my favorite but it’s a family heirloom. I think it’s a bit redundant to register for more China. Will I completely regret it?
-Silver, does anyone really notice if you use the “good silver”? Will I regret not registering for it?
-Stemware – I’m thinking of just registering for a moderatly priced set of matching stemware (wine glasses, champagne flutes, tumblers, etc) that are for special occassions. Anyone regret not going with higher end stems?
Post # 3
@lildolly011: I don’t think you’ll miss China, Silver, or fancy Stemware, really! Especially since you’re getting your Grandmother’s China, I think that will totally suffice. 🙂 I agree with your idea to register for moderately priced stemware!
Post # 4
I did not register for China or expensive stemware.
Our apartment is small and I really did not have the place for place settings and expensive glasses. We have awesome dishes and I really like using them when I entertain. I did register for wine glasses but they are lower end that way if they break I will not be crying about it.
China to me is too formal and many people really do not have formal dinners.
I think China is a waste on registry….
Post # 5
@californiabride2013: This exactly.
We aren’t formal people. We have no room and no desire for china/formal dinnerware. Every family dinner that either side of our family has is usually on disposable plates because no one wants to do that many dishes. On the off chance that we ever host a gathering, we’ll either use our normal (lovely, white) dinnerware and flatware, or just disposables.
ETA: I also can’t stand having things around the house that don’t see much use. If it’s something that might only get used once a year? Not worth it.
Post # 6
We registered for casual china, fancy 18/10 flatware and fancy stemware. We plan to use everything as our everyday tableware (I already have some of the china and use it every day). For this reason I made sure the dishes were microwavable and dishwasher safe. We are not that formal either, we will eat off paper plates in front of the TV, but for dinners FI and I like to sit down at the table and eat with nice tableware.
Post # 7
We’re “use the good china everyday” types. We like beautiful things, and we like to make every day feel like a special occasion. I’m inheriting a set of fine china, too, so I didn’t register for the fine stuff either.
But my everyday dishes are 10 years old and in terrible shape, so we registered for one of the casual porcelain dinnerware lines from Lenox. It’s $50 a place setting instead of, like, $200. It’s gorgeous, and I’m thrilled with it. It’s my favorite thing on our registry!
I’m fine with regular stemware. Booze + my friends = watch out! But I registered for Waterford iced beverage goblets on a whim. I didn’t expect to get them, but I’m so thrilled that we did! I’m looking forward to using them on special occasions.
Silver… meh. The real silver is so pricey. My flatware was also 10+ years old an in rotten shape, so we registered for 18/10 stainless flatware. 18/10 stainless is the best quality non-silver flatware. I really hope we get it!
Post # 8
We registered for formal china and stemware, but not silverware.
Our formal china pattern is pretty simple and I fully intend to use it weekly. Why not?
If you’re getting your grandma’s china and like it, I wouldn’t register for more.
Post # 9
@lildolly011: My bfs grandparents have sterling silver flatware and it is really gorgeous. I think you will get use out of it when you have company over. Its really nice! As for China, I love having China. If you have one set though and you can learn to love it, then I don’t think you need to register for more. However, if you cant stand it, you might as well get China you love.
Post # 10
@lildolly011: I also inherited china from my grandmother, so we won’t be registering for formal china; just some new every day dishes. Her dishes mean so much more to me than picking out my own pattern would. I think of her every time I use them.
We’re also skipping fancy silverware and just registering for every day flatware.
I would like to register for some nicer wine glasses, but I probably won’t go crazy. I already have a lot of stemware that I’ve collected over the years…
Post # 11
@lildolly011: We were actually told by the person working at the store when we registered for our china and crystal NOT to register for silver. Apparently the prices have skyrocketed. Macy’s doesn’t even carry silverware anymore (at least in Los Angeles).
We were sort of forced into registering for china and crystal by MIL saying that some of their guests won’t buy us anything else. I know we’ll use it sometime in the future, but now it’s all in storage. So, we registered for a simple pattern that we liked, that we think will go with everything. Oh, and we got almost all of the settings right away from the older guests.
One thing I was surprised with was how durable the new china is. Our store-helper at BBB was hitting the china plate on his desk, and actually stood on an overturned china teacup! He told us it was not our grandmother’s china.
Post # 12
I bought a set of everyday china from Alpico that is formal and casual enough to use on a daily basis. I like that I can buy a piece from Williams Sonoma if I break it instead of buying a full set. Also the design has been around for 100 years, so I’m not worried about them discontinuing it.
Post # 13
I’m not registering for anything formal. My family is pretty casual, I don’t feel the need for “fancy” things to use on “special” occasions. I’m getting stuff that’s nice but simple and elegant. Stuff I can use to eat pizza on random fridays as well as thanksgiving dinner with the in-laws. Personally I think having fancy china is a bit of a dated concept.
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club
I doesn’t sound like you’re going to use it. I’d register for only things you need.