Post # 1
Hey bees! I need to make a decision soon, and I need help.
My mom and aunt have offered to hire a dj to play for my wedding. I need to decide whether or not to accept their offer.
- easier than transporting/setting up/running equipment myself, especially since I am DIYing a lot (flowers, drinks, decorations, hair/makeup)
- less likely to have technical malfunctions
- it’d be great to have someone in charge of the equipment, make announcements, etc
- Would waste the PA system I bought and all the hours I spent making spotify playlists
- I feel like DJs aren’t worth what they’re paid- at best they’re unnoticed, at worst they are very, very bad.
- I am getting very overwhelmed with the amount of money being spent on the wedding. It’s not that anyone involved can’t afford a dj and a caterer and a cake and a dress and so on, it’s just that I personally feel a lot of anxiety about “throwing away” (IMO) money on all this stuff.
Help!! What should I decide?
Post # 3
@likewoah: I say help yourself out and graciously accept the offer of the DJ. It will be one less thing for you to worry about, and that’s a big deal for the day. The money isn’t being thrown away at all. Your loved ones want to gift you something, and really there’s no price tag on letting go of one worry for the day!
Post # 4
Girl, I am IN YOUR SHOES! I came to the ‘music’ section to write a post very similar to this. I’m worried that I’ll hire a terrible DJ and hate myself later for wasting all that money on him. I also don’t have that many people that are seriously going to get up and dance. Most of the people I know feel uncomfortable, and either leave or dance because they feel obligated. (I’ll have a lot of people from church, work, etc…) But then again, I don’t want anyone to get bored. It’s a constant struggle! Not to mention I’ve only got a few months til the wedding. I’m a little behind :/
Post # 5
Do NOT DIY your music. Trust me. I’ve been to four weddings where they used an ipod instead of a DJ–and at ALL FOUR, the bride and the groom had to keep running back to the iPod to change the song often. They didn’t get to eat much or really enjoy their own party. Plus, there were tons of lulls or akward transitions between songs–and many of the songs they picked were not danceable (DJs have the advantage of experience–they know what songs get people dancing). Needless to say, all four weddings were VERY awkward–and just about NO ONE danced at any of them. Most of the guests just left early–because they thought the party was winding down. One of my friends was REALLY upset because the party cleared out a few minutes after dinner was over. Because there was no MC or DJ to keep the party going, people thought the part was done and just left. She didn’t even get a first dance or an audience for the cake cutting. Seriously.
You will have enough to do/to worry about on your wedding day. Don’t overly complicate it if you don’t have to.
Post # 6
If you are being gifted a DJ, accept it and party the night away at your wedding.
Post # 7
@likewoah: I’m DIYing! But I’m having a teeny tiny wedding and don’t care that much if people dance, so that’s a factor. (I’m putting on music that is good to dance to, but not forcing anything.) I think some people decide to DIY and either don’t put a lot of effort/research into it, or care way too much about the results. (Not that you shouldn’t care, but if you care a lot, you probably should go DJ) For me it’s like… pleasant party background music that people may or may not dance to as they see fit. So silly to pay a DJ for that.
Post # 8
Thanks for the advice, everyone! I told my poor mother to go ahead and book a dj (I say poor because I’ve changed my mind on this so many times and my aunt keeps sending checks, which my mom rips up after I decline the help). Even though I feel sick when I think of my wedding budget, I think it’s for the best. If I had more hours of access to the venue, or a wedding coordinator to handle all the different vendors and tasks, or even much of an interest in music, I think I’d be in a better spot to DIY.
Post # 9
My DJ was a key component to my wedding. He kept things moving during the reception, from the bridal party intros, to speeches, to parents dances, etc. He also kept everyone on the dance floor, and would call people by name when he knew they had requested a song. It wouldn’t have been nearly as great without him.