- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
From the moment we met with our photographer and she asked (Do you plan on doing a first look?) I struggled with this question.
On one hand I wanted to get all the pictures we could before the reception and I loved all the darling first looks I’ve seen on the web.
On the other hand I felt I’d really be missing out on something if I didn’t get “that” reaction while walking down the aisle.
I asked this question to friends and family and unfortunately that didn’t help much because the opinions were so mixed. My family(mom, aunts, older cousins, etc.) were firm in their belief the bride and groom should NOT see each other before the wedding.
My friends(those who had gotten married) said they liked the idea but either gave very non commital answers or told me I’d be stupid not to do a first look.
So should you do a first look? In one word, YES! Stop stressing over this decision and DO IT.
It sounds silly but this is probably one of the single best decisions we may regarding the whole wedding day. Here’s why.
1) I, like many of you will, spent most of the afternoon getting ready while others set everything up. The whole time I was a bundle of nervous energy. I am a compulsive organizer, planner, and manager. The fact that I was locked away in a dressing room without the slightest clue as to what was going on had me freaking out. This on top of the fact that my FI was late to the venue and I had not seen nor heard from him since the rehearsal dinner the night before just had me wound tighter than a corkscrew. Had we not done a first look I would have taken every bit of that down the aisle with me and would not have been able to focus. It would have also messed up a lot of our ceremony pictures because when I’m nervous and wound up I frown…a lot. Like a big, deep forehead wrinkling frown.
2) Like I said before I had seen my FI since the day before and honestly the day before we didn’t get to talk or really be ourselves together because we were both so busy running last minute wedding errands. After initially seeing each other we were able to take a short walk, talk, and just absorb it all. Our life up until that point had been chaotic because we closed on our house the week before our wedding and ended up unexpectedly adopting a new pet. So chaos, chaos, chaos. In that moment we were really able to appreciate the fact that we made it. We were getting married.
3) The pictures we got were AH-MAY-ZING!!!! Our photographer would not have been able to capture such a beautiful and personal moment if we had gone the traditional route.
The genuine look of amazement and happiness.
The tender way he touched my face.
The way we laughed and embraced then stared at each other in awe.
That never would have happened. In these 20 or so pictures you can see every single reason why we chose to marry. You can see the care, the joy, the nerves, the hope, the wonder, the promise, and the love. I love every one of our pictures but none of them quite capture the magnitude of what this day meant for us and how crazy it was that we’d made it this far.
4) Even though we saw each other before the ceremony we were still able to fully appreciate the magic of the ceremony. Seriously..you are walking up the aisle into a new life with someone you love immensely. You are creating a new life together and telling the world this love right here is special. That is MAGICAL. The awe and excitement I felt was not diminished even slightly by seeing him before the wedding and as I stood next to him he still leaned over and whispered “There is no one in the world more beautiful and precious to me than you.”
5) I got a really good look at his butt as I was walking up behind him. lol He has a nice rear and a well tailored suit shows it off like no other. It was the one and only time I got to appreciate those buns of steel the whole day. 🙂
So there it is. My reasoning for a first look. Obviously the decision is still up to you but I could never recommend doing something more. It truly was one of the best decisions we made.
Sorry for the long post and the poor quality picture. It’s a cellphone screen cap from our photo gallery.