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Instead of a To Do Before You Die list, DH and I have been compiling a list of all the things we should try to do before kids. We know that we can still travel and do things after kids, but some things will be more of a hassle, especially since we don't live near either set of grandparents, thus no free, reliable babysitters! What would you put on your list? If you're pregnant or already a parent, what do you find more difficult to do and wish you would have done more of prior to getting KU?
Here's what we have thought of so far:
Go one one more big (overseas) trip.
Go on a wine-tasting weekend.
Use our new camping gear we got for the wedding. Camp somewhere we can do some hiking.
Go see a movie at least once a month.
Each of us have at least one more guys/girls weekend.
Lose the newlywed weight we've put on.
Any ideas of fun things we should do or do more of pre-parenting days?
Europe was the only thing we talked about doing before kids - everywhere else i feel like we could easily take them with us.
ooo get to fighting weight before getting prego too! thats my own personal goal though.
Ohhh. I add things to my list all the time. Though we'll probably start TTC in the fall, so who know's how much of this we'll be able to cross off. Money is already tight (which is the reason I'd like to put off TTC - but DH isn't down with that).
-Get my teeth straightened
-Get a safer vehicle
-Go to Europe
-Be making more money
Getting a safer vehicle is the only thing I'm 100% sure will happen. We're getting a new one in November.
- travel, travel, travel
- renovate the house
- build up a (bigger) nest egg
We're going on two more big trips before TTC. Travel is the only real thing on my list to check off since we live close to my parents and have anytime baby sitting.
I think Europe i spretty kid friendly as far as destinations go, maybe Asia if you have ever planned to go?
Also definitely get in all the movies you can at the theatre. Concerts that you have wanted to see is also a good one.
I have on my list:
Run a marathon
Get a tattoo
Try smoking weed
Therapy
Go on a random roadtrip
Ours is:
-get married : )
-buy a house
-renovate said house and get it all pretty and clean and organized
-go on 3 more trips to specific places we want to see
- have a couple romantic weekends away
-save up some extra money
-a job with good to great health insurance
Not too long. Hopefully we will be ready to TTC in 3 to 4 years.
The only thing I want to do is buy a house (personal preference for environment for raising children). DH are starting to house hunt in 2 weeks.
Other than that - there is nothing I feel I need to do before kids because having children will not prevent me from being able to attain any of my travel goals.
Here's mine:
Turn 27
Run a marathon (I've don halfs)
Move in to a bigger apartment
Travel more
Lose about 40lbs
Pay off at least one of my student loans
Graudate from my grad school program
We already have DS, so this is written as a list of things we can't wait to do once he is grown:
1. Take a spontaneous trip.
2. Choose travel destinations without having to consider his food, activity, lodging, etc. preferences.
3. Travel more. Right now home life stuff and saving for his future are taking precedence.
3. Go to concerts and romantic dinners as much as we can.
So yeah, from the flip side, my advice is to travel as much as possible while you are still child-free.
-travel overseas (at least once)
-buy a house
-save some monies for the babeh!
-lose at least 30lbs
-get one more tattoo
-pay off at least half of my student loans
-get hubby out of the army and land him a civilian job
-sell his sports car for a safer vehicle (as much as he hates this, he knows it's something we need to do pre-baby!)
@kate169: Hahaha try smoking weed... I love it. Kind of curious though, what's stopping you? Just head down to your local high school...
Mine was
- lose weight
- get my masters
Whoops! I'll have to save those for after the baby comes. It's okay though, my mom got her masters working full time with 3 kids, so I know I can too :)
Besides the obvious ones like DH either getting a FT job or me getting a promotion and buying a house...
Our biggest thing is an actual freakin' vacation! In two years we have been together, all we have ever done is long weekends camping and stuff.
We want to do another few backpacking and weekend canoe trips.
Run a 1/2 marathon and lose a little weight.
For us:
Travel overseas together (I've been a bunch of countries, DH has only been to Mexico)
Pay off our student loans
Be at least close to buying a house.
@kate169: LOL I love #3 on your list :P
On my list
-go to California for 2 weeks
-go to Europe
-buy a house
-pay off all debt
-go to Bonnaroo
-Travel to Ireland, Greece and some other fun places again
-Buy a house
-DH get his masters degree
-Do lots of random trips around that will be harder with a kid
This is mostly to do before we have a kid, but then once they are older, I would love to travel lots with them
Here is our list:
1) Pay off big bills (done in 2012)
2) Travel to Europe (2013)
3) Travel to New Zealand (2012 maybe?)
4) Save up enough money for our next down payment
5) Trip to Napa (2013)
Here is my list:
1) Lose pesky 6-10 lbs
2) Establish a solid running regime
3) Develop healthier eating habits
4) Develop strong organizational skills
5) Get promoted to manager level (2013 I'd expect)
@Moja Milosc: Haha I know I need to get on that. I never tried it growing up because I didn't want to get in trouble with my parents and then I guess I never hung out with people who smoked because the opportunity has never presented itself. I may have the chance on a vegas trip we're taking with friends in May. If not, I will have to work it into my birthday celebration in July.
Travel to Asia will definitely be done with kids for us, as my favorite brother, SIL, and sweet niece live there! I definitely think traveling with kids is on our agenda, but some trips seem more kid-friendly. For instance, I loved the Lourve, but as a kid, I would have died of boredom!
Mine Would Be:
Graduate
Get a job
Buy a house
Get Healthier
Become an Aunt (I would prefer my sister to have a kid first!)
Do a bit of Travelling
Save up more money
Decide I actually want to be a Mom
Only one from me! (We are going to TTC from our wedding date)
- buy a bigger house.
- Enjoy several more years of everyday married life, just the two of us
- Get jobs we actually like/better paying jobs; alternatively, win the lottery and quit our jobs
- Become homeowners
- Travel a bunch more
- Go to Disneyland, because DH has never been and I want his first time there to be free of kidlets clinging to his leg so we can actually go on all the fun rides together
- Tell my mother we're never having children, just to see the horrified look on her face
- Hope the mommy instinct will actually kick in, cause while I've always assumed I will have children, so far I'm just not feeling it!
Get married, buy a place (move to the burbs by kindergarten, but we can keep living in the city for now), advance our careers, age a little!
I'll share, but it is way less fun that all y'alls:
Make it through my horrendous graduate comp exams :0
This is really hard for me. My husband & I had planned on starting TTC this coming winter 2012 but I have changed my mind. My husband is ready to go when I am & willing to wait as long as I want to, thankfully! Because I cannot make up my mind.
So this list has come to thought MANY times & this is what I have so far but it can ALWAYS change. haha
Pay off debt/medical bills.
Buy a house first. (We rent & this was the big one for me.)
Go on a few vacations.
Enjoy married life alone as a couple for a while. (Another big one for me!) Alot of people keep asking us when, & I think they base that on the fact that we have been together for 5 years, married for one year & living together for almost two years. BUT we want more alone time & want to be able to do things like vacations, weekend getaways, golfing, hiking when we want, ect ect ect!
I like this thread :)
- Go to Las Vegas (hopefully this fall)
- Go to St. Lucia (hopefully next spring)
- Go to the UK (hopefully summer of 2014)
- Get me a newer car (1991 is pretty old!)
- Buy a house
- Take other random short romantic trips and roadtrips
- Have more in savings!
- Feel old enough to be responsible for a little human!
Basically, one of us needs to get a job with health benefits. It sucks because we both love our jobs but he makes twice what I make and he wouldn't make as much if he changed jobs.
So I guess before we TTC, I need to find a job with health benefits :P
Also it would be nice to make a little more money so we can afford to buy a house.
I'd like to get into shape before kids as well, because I know it's hard once you have children. I'm on day 3 of my 'hitting the gym after work every day' plan and day 11 of Weight Watchers. I'm 5 pounds down :) So we'll see!
Otherwise, there's not much else. DH and I are homebodies, so we don't go out partying a lot. And as often as we travel (rarely), I know we'd have no trouble getting our parents to watch our kids.
nothing! just kidding...
buy a house (hopefully by June)
lose at least 20 pounds
save a little more
decide who would be our child(ren)'s guardian in the event of an accident
that's probably about it! we're both ready so my list is pretty short, haha
travelling and living in new places is something we both love to do. so once we are finally ready to start our careers (like finish graduate school and get licensed in our field), we want to move somewhere crazy like New Zealand for a few years. then we have some other places we want to live in the states like NYC or San Francisco. so hopefully all of this will happen and somewhere along the way we will have kids. its hard to say anymore that we will do everything before kids because we are really at the age of wanting kids now. damn graduate school sucked all our 20s out of us!
Love this thread.
We wanted to:
We really want kids as soon as themeddling is over and the money is set aside. So hopefully soon!!
- Make upgrades to our house -- we love our house, but some things needs to change. We hate carpet, for one. Also our kitchen needs a serious facelift and we need to re-do our deck.
- Go on TWO more big trips -- we're thinking Alaska and somewhere else! Maybe even this year to Alaska as our delayed HM! Eek! There are tons of other places we want to go, but a lot of them would be fine for kids and would be something I'd want to share with my kids. My parents were EXCELLENT at exposing us to new places.
- Get me a 4-door vehicle -- soon.
- Make more money -- Working on that too. ;) FI has an interview at a better job on Wednesday!
- Save more -- Goes along with the one above.
- Finish Grad School (me)
- Go camping with our puppies -- since having babies AND our dogs would probably be a humongous hassle!
- Hang out with our siblings/game night <-- already in place, we have one at minimum once a month! Our His & Hers shower was game themed.
- Go to both of our favorite concerts -- We've already been to his fav band and mine, but we're saying our 2nd favorite musicians next.
- Lose weight -- both of us, for different reasons.
- Be older! Lol. -- That one is pretty self-explanatory, yes? We are both in our 20s and don't think waiting a few more years will cause us any harm.
I would liketo pay off some credit card debt
Finish my masters, get in the best shape of my life, mature a lil (get enough energy to type out full words) annnnd become a more spiritual person...oh and travel
Mine is mostly travel.
* Go back to Vegas (hopefully mid 2013)
* Go back to our honeymoon spot in Thailand (planned for 1st anniversary nov 2012)
* Go to Hawaii (hopefully mid 2013)
* Go to Fiji
* Take some wekends away together (2 planned for this year)
as well as..
* get in shape and be healthy/fit enough to keep exercising through pregnancy (in progress)
* work out which state to live in
* stop BCP (done)
* work out what to do with my career
* be absolutely sure kids are for us...
Oh man.
To do before babies.....
1) GET MARRIED (lmao!)
2) BUY A HOUSE! that's it!
i'm suprised no one said sleep. cause you're gonna need it..
just kidding but it's good to know other's are wanting to accomplish some goals and just be together before kids. it's nice.
Mine is ONLY travel! We got married last year and have a Italy/Switzerland/France trip planned in April. We are pretty settled in our careers. We live abroad so in a few years will be moving to the states, but I don't want to wait until I'm any older to have children.
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