Post # 1
FI and I hadent really thought about the boquet and garter toss, we just figured we would not do it since most of our guests are married anyway… When FIs mother asked me if I had gotten the boquet for the toss I told her I did not think we would do it…. She said no you have to do it, and really wants us to… I explained that most of our guests were married and even joked that her and her ex husband would be the only ones standing up there and that we could just hand it to them… (they are still really close frineds) she laughed, it was funny….. But she said the kids would like to participate, we have about 10 kids and I only have 2 single frineds and FI has 1 so it may be odd and awkward….
I was just wondering how may of you are doing the garder and bouquet toss at your wedding? We also thought it would be fun to do the anniversary dance instead?
Will people really miss it?
our wedding is a week from today!!!
Post # 4
we are doing the longest couple dance– i had ordered 5 bm boquets but one bm dropped out… so the florist is gonna have purple white and orange in this boquet to be giving to the longest married couple… we are also doing the bouquet toss because there is 15 singles ladies not including teenagers and little girls. the garter toss i think there is 10 guys… plus the toss bouquet is gonna be 5 mini bouquets so 5 girls get to have it.
Post # 5
Most guests wouldn’t miss it, honesly. We’re doing it, because it’s the only time ever I’ll be on the throwing end. I’ll have at least 7 single ladies I can think of off the top of my head, and that’s just my side. I’m not sure about the guys, but there will be at least 6. I’ve heard of people doing a separate toss for kids, if you want to do something like that. Like, you throw a stuffed animal dressed like a bride, and he throws one dressed like a groom. I’m sure you could do something fun like that?
Post # 6
No one I know gets all excited about these things. “YAAAY boquest toss!!!”-NOT I really don’t think any of the guests will care.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
No one will miss it, and once you get out of your teens, most women CRINGE at the bouquet toss. I feel like it ostracizes your female friends- HATE it!
Post # 8
I’d bet my last silver dollar that nobody will notice if you don’t do it. Also I’m not a fan of the garter toss personally, I find it a bit creepy lol. Do whatever you want, and whatever will make you happy.
Post # 9
We are doing both but we are getting every girl up for the bouquet and every guy for the garter toss (FI is getting it off no way am I having anyone else near my legs haha).Most of our guests are couples except about 5 so we don’t wanna make them stand out…
Post # 10
I echo PPs and say people wont miss it. The gartner toss isn’t even done in the UK, never heard of it before the bee.
Post # 11
we’re doing the bouquet toss.. i think (battling between that and a bouquet presentation).. no garter toss tho.. i think it’s a lil too much to be doing in that setting
Post # 12
We’re doing it at FI’s insistence. I’m not happy about it, but he’s been absolutely adamant that he wants it, because “it’s not a wedding without it!” (if I never hear that phrase again it will be too soon).
Honestly, I think people will be grateful if you skip it. I like the anniversary dance idea, I always think they’re cute, and they don’t embarass people.
Post # 13
We’re not doing it. Most of our friends are all married/engaged. I actually really dislike kids participating in the toss. I have nothing against the toss, I think it’s supposed to be fun/lighthearted for the singles to “see who is getting married next”. I just think it is silly for kids to participate in that, and for that reason I wouldn’t spend the money on it when you already decided you didn’t want to do it.
Post # 14
I am doing the longest couple dance!
Post # 15
I have actually never seen someone do a garter or bouquet toss in real life!!! Maybe at least where I’m from they just aren’t in fashion anymore? I know I won’t be doing one–which made FMIL sad (creepily, she was super excited for the garter part–gross!)
Post # 16
I wish there was an “other” option, because I really want to do the bouquet toss, but not the garter. Maybe he’ll have a “groomal” bouquet..