Post # 1
Ok so i am getting married next june and am taking full advantage of my ability to get things done early. one thing i did was pick out bridesmaid dresses. i slightly brought up the topic to my FI’s mom and she flipped out saying it was too early and made me feel so dumb. I figured she would like to know early also since she is a single mom with 4 kids and may want to save money for the dress. that was a bout a month ago. her daughter is going ot be a bridesmaid.
my other bridesmaid are waiting to buy theres to see what my FIs mom and sister think and go from there. How do i approach her/ honestly i know email is he best way but i have no idea what to say to her.
if you have any ideas, please let me know
Post # 3
I would approach it in saying that you didn’t mean to suprise her by having things picked out "early" but that you are trying to give all of your bridesmaids plenty of time to plan and save. Just be kind and stick to your original questions about the dress. As long as you stay away from being confrontational and putting her on the defensive, you should be ok. Putting the spin on it that you want to involve her (and her daughter ) might help too.
Post # 4
It’s never too early to start. Then your girls are going to save up their money better, they can buy them on sale, or after the upcoming june weddings (used), etc etc.
Honestly it isn’t your FMIL’s decision. Just tell her you want to get these moving along so everyone can find the best deal possible. After all, why wait if you already have them picked out and don’t plan on changing them?? You don’t want to be rushing to get them in or anything, and bridesmaid dresses take FOREVER it seems. And they’re pricey! The ones my friend picked out in a salon were like $250 originally before the big fatty 10% discount. They were only $120 online. That’s a big difference, especially if you picked out relatively common bridesmaid dresses or they are very expensive.
It’s just one more thing to check off your list and go "whew that’s done!" I wanted my BM dresses picked before my own wedding dress. I wanted to make sure my dress was X amount fancier than the BM dresses and that the BM dresses were just easier to deal with.
Post # 5
lol i think what made this all worse is we are getting married in texas and she and some bridesmaids are in ohio. well i had one throw it all in my face and yell at me cuz it was in texas and then a week later my FMOL dsaid this to me. We never get along and i do include her in it. she is doing our flowers.
i did email her and hopefully it goes good. the dress is originally 130 and is on sale now for 80. i thought it wouldbe good to let er know now.