(Closed) To Elope or Not to Elope…

posted 6 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
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Helper bee

It sounds to me that you need to express your concerns to your FH. The wedding should be about you both and what you want to do. If the wedding is causing to much negitivity then maybe getting eloped is the best option. But before you decide discuss with your FH.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Families need to learn to keep their opinions to themselves and not ruin a bride’s special day! It’s all very petty really.

It doesn’t matter who got the ring first as to who marries first…why do his parents think that?

I’d talk to them and tell them how you feel, and that it’s hurtful. As the PP said, if things continue down a negative path, just have a small, intimate wedding with your closest friends and family who are positive and happy for you.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Don’t let FSIL rain on your parade.  =) Your wedding is going to be super special on it’s own.  I promise.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would take care of that situation right now. Yeah, you can elope, but you still have to deal with the attitude for the rest of your life.

You need to talk to your FI and you both need to confront your families together.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I don’t see why FSIL cares when the wedding is compared to yours! A wedding is a wedding regardless. Both will be equally special. She sounds very selfish and immature.

 

Best wishes! Destination wedding sounds great!

Post # 9
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48 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I think if you two discussed and are open to a small elopement then do it! I work at Chapel of the Flowers in Las Vegas and we hear versions of these from other couples so often, that they just come here because it’s so much easier and affordable – and we’re an elegant wedding chapel so they still get that tradition. So, I also recommend you look into Vegas, whether it’s our chapel or not, because you can save money and stress on all fronts and lots of people love to travel here to help you celebrate your special day!

Regarding your FSIL, that is a total bummer to go through all of that and I know it’s easier said than done, but you need to not let her get to you. By doing so, you’re just playing into her game and letting her win. I think what time you got your rings shouldn’t matter, neither should who gets married first – it’s about the two of you getting married and that’s what you need to focus on. The positivity – this is opening into the happiest time of your life! 

You are a getting married and deserve your special day and all that comes with it! CONGRATULATIONS!

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