Post # 1
My Fiance and I had originally talked about a destination elopement as an option, but that changed when we allowed our families’ wishes to sway us from the fence we were straddling.
Now, my family issues (that I’ve been living / dealing with and trying to work around for my entire life) have really thrown a wrench in those plans.
I knew all along this was going to happen, which is why ever since I was a teenager I intended to elope and have very casual, very seperate family celebrations after I return home with my new hubby!
So now I’m trying to talk my Fiance into an elopement again… but also I’m trying to make sure that this is something that he would like to do – it is after all, his day too!
Any advice will gladly be accepted!
Post # 3
I think I know where you are coming from! It looks like you have a year to figure this out.
Fiance and I had 3 very planned out wedding ideas, each very different, one of which already paid for (but we got our money back). So I just suggest head down the path of elopement for now, sit on it for a few weeks, do some research, revisit with each other to discuss it again, etc. You don’t have to keep everyone else up to date as you’re figuring things out!
Our wedding idea are still works in progress. We don’t know what we are doing, after we cancelled a 75 person Destination Wedding wedding (DW for everyone else, closer for us). I’d love some family there, but how did I ever think that was possible without any drama! It just pay be us and FI’s parents now as witnesses.
Post # 4
I can relate. We got engaged last april and I thought it was going to be this blissful exciting time where our families would just be so happy and immediately start wedding ideas. Well wrong, everyone seemed “irritated” that a wedding cost money. For some reason, they thought weddings were just a ceremony at the church with some punch- which I am pretty sure even THAT cost money these days. Wedding planning just isn’t what I thought it would be and I cringe when someone asks me ” oh what are you colors?? have you selected a venue yet???” HATE it hahah! So we discussed eloping to Vegas! for the first time I felt excited about our wedding plans, but I feel that the Fiance is a little unsure. He doesn’t usually make spontaneous decisions like that, but I think he will come around. I am letting him contemplate it for a few weeks. But, in november I hope we are sitting in our room at the bellagio waiting to get hitched on the strip!
Post # 5
I had the BIG Wedding the first time 30+ Years ago.
As both Fiance and I have been married before, and are older, we are doing an Elopement to a Destination Wedding
Our friends & family are certainly a bit disappointed in that our plans don’t include them… but we are really looking forward to a small & quiet ceremony for just the 2 of us (not to mention the fact that once upon a time, this is what folks did when they remarried). Overall it just seems to fit us
My first wedding was filled with friends & family, and it had its share of stressful moments (mostly planning and not day-of thankfully)
This time round will be less stress because, there will not be many family coming to our Back-Home Reception afterwards. It will be mostly friends… and that means less drama (friends you pick, family you can’t)
Mind you, Hubby-2-B feels like the focus of our Wedding Celebrations have changed because we now have to plan a Reception / Party (that is both a lot of work, money and as any Bride knows… filled with all the details). BUT we have great friends and they have been pressing us to be sure and do something that gives them the opportunity to celebrate with us (as we will be married far away and over the Holidays)
And so it goes… BUT I will say that an After-the-fact Reception can be as big or as little as you wish, and there are no “hard set” rules, so that makes it waaay easier than a traditional Reception that follows a Wedding. In some ways, I wish my first wedding had been this easy.
And although getting married the first time in my family church, infront of friends and family gave me amazing memories… I seriously think that my one-on-one wedding looking into my beloved eyes infront of the Minister on the Beach infront of the ocean, will be a lot more emmotional etc.