To elope or not to elope? That is the question,

posted 4 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
2546 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I vote elope!

Post # 4
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@stephee:  I always say elope because I think the majority of lavish weddings are a waste of money (and we don’t have money to waste – different story for wealthy folks). It is intimate, romantic, and cost effective to elope. My parents will be acting as witnesses, so important people in my life will still be present, but I will also be able to focus on the meaning of the day with my man.

Post # 5
1175 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@stephee:  Elope!!  How romantic New Orleans!!

Post # 6
234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I am also trying to decide whether to elope or have small intimate wedding of 35-40 people 🙂

Post # 7
1425 posts
Bumble bee

You can always elope and throw a small party for your friends and family later. That’s what we’re doing! 🙂

Post # 8
234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Miss Wellies:  are you having anyone at your elopement?

Post # 10
7273 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@stephee:  To me, people are more important than places, and I could not imagine eloping. That said, I did feel like eloping at times during the planning because it seemed so overwhelming! But they were not serious thoughts. I was so happy to have family and friends there.

Also, consider your parents’ feelings. Some parents don’t care, but for some parents it’s very important to be at their children’s weddings.

Post # 11
4941 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@stephee:  Our big wedding (150 guests) was planned for August 4. We had everything set, everyone booked. And one day while I was at work, I snapped. I called DH bawling because I was so stressed out and I told him, “I don’t want this stupid wedding. I just want to marry you and be your wife. I want just US to go to the coast.”

It didn’t take much convincing since that’s what he wanted to begin with. Within 2 weeks we were applying for our marriage license, and 3 weeks later we said our vows on the coast all by ourselves! The only guests in attendance were our baker, our officiant, our photographer, and our officiant’s boyfriend.

With the money we saved we were able to afford a gorgeous oceanfront jacuzzi suite for the weekend and we STILL wound up spending less than we would have on the wedding. The morning that we left for the coast, we mailed out elopement announcements so most everyone knew within a day or two of us being gone.

I was so incredibly happy we did it, we both were. If we were given the choice a thuosand more times, we would choose eloping every time.

If you have any more questions or if you want to see pictures, learn how we worked out the details, etc, you can shoot me a PM. 🙂 I don’t want to type out a novel and steal your thread, LOL!


Post # 12
1163 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@stephee:  DH wanted to elope from the door, but I felt like I might regret not having a wedding. So we started planning but it was growing way too big and wayyy too expensive. We cancelled it and for a while we were just brainstorming and toying with the idea of eloping. In the end we had a small wedding and it was amazing. I still love the idea of elopements, but I love the day we had. It’s all about what you feel will make you most happy when looking back. One thing that kinda motivated me to have a wedding was the fact that I was going to be relocating the next day. So it made sense to let everyone see us off as husband and wife. If that hadn’t been the case we probably would have eloped.

Post # 14
234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@mukai:  that looks so nice!!

Post # 15
29 posts
  • Wedding: October 2013

I vote ELOPE

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