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We are almost the same as for date-wise. Engaged in November and getting married in September. I thought we had missed the engagement party window.. thought it would be too late. BUT his dad just got back from overseas so really that would be a good excuse to have waited....
I think it's okay to host your own! Or, do you have any bridesmaids/groomsmen that would be willing to host it? Maybe you could hint around to them that you'd really like to have an engagement party, maybe even ask their advice if you think it's okay to throw your own. They'll either tell you yes it's fine or they might offer to help throw you one :)
And if you have the money and you "really, really" want one, then go for it!
We hosted our own. It was very low-key, just people coming over to our house for cocktails. We informally spread the word not to bring gifts, since we were hosting it ourselves. We just wanted to celebrate with friends. It worked out well, so I think it would be fine for you to do your own. But we didn't do a lot of things that I've seen at other e-parties because we hosted. We didn't have formal invites or a cake with our names on it or anything. I figured a cake would be weird since we were the hosts. You know?
Yea, I was thinking we might do something low-key as well. Or maybe even just family and really really close friends. Both of our families have been (and still are) going through some very rough times, but I think its still important to celebrate the good things in life so we don't lose sight of them.
I think you should go for it! I really wanted one - but I ended up feeling sheepish about hosting my own. In retrospect, I really wish I would have.. it would have been a great way to celebrate and start introducing people to each other (people who will see each other throught the course of our engagement...)
I think it's fine to host your own if you really want an engagement party. But is it really necessary? If you budget out all your wedding costs you might realize that you want to spend the money elsewhere, say towards the DJ or honeymoon. Just a thought. But hey, if you want an engagement party then by all means, have yourself an engagement party! =)
@KatyLovesJoey: I think either way, it's okay to have an engagement party, whether you host or your parents. Our engagement party was hosted by my FI's parents and my parents helped out with the food costs.
When i get engaged if someone doesnt host one for me I will for sure host my own. Maybe have one of the bridesmaids do the cake so its not like your congratulating yourself you know.
Don't lose site about what this is about. Etiquette is fine but don't get swept away in it. This isn't 1940. : )
My fiancé & I are planning our own engagment party. We have both been married before so we are older and more independent finacially.
The party is simply a way to celebrate getting engaged with those close to you. If you want to have one , have one.
Great saying.... Those who mind don't matter. Those who matter don't mind.
Focus on celebrating this great moment of your life & do what makes you happy as long as you aren't hurting anyone you are good!! : )
Hi there! I feel your pain - my FH and I are paying for the wedding on our own. We did have an engagement party, but only for our wedding party and their dates. There were about 20 people there total. We went to a really fun, BYOB sushi place and we paid a total of approximately $500.00. So nothing too expensive and it was a lot of fun! You could even have a pitch in dinner or something like that at your house/apt to bring down costs.
@fireNice: Excellent point!! We're not getting married until October 2013, so I thought it would be nice to get everyone together now...
we sort of hosted our own party. The FMIL basically made us have one and said she would help us pay for it. She basically just got us the alcohol. At the end with gifts in presents the engagement party paid for itself. You can do semi casual one. My one friend had a semi formal one at her backyard. Her mom and dad cooked the food on the grill and it was a great time!
we sort of hosted our own party. The FMIL basically made us have one and said she would help us pay for it. She basically just got us the alcohol. At the end with gifts in presents the engagement party paid for itself. You can do semi casual one. My one friend had a semi formal one at her backyard. Her mom and dad cooked the food on the grill and it was a great time!
We hosted our own engagement party but it turned out to be more of dinner and game night, which was just fine for us. We had a great time and it wasn't expensive at all.
If you want to save you could even have a potluck type party. While it isn't as formal I always love trying new foods.
We're hosting our own, as well, this coming Saturday. We're poor college/recently graduated college students, but we're having a verrry casual, potluck lunch. I work at a hotel, so I can use the ballroom for free. That combined with not having to foot out for all the food is the only way we'd be able to have it. FMIL has been very helpful and she's helping to make a lot of the food. It can be done cheaply, like said before, it's just a reason to celebrate the step that you're taking with your FI, whatever with etiquette :)
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FI and I got engaged in November of 2011. We are looking at an October 2013 wedding. I really, really want to have an engagement party. HOWEVER, my parents are broke. Like broker than broke. They are divorced and each of them just lost their respective houses to forclosure. Mom is unemployed and Dad is out on disability because he had a stroke. I've been living with mom, helping her out, for the past 1.5 years, but Dad's issues are all recent (or recent to me, anyway).
So FI and I know that we're paying for the wedding - its just a given. I know that it's "traditional" for the POB (or, at least, someone OTHER than the bride and groom) to throw the engagement party, but it's not looking like anyone will be doing that for us.
Is it okay to host our own engagement party? Did you host your own? Any suggestions?