Post # 1
My fiance and I are divided as to whether or not to exchange gifts on our wedding day. I say it isn’t necessary – the wedding, the rings, the party – are gifts enough and ther eis already so much emphasis put on ‘stuff’ that I would rather just receive a card that expresses how he feels than have a watch or a necklace. He feels that the wedding is so much about our guests, and that exchanging a gift, and sacrificing to save for those gifts, adds more meaning to our day. He makes twice as much as I do, and we have already agreed to buy each other our wedding bands (and we went with Tiffany). I am being stretched very thin financially, and just don’t attach meaning to another material item that may or may not get use after the wedding day. It’s a thing, and I think the wedding should be about our feelings. Curious to know how others have handled this matter…
Post # 2
We wrote cards to each other that said everything we weren’t saying in our vows. We skipped gifts and I feel that i missed out on NOTHING. The day still has a world of meaning to us without needing an extra item to remind me (that is, after all, what the rings are for). To each their own though!
Post # 3
My DH and I did not exchange gifts or cards or whatnot on the wedding day. It was enough that we were getting married! I’m with you on it, I would much rather have the emotions of that day carry us through, rather than have to exchange gifts to make it special.
Post # 4
We exchanged small gifts but we also exchanged letters. I like that letter way better than the bracelet he got me because it means a lot more to me. Would he be open to doing letters?
Post # 5
It honestly never occurred to us to exchange gifts on our wedding day. Not because we couldn’t afford it but that the whole wedding day was, itself, so magical that it didn’t need any additional symbolic gestures.
Post # 6
We aren’t doing gifts. I think it’s so “expected” now that it kind of takes away any meaning that might have once been behind it. We will be exchanging cards though and I am really excited about that- a way to capture the emotions of your wedding day on paper so you can go back and read them 20 years from now…now that’s special!
Post # 7
I had never heard of couples exchanging gifts before coming to the bee so obviously I think it is totally unnecessary and probably something thought up by the wedding industry to make even more money.
Post # 8
Toronto2014: we didnt exchange gifts. He was sweet enough to send me flowers and i left a little note for him to find when he was getting ready.
I think its totally unnecessary. We were each others “gift” which is what we told people. And the honeymoon lol. That was a gift.
Post # 9
We did very token type gifts. He got me a pandora charm and I made a thing i saw on pinterest. A deck of cards with 52 reasons I love you.
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
We didn’t exchange gifts or anything like that, it seemed really unnecessary.
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My husband and I aren’t big on physical gifts even on birthdays and such, so we definitely didn’t do physical gifts to each other for the wedding. We considered our honeymoon to be our gift to each other. And since it was more expensive than the wedding, it was definitely an amazing gift!
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
j_jaye: exchanging gifts is a fairly old tradition that wasn’t invented by the WIC. My parents and grandparents did so.
THAT SAID, OP, it’s totally unnecessary, especially if you’re already stretched thin. There is no way that exchanging gifts will make your wedding day any more memorable and special than it already will be.
Or if your husband to be really insists, I would just be honest and tell him you can’t afford anything extravagant. Are you combining finances? Maybe you can do so ahead of time and use some joint money, since you’ll share it all anyway. Or get him something smallish but thoughtful – I bought my husband a handmade monogrammed leather wallet that cost $65. He uses it every day. He got me (with a little prompting from me, ha) two rescue kittens. Not expensive, and I loooooove them so much!
Try to think outside the box – doesn’t have to be the pricey watch or jewelry or whatever to be special. Unless that’s what your guy thinks, in which case, wtf.
Post # 14
We will be exchanging gifts on our wedding day or the night before. It’s important to me to do so as I see it as a nice tradition and we are both interested in participating. Nothing more, nothing less. Just because is reason enough…
Post # 15
I’m not sure if FI has any plans to get me a card or a gift (and I definitely won’t mind at all if he doesn’t- as far as I’m concerned, the ring and his commitment to put up with my antics for the rest of his life is more than gift enough, ha!)
I’m giving him a card that will have a handwritten note inside it (and FI knows as well as anyone that the notes in my cards are more like a love letter or novel…I have the gift of gab, even when I write). I’m also giving him a small gift- cufflinks made from Winchester bullet casings. He’s really into sport shooting and hunting, plus I figure he can wear them at the wedding.